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The Anxiety Club (continued) !

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mooseloose · 17/07/2009 21:45

Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

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YommyMommy · 18/10/2009 13:22

Hi Girls,

Just posting so that I can be the first on to use hallowe'en faces LOVE IT!!!

How is everyone?? I am good, was out most of the day yesterday visiting the family n stuff! Since i suffered with anxiety I haven't been too great on visiting due to scared I have a panic and embarrassing myself infront of family . My family are pretty close and I feel bad about that! So had a good day yesterday, visiting my Granda n Gran!

Today I am having a day in the house with the boys. Its raining out - so depressing after all the nice weather we were having!!! I have a bit of a sore throat n DS1 has a cold, so think everyone is happy to chill today!

BTP - Glad DS is back to himself! Keep us updated! Kids bounce back so much more quickly, don't you think???

Hope everyone else is having a nice weekend!

x x x Too much time on my hands - LOL x x x

blissa · 18/10/2009 13:28

I am glad that everything is going ok following the op Greyskull. He sounds like a very brave little boy .

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend.

It has got very cold here and we have finally put the heating on! Our house has very little insulation and so the heating isn't very effective anyway, but it's warmed up a bit. Dp rigged up a curtain yesterday between the dining room and the living room to stop any drafts.

I've been to Tesco this morning, haven't been for a couple of weeks and the cupboards were bare, so it was a big shop- lots of money!

I saw my first Christmas advert on TV last night . I know I've started my shopping but that's is ridiculous! The shops have mince pies, etc in. It gets earlier every year, makes me a bit sad really. Doesn't seem so special when all the decorations and bits have been around since October.

blissa · 18/10/2009 13:30

Oo I forgot about the halloween faces

blissa · 18/10/2009 13:32

Hi Yommy

Glad you had a good day yesterday. Sounds like a good excuse to snuggle up on the sofa and watch a film!

mumof2000 · 19/10/2009 17:34

Hello all , how is everyone doing ?

Good to here your DS op went ok Greyskull...

Def colder now , Just put heating on ...been holding out but is to cold now ...

Went shopping with DD and MIL ...brought my DD and DS a few bits to take away with them, feeling a little calmer about them going now , had long chat with my in-laws who havw said ho there looking forward to going and will take good care of them , the children are soooo excited ,and DH and i are looking forward to spending some time with each other , may evon get him to come and do some crimbo shopping while there away ...saw some good ideas for children when i went yesterday .

Still on little mouth watch but the first bit def faded a bit and think ulcer going got some of that iglu stuff , stays in place all day and hopefully healing ...

loving the halloween faces to

potatocakes · 19/10/2009 20:07

Hi everyone, I hope you all had a good weekend. I was very busy this weekend as it was my 30th birthday and I had to keep busy so as not to get too anxious about it. Dp organised a surprise party, which was a big surprise in a good way. I have had a really good day today, only anxiety first thing until about lunch time.

Yommymommy, you put three drops of the rescue remedy in a glass of water and sip it or drop them directly onto your tongue, and it is calming. I find it helps when you get real waves of panic... it could be just the drinking water helps

What is health anxiety? my anxiety stems from not feeling like I exist, but my counseller is helping me with challenging those thoughts. I hope you don't mind me asking?

mooseloose · 19/10/2009 21:22

Hi all, I am struggling with a migraine since yest, its a bit better today but my eyes hurt! So I'll come by tomorrow, as another early night is calling x

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blissa · 20/10/2009 10:26

Hi moose, hope your head is feeling better today. Migraines are the worst. My last one was on Christmas day a couple of years ago, they are nasty.

Happy belated birthday potatocakes . How lovely of your dp to organise a party! I hope you had a good day. Health anxiety, from my point of view, is worrying about your health. Worrying that something is more serious than it is, like having a headache but thinking it could be a tumour or a haemorrage, that kind of thing. How long have you been seeing your counsellor for?

Have you been back to the dentist mumof2000? I'm glad you are feeling better about things. Sounds like you ha fun with your mil yesterday. Bet your dcs can't wait to go on holiday!

blissa · 20/10/2009 10:34

Have been poking my leg a bit and now it is tingling . It isn't red, or swollen or anything, so I really must leave it alone! Just looked at some pictures of the nerves in the leg and they do run right through the areas that I am tingling so that has reassured me a bit.

Had a chat with dp the other night (with the help of a couple of glasses of wine) about whether I should make another appointment with the counsellor. We've not really talked about it until now. He said he doesn't think about what happened and that he doesn't understand how a counsellor can help. It's my conscience (sp?) that I am fighting with.

Hope all is well with you Yommy and that the coughs and colds are clearing up. Ds has gone into school with a lovely bump on his head after he was messing around with dd2 this morning and fell and banged his head.

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 21/10/2009 09:58

hi ladies,
hope you are all having a good week, Blissa I hope you have stopped pockingyour leg!! I think to be honest you have to do what is right for you and if you feel another appointment with your counsellor would help then you should do it.. they will help you fight your conscience if that is what the problem is.

Moose hope you're feeling better, I get migraines every couple of months, they seem to knock out about 36-48 hours of my life. You are a star for being able to get on with things.

Happybelated birthday Potatocakes.. & big waves to Mumof2000

DS2 is ok, I have managed to get myself into a fizz, because he has had a couple of nightmares the last few nights and I have convinced myself that the anaesthetic wasn't good enough and he can remember them doing it operation (silly I know) we are able to manage his pain quite well he is just after lots and lots of snuggles.
I am ok but could really do with more sleep!

ellieloooooooooooooween · 21/10/2009 14:16

Hi all, thanks for the warm welcome
Glad your DS is ok btpog your name makes me laugh when I was little and my DSis even littler he man and she ra were on the tv alot and my Dsis would run about pulling a pretend sword out of her back shouting by the power of greyskull I am SHE RA lol.
potatocakes IMO health anxiety is when you think you are going to be ill and are scared of being ill for instance if you have a sore arm or leg or a bit of wind the sensible way of thinking would be it will pass but instead, you start thinking hmm is this a dvt or cardiac chest pain or PE or something life threatening IYSWIM, thats my experience of it anyway. And I have to tell you this whole swine flu and vaccine problem not helping lol.
Glad your mouth is a bit better mumof2000.
My DH is away now for a month this is when I start having too much time to think about things and get in a tizz so need to keep busy

ellieloooooooooooooween · 21/10/2009 14:18

mooseloose hope your head is better migraines are awful.
blissa hope your leg is ok.

blissa · 21/10/2009 18:51

What does your dh do ellieloo? There are a couple of us on here whose hubbys/partners work away. Mine does occasionally, but there has been no work for him lately.

Hope you get a good night sleep tonight greyskull. Is it tomoorow you go back to the hospital with ds?

I went to see the dr this morning! I was winding myself up so thought I'd get some reassurance. He wasn't too sure what it is, but doesn't think it's anything serious. He said if it was a clot (which he says it isn't) it would be a superficial one and no danger.

My leg has been tingling like mad ever since he had a good poke at it. I asked what could be done about it and he said apart from an MRI scan, not a lot. And it isn't affecting my life enough to warrant one of them so, I just have to get on with it!

Hi to everyone else xx

ellieloooooooooooooween · 21/10/2009 19:22

Hi Blissa
He works on a drilling vessel off the coast of India month on month off, Hows the leg and where is it tingling?

potatocakes · 21/10/2009 20:00

Hi everyone, hope you are all having a good week

I have been seeing my counsellor for a month, she has just started helping me with cbt... whenever I get an unwelcome thought or start thinking inwardly too much I have to flick an elastic band on my wrist and think of something else, I tried it today and seemed to work okay.

Health anxiety seems to be really scary, are your drs quite understanding? whatever I go about they always say it's just anxiety and tell me to go back on antidepressants

blissa · 21/10/2009 20:23

OO quite away away then! My leg is tingling on the inside of my thigh atm. But it often goes from my bum down to under my foot, tis annoying, but I am trying wine to numb it now

Glad that technique worked for you today potatocakes. My dr isn't too great on understanding the anxiety, when I went back to him a few months ago with tingling and tightness across my chest, crying and beeging to be referred for counselling, he told me to go home and take some co-codomol (sp?). He did refer me in the end, and he's seen me a lot over the past few months and so we've built up a bit of an understanding

ellieloooooooooooooween · 21/10/2009 21:15

potatocakes I had cbt for my panic attacks it worked quite well you just need to find something to break the cycle the elastic band sounds good though. My GP was lovely he never made me feel silly for going for reassurance just put my mind at rest really and showed me how to put things in perspective.
blissa the wine is a good idea thinking of having one myself, you havent tweeked a nerve in your back have you? I did this a few months ago and it felt a bit the way you are describing, try not to worry about it. I realised a while ago that all the time I spent worrying jst after DD1 was time I didnt spend enjoying her IYSWIM(I still worry though but not so much).
When I worried about something I would go all quiet and bad tempered so my DH always knew when something was bugging me.
Have just sat down its been tipping it down here and got soaked doing the school run, I then got tea ready washed up spilt 4 pints of milk all over the kitchen had to clean that up, then DD1 had to go to dancing so got soaked again. DD2 decided she didnt want to sleep tonight either so she has just gone down so yes blissa will join you with the wine

mooseloose · 21/10/2009 21:25

I have a dh who goes away too - 7 weeks this summer.

Head just getting better - today is the first day. Ds was at hosp Tues and I think that was part of problem. His arm is fine and growing, but I came out and cried, and when i went into work I couldnt speak and was all panicky. I stuck it out, despite wanting to cry all the hour!

Blis is it sciatica? I have had that after ds born, and it is truly hell!

We are going on hol tomorrow teatime to Turkey , so I wont be on for a few days x

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blissa · 22/10/2009 12:48

Oi moose you kept that quiet . You lucky things. Great news about ds's arm, you had probably built up a lot of tension hence the headache, well done for sticking it out at work. Sciatica was suggested that time I went to A&E, but never really had a fromal diagnosis. Have a fanatastic, relaxing holiday

How was the wine ellieloo? Sounds like you needed it! My rush around evenings are mondays and tuesdays getting dd1 to dancing and brownies, so by wednesday I am knackared! I get like that when I am worrying, it's hard to focus on anything else so I just do the basics and don't really talk. Am managing to keep this leg thing under control though.

It is still there today, but not any worse. I've been into town this morning trying to get some clothes for both dds, they desperatley need some, but there was nothing. They are both off school tomorrow, but ds is in pre-school so I might take them shopping in another town and have a girly morning

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 22/10/2009 13:21

afternoon all,
just checking in, hope you have a good shopping trip blissa and moose!!! can I come pleaseeeeeeee

anyway..
going to take DS1 to speech therapy and our babysitter has pulled out due to illness so I am taking ds2 with us.. no idea how it will work but we have no choice

YommyMommy · 22/10/2009 16:50

Afternoon ladies!

Glad you are all sounding well!

Blissa - def think the leg thing could be a trapped nerve in you back, my uncle suffers with his back a lot and it always affects his legs.

I have been pretty busy this week which has kept anxiety at bay! We are on mid term so have been just getting out and about. Had a lovely afternoon up at my friends house so the boys are both sleeping in the car! Have to wake them at 5 for DS2 will never go down tonight! He has been bad enough as it is lately

Moose - enjoy the hols! Are you okay with flying etc?? I must admit I would love to go away, but the anticipation of having a panic would put me off . Anyone else feel that way??? Dam u anxiety!!!

Anyone been watching true blood?? Its really good

ANyway, just wanted to check in! Hope you are all well!!!

x x x

blissa · 22/10/2009 19:17

oo I've just had a really crappy evening with ds, not had one of those in a while. I've been hit, head butted and had things thrown at me. In the end the rest of his dinner went in the bin, he had a quick shower and I put him to bed. It has taken an hour for him to settle, but he has finally!

Glad you've had a nice day yommy. I hate flying and the thought of it puts me off going anywhere. I'd love to go to lots of different places- if they could just beam me there I'd be happy! Haven't heard of true blood, been watching masterchef. I picked up Twilight when I was in Waterstones this morning, but ended up buying books for the dcs instead. I am nearly finished a Martina Cole book atm (gave up on Jane Austen)

blissa · 22/10/2009 19:18

How did the speech therapy go Greyskull? Hope you are all ok

mumof2000 · 23/10/2009 08:24

Morning all

Sorry havent been around for a while been busy getting things ready for childrens trip ...had another bout with my Father he came round to my house ...i thought he may be coming to appologise for the things he had said to me regarding the trip ...but no another lecture on me being bad and how he still cant believe im letting them go ...i again said very little going back in my shell like a naughty little girl again ...(cross with myself for doing that )
but im one of these people who hates confrontation and if i ever do i always worry about the other person in this case like if i had a big row would dad be ok what if he had a heart attack on the way home bought on from our row ...etc things lkie that ...(in other words im a total whimp ..)

So very emotional week ... they go tomorrow afternoon and im taking them to the air port dont know how im not going to cry ...as im so emotional and feel very anxtious abouth everything , worried about my face now to although i saw mole clinic 3 weeks ago worried they may have missed something as i had make up on...also this swein flu now worrying me .....

I think everythings just getting on top of me and this is when my anx gets worse ....GOT TO KEEP BUSY ....

The kids are sooo excited to be going and i really know my inlaws will look after them as i said they have a good bond with them and know them so well ,and will be nice for me and DH to have some time together ...going to go out for a nice meal sat night ...

Anyway enough about me .... going on and on .

How is every one els ?

BLISSA.. How is your leg now ? andd soory your DS was giving you the run around last night ...

POTATOECAKES ..How are you , how are you finding the CBT , i have a book tha im reading on that .May help my HA...

YOUMMYMUMMY , Im with you on anx for travel , hense c im not going away with DC ... I hate flying anx goes through the roof ...however after 2 double G&Ts things look a bit different although istill hate it ...im the same incars hate to be driven ..

Hope everyone els is ok ..

Thanks for listening to me go on again
xxx

blissa · 23/10/2009 19:49

I'm sorry you've had more aggro from your dad mumof2000, I hope you're ok. I always feel very anxious before my dcs have gone away, but they always come back having had a fantasic time! Enjoy your time while they are away-it will fly

Legs been a bit better today. Had a lovely shopping trip with the girls, although I really do worry about dd2s taste in fasion

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