The Anxiety Club (continued) !

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Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

morning all ..

how is everyone doing ?

mouth update ...think its going looks alot fainter now so feeling a bit calmer ...

due to see dentist again on Tuesday see what he says ...but im sure it looks as though its going ...

off to work now so hope to have a better day ..

catch up later xxxx

Morning Ladies,

Mumof2000 - So glad to hear that mouth seems to be clearing up now!!!

Potatocakes also glad to hear you are also feeling a bit better too!

I am feeling okay this morning Had a wonderful day at DS's nursery yesterday too

Need to get a move on and tidy my house as I have friends coming down this afternoon! Not sure how much DS2 is going to let me get done as he is in a bad mood, lol!

Hope everyone else is well!

x x x

Afternoon ladies

Could your anxiety be up because of your dh going away again Yommy? Glad you've had a better couple of days. Enjoy your afternoon and I hope ds2 is in a better mood

Yay mumof200! So glad to hear your mouth is finally clearing up.

Welcome potatocakes. I hope you are having another ok day today. The way I try and kepp the negative thoughts away is just to keep busy, works most of the time!

Well I have had to listen to some of my own advice! I found a lump in the back of my ride knee above the crease on the left hand side, where all the tendons and things are and where it is quite lumpy. There is one on the other side, just slightly higher up.

I know it isn't a clot, it isn't painful, red or swollen (I only felt it when I ran my hands up my legs in the bath the other day) and it's similar on the other sidee. But I keep feeling it and poking it- MUST STOP! And my sciatica is playing up on that side too

My house absolutely stinks of vinegar! I spent most of my day yesterday making chutney, and the smell is hard to get rid of!

Ds had a visit from the fire brigade at pre-school this morning and has come home full of how he got to go in the fire engine and all the equipment they had!

Got parents evenings for both dds tonight

Hope all goes well today Greyskull. Thinking of you xx

hi ladies,
am in hospital with DS2, he is fine, went to sleep really peacefully before his op. and since waking a couple of hours ago he has eaten 2 big bowls of rice krispies.!!!

I think he is going to be fint

Arr thats good news greayskull...how are you ?

Thanks ladies for good wishes ...

How is everyone doing ?
Glad sons nursery day went well yommy .

Blissa, How are you feeling now ?how PE goes ok got m 2 next week .
I also had a worry about lumps behind my knee , kind of puffy bits , and i thought one side was raised more than the other , went to doc and said was normal ,as similar on both , try not to worry and check ( says she who has been looking in her gob constantly for the last 2 weeks ) as you know checking makes you more anxtious .

Had a better day today ....not to much mouth checking ...def got bit better

need to get on top of this anxiety ....thinking of writting myself a kind of daily time table , to keep my busy and not to much time for worry/anxiety and mind talk

ie.. walk dogs , go to yoga class of another class, shopping , cook tea , etc what do you think ?
has anyone els tried something like this ?
or another thought is to write lists ? someone told me this is good for planning and keeping things in order so mind stays focused ...

any ideas welcome , got to try something ...

xx

Glad everything went well Greyskull. How long will your ds be in hospital? Great that you can MN from there!

Good to hear you've had a good day mumof2000. Writing things down works for me, I now have a note book with the jobs I need to do for each day wriiten in it. It keeps me organised and I find I have more time to do other things other than housework. And I feel less stressed that things don't get done.

Parents evenings went really well, the girls have settled into the new year brilliantly, so I am very pleased with them.

I now have a nasty headache, which so far paracetamol hasn't touched, so I am going to have something to eat, watch Masterchef and go to bed

xx

well!!!!!
we were supposed to be in overnight, but bouncing on the bed and running round telling jokes to the nurses has convinced them that he should be home tonight so we came home about an hour ago.

I will sleep in my own bed tonight.

will check in with you all more tomorrow, am pooped so will be having an early night.

Evening Ladies,

BTP - So glad to hear DS is doing so well! Glad you are home and will get to sleep in own bed You also sound a little happier??

Blissa - Well done to your DG's!! You must be so proud of them!!! And DS's visit from Fire men sounds brilliant! My DS would love something like that at nursery!

Mumof2000 - hope the new pkan woarks for you! I have a pretty good routine going when DH is away so it keeps me pretty busy most fo the day! I just get a much house work done as I can in the morning after I drop DS at nursery, then it allows me to take them out in the afternoon and I have a busy time over tea time most days before I know it I have arrived at DS2's bed time (8pm)and I have some me time - Woo Hoo!

I am pretty tired tonight, been up since 4.30 this morning and couldn;t really get back to sleep.

DS2 is being a little monkey tonight and is not wanting to go to sleep - he hasnlt really taken any milk either so will no doubt be up about 12 - 1 looking for it! Happy Days!

Never mind - kids have a week off next week -mid term! Are your lot off too??

Hope everyone else is well!
x x x

Hi everyone, thank you for the suggestion of keeping busy. i just have to find something to keep busy doing

I had a great morning but I have deteriorated a bit towards the evening, too much time to think about nothing. Sitting down with some rescue remedy in water at the moment.

I hope everyone has a good evening

Hi ladies, can I join in the chat?
A bit about me, I have always been a worrier but things came to a head after I had DD1 I started having panic attacks and became very depressed about it, I was a shadow of the person I was, I had ad's and CBT for about a year and made alot of progress but still worry alot about silly little things that would not have bothered me before, I can relate to alot of your posts, like if I have a pain in my chest it wont be something simple like wind I think its a heart attack or a PE (am a nurse which prob makes me think about things alot more), anyhoo am enjoying life just now but if anything is wrong with me it does knock me back abit and my DH works away a month at a time. I have 2 DD's DD1 is 5 and DD2 is nearly 1 I love them so much it hurts sometime .

welcome elliloo...

corse you can join in ,ladies on here are really nice , made me feel very welcome a few weeks back it does help to talk to others who really understand i think ..

I suffer with health anxiety have done for 3 years and it goes in waves really some good days some bad ...

ok at moment but still a little anx ...trying to keep busy as not to get me thinking ...

I have 2 DC and i know hat you mean about loving them soooo much ....mine are going away with grandparents half term for a few days ..i reall dont know how im going to cope ...there so excited and will have a greaat time ...but trying not to think about it just yet ..

Thanks Mumof2000 I have my halloween name just now
Its health anxiety I get as well its crap but have more good days than bad just now, I know what you mean about keeping busy I do that and try to keep away from google.

Morning all ,

bit anx today as found a little ulcer in mouth ...think ??? woll put some cream on it and hope it goes ...prob from all the poking iv been doing over the past week or so ...other thing has just about gone ...[smile ] this is differant place ...

anyway will try keep busy today as dont want mind to wonder ....

Dog walk first
pet shop .
Body balance class .
Tescos shop grrrrrrr
home to un pack and quick tidy .
Collect kids from school.
cook tea

Thats as far as iv got ....so hope not to google ...grrrr

hope everyone els ok , and have a good day

xx

Morning Ladies,

Welcome to Elliwooooo...love the name, big fan of Hallowe'en!!!Can't wait to go get my pumpkin - think I'll get two this year - one each for DS's!

Mumof2000 - Can;t believe you now have an ulcer - probably brought on by all the stress of last week. I haven't had one for a while but I mostly find that I get them and coldsores when I am run down! Just keep an eye on it, but not too much checking

Potatocakes - does theRR actually work?? Is it something you take of just something you smell?? Hope it helped, did ur afternoon pass okay???

BTP - how is DS today??

Blissa - How are you today?? How are the lumps? Are you still worrying about them? Have you anything nice planned for today??

Our weekend/midterm has started early. DS1 has a cough and he was cough, cough, coughing til about 1.30 this morning so I just decided to keep him of today. It doesn't sound like its coming from his chest, been giving him a cough bottle but it doesn't seem to be working. Will see if I can get another from the chemist today and see how he is through the day/tonight. Going to have a relaxing morning then hopefully go out soemwhere this afternoon. It going to be lovely again here today by the looks of things

Hope everyone else is well!
Speak soon x x x

bad again .....
back fro dog walk ...worry worry now about my mouth again ...white ulcer thing in bone inside lower left teeth kind f in inner gum if know what i mean ...worried may be something els again ....put some cream on and hope it will go .. gong to see dentist monday regarding other thing that has now gone ...
but i guess if was something bad MC would it come so quickly or maybe just sore from me checking ...dont want to loose control again...

Another issue as did say my mum/dad IL taking our DC for4 days away to Portugal , special treat , i conpleatly trust them as have always been there for us , live only min away and big part of childrens life , so i didnt have any concernes ..TILL now just had total bollucking from my father ... telling me how irasposable i am ...and how he cant believe im letting them out of my site , what if this what if that ...now im in tears worry have i done bad thing ....

MY parents have little to do with my children as there not that kind of people , (divorced) my father total control freak and wants things his way ...tells kids off at times when not his pace to ..my Dc ok with him but they dont see him much , because my dad eaten up with jelousey as my inlaws are around and together, kind of how he wanted things to be ..but he messed up by having an affair .....

MY mum is ok tries her best but loves the bottle more than seeing kids if you know what i mean and im afraid cant be trusted to look after DC alone ...she has partner to ...
so all a bit of a me which is why i see alot of inlaws as they are kind , and help full and really put them selves out for children and us ...

feeling worried and down now not sure what to do
DH at work cant tell him to much as he and my dad dont see eye to eye as is ..and he will call him up i bet and tell him to but out ...

thanks for listening

Hi Mumof2000,

How dare your Dad make you feel this way!!! I think you are doing the right thing letting your kids go away! If they are happy then thats the main thing! I don;t think you are being irresponsible at all, as you say you totally trust M/FIL so I see no problem with them taking the kids away with them! Not to mention the fact that its nice for us mums to have a well earned break! You sould like a brilliant mum to me, so tell your Dad to get stuffed!

As for the mouth thing, MC wouldn;t come up over night? Mouth ulcers can come up anywhere in your mouth!! Put bonjela on and if it stings the hell out of it - then its an ulcer

Hope you are okay - what age are your DC, you probably said before but I have a terribel memory, lol!

x x x

Oooo mumof2000 I am cross on your behalf. Your Dad had no right having a go at you like that. They are your dcs and it is up to you and your dh whether or not they go away with PIL. You are NOT irresponsible. My PIL have taken my dcs away for a week at a time in the past. Your dcs will love it and as Yommy says you can have a break!

Your Dads jealousy is not your problem or your fault. He cannot take it out on you, that is not fair. Keep to your plans and if your Dad doesn't like it, that is his concern.

As for your mouth, it does sound like an ulcer. Monday isn't that far away, I'm sure your dentist will reassure you

(((hug)))

How is ds1 Yommy? Poor little thing, it's awful when they're up coughing in the night. Where are you off to this afternoon? My legs are pretty much the same as they've ever been. I really think it's just my paranoia. I think the lumps have always been there, I just haven't really paid much attention before. Still have lots of tingling form the sciatica though

Bet you were over the moon that you didn't have to stay overnight Greyskull. How is ds today? Can I ask what the op was for?

Hope you are ok today potatocakes

Welcome ellielooo (love halloween, can't think of a decent name though, have the same problem with Christmas too). I suffer from health anx too and can totally relate to what you say about your chest. Hope you are having a good day

I've been shopping this morning, just got home with time to MN wash my hair, scoff a baked potato and hoover before I pick ds up)

(wiping away tears ) thanks ladies for messages (((hug)))) just got back from tescos , and pet shop didnt feel like doing my class after talking with my father ..

YOu are both right , iv been thinking im a 37 y old woman and there OUR children and we love them more than life itself and would never never let them do anything that we were unsure about , my in laws are great they totally adore the children and have always been a huge part of there life , holidays every year , christmas etc etc ...
many many occasions when through the years if iv been ill and needed help shes always there and if the children are ill with bug , sickness shes first inline to come and visit them and give them a nana hug ....when my mother would never do that ,to frightened she would catch it .....like i said she has other issues .

But my dad has always been a control freak , ,always wanted to control me as a child , with boyfriends etc relationship boarderline with my DH and weve been together 12 years .....
i remember when we told him i was PG with DD1 10 years ago he said then we were both irisposable bla bla (because we wernt married ) where as my Inlaws were thrilled concerned about the wedding but congratulated us all the same .. wedding was panned and still went ahead 4 weeks after DD was born...

i get upset as he doesnt really know how upset i am and my anxiety issues i have ....culd quite poss be why im like i am ....

spoke to DH hes working near by (builder) he was very cross and wanted to call him there and then ...said uch what you have ...going to talk about it later and see what to do ..

i will talk to my MIL later to as shes having DD for sleepover tonight ..

thank you for advice i really needed to here some support and that im not a bad mummy ...feeling tearfull and confused, but listening to you all and will talk to MIL and DH later will help me feel better about things

tank you xx

I ment to say .. my DH and my dad have borderline relationship... not me and DH ..we are fine ...hes just text me (dh) not happy about how my dad spoke to me at all thinks hes a bully and wants to call him later ...[shock ]

Oh mumof2000 you are not a bad mummy at all. I'm not surprised that your dh is angry about the way your Dad spoke to you.

Hope you are feeling ok xx

morning all,
thanks for your support about DS2's op, the major panic has now gone and we are looking to tuesday - thursday to make sure he is definately ok. Apparently there is a reasonable chance of a bleed on those days which would mean he had to go back into hospital. poor lad, I am going to be checking every sneeze, and cough for drops of blood.

Mumof2000 i don't believe anyone who has the ability to questioin their parenting skills can be a bad parent, the only parents who seem to get it majorly wrong with the children tend to be the ones who really believe they are in the right all the time. Sounds like you have a great support network around you to help you deal with your father.. we all need to hear the voice of reason when our parents talk to us as if we are still small children under their control.

I hopeyou have been feeling a bit better the last few days..

Blissa how you getting on?

and big Hi to everyone I have misssed, I will get back here properly soon, I promise.

DS2 is cheery as long as he is dosed up to the eyeballs, and we had another good nights sleep last night so that in itself is going to be helping him. Got to go and finish cleaning... back soon