The Anxiety Club (continued) !

[mooseloose]

Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

Awe Mumof2000,

Sorry to hear things are so rotten at your end!!!! Come on here and moan all you like we have all been in the same position as you!!! A few years ago I ended up having to go off sick from work and everytime I spoke to HR or my boss all I done was cry!!! I promise you it will get better as you learn to rationalise things in your head. No one will be getting fed up of you...you hit the nail in the head when you said that people can;t understand how i'll you are when phisically you look a picture of health!!!

I hope the show goes okay this morning! I am the same as you - nothing like kids crying to set you off! lol! I am dreading the christmas show's , etc!

I really hope you start to feel better soon {{{{hugs for you}}}}

Hi to everyone else, hope you are all well!

x x x

Thanks yommy {{hugs}}}} back from play still feel crap so emotional ....didnt cry at church though ....

am tear full at the slightest thing .....and just finished period so cant blame that ..

just so worried i have MC ....
the white spot thing still there ......just finding it hard to keep perspective on it all right now , i must remember what dentist said ....

sorry another rant thank s to you all for listening to me ....i dont want to get anyone els down ...

right mst try take mind off it for a while clean house as DD ha friend coming for tea and dont want house and me to be a wreck ....going to cook roast dinner for them all ...

hope every one els ok , xxxxx

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Sorry you're having a crappy day mumof2000.

No one can really understand what you are going through unless they have been there themselves. Anxiety is very frustrating in that way, for us as sufferers and our partners, friends and family.

You say there has been no change in your mouth, that is GOOD. Is it possible you catch it without realising and therefore keep aggravating it, so that it isn't healing as quickly.

Another thing I've noticed is that as we get older, our bodies take longer to heal. I can have a cut on my hand that will take a couple of weeks to heal completely. I don't know how old you are but that come have something to do with it too.

Please keep in mind what the dentist said, if he thought it was anything to worry about he would have referred you there and then.

Did the dentist mention the possibiltity of a mucocele at all? (it's not a scarey link)

How are you Yommy? Hope you've had a good day. How is ds2s cold?

Dp and I went Christmas shopping this morning! Spent ages in a huge toy department, could have spent a fortune, but we didn't. Got the main present that the dcs are having between them and I also bought the jars I need to make the chutneys. So next week I shall mostly be chutney making. If I haven't started by wednesday shout at me

Thanks blissa, you talk sense iv had such a bad day , worse in morning ...bit calmer now ..
im 37 and have DC 9 and 7 they and my DH are the best things in m life and i love them so much ...

i looked on link thank you , may be something like that , it just looks like a white small spot/ulcer but not an ulcer as not sore ....hmmm i have to magnifie it to see it very clear as quite small ,but can see with out although could miss it if not looking for it ..im just being paranoid about it and everything is getting out of proportion ...
just want it to go ......

sounds like you had a nice day xmas shoping , havent started mine yet ...must do some soon as times ticking ...

And your right about people not understanding to well although my DH does try ...then i feel guilty as he has enough to do with his work , without worrying about me ....

how is everyone els doing ?

xxxxxx

Hi all, will catch up with posts in a tic. Been out every night this week - boys had things on - footie, cubs, homework! So not hardly been online at all other than to check my emails.

Mumof2000 I had a big problem too with the fact that I dodn't look ill - not like a broken arm to actually see. My counsellor talked to me a lt about it.Things will get easier, I didn't believe they would, but they do. I never believed the day would come when I didn't physically shake from head to toe ALL day, but I am mostly ok now, but it does take a while. It's coming up to a year since I first became ill.

x

Just caught up, quickly. Hello newbies.

Sorry to hear you are not good Grey, come and pop in for cyberhugs if you need them. Just remember that things cn't get any worse. Give yourself time, and be gentle with yourself x

morning all , bit calmer over weekend , kids keeping me busy , but always at back of mind ...my mouth , which hasnt changed , gone or got bigger ...i dont think it will , if it is scar tissue will it just stay there i wonder ?
DH trying best to cheer me up ...havent told him bout my mouth worry as hes had enough last wekend with my mole worry ...

how is every one els doing ?xx

going out later to see that film up ! with kids that should be good for taking mind off things to .

hi all, just checking in, am still here, sorry not being very good anxiety friend, just tryign to get through each day, turns out that DH is very stressed about work and we have had a long chat and he is going to have to back of some of the support stuff he is doing in the house, as he is going to be spending very long hours at work for the next 5 weeks. I have to step up to the plate. I am trying to get back into flylady stuff as it breaks things down into small chunks, I have set up a Sainsbury's delivery to come tomorrow and planned a couple of easy meals as DH has been doing most of the cooking for the last month or so.
Am seeing my lady tomorrow so may get some more coping strategies from her.

Hi greyskull firstly ((((hug )))) sorry to here your not having such a good time ..
can i ask what flylady means ? not heard of this before.

well done for getting food delivery one of the things i hate doing , always to busy and lots of people ...

hope you feel bit better soon xxx

We watched a programme this morning about the making of Up mumof2000, looks fantastic! Mine really want to see it now. Enjoy yourself at the pictures.

Sounds like you both have a lot on atm Greyskull. It's good that you sat and talked with your dh. I think planning is the key, I always feel a lot less stressed and more in control of things when I have plans and lists!

I have fallen off the fledgling flyers wagon big time! The thread is just huge and moves too fast, I can't keep up with it. I kind of know the basics and have written myself a control journal based on one of the other flyers one. If I stick to that my house should be pretty easy to keep in order.

Good to see you moose, You've been busy!

Dp has taken ds out for a little while so I've been playing with the girls and making a start on dinner. When they get back we're off to the park.

Dear Mumof2000 and Greyskull, I'm sorry things aren't too good. I know what it's like to worry about one's health, Mum, it's very hard to simply switch off. Have you ever tried cognitive behavioural therapy? I'm having it at the moment and hopefully it will help, it did after the miscarriage last year. All the best to you all xx

morning all ..

How is every one ? how you doing Greyskull?

Little calmer weekend busy with children took mind off mouth a little ....

back on mouth watch now ...still no change ...

mouette , have tried CBT a little but not much ,sorry to here of your MC last year {{{hug}}}did CBT help you ?

went to see UP yesterday with kids was very good , lots of laughing from kids they lovd it ..

xxx

Feeling a bit brighter today, just waiting to see if sainsbury's order arrives... it is the first little step towards me pulling my weight in the house.
have seen my lady this morning and managed to talk to her about some stuff that is worrying me, DS2 is having a small operation on Thursday and I have never been in hospital overnight (had the boys at home)so am very anxious about trying to sleep somewhere else will the door have a lock on it, how can I sleep knowing people could walk in at any moment?
anyway we also talked about a misunderstanding, I thought she had wanted me to put my emotions in a box so they didnt consume me, what she said was to learn to put the re-experiencing of the attack into a box so we can process it together little by little. No idea how I am supposed to do it but am going to try and practice this week.

I am so pleased to hear that UP is a good film, it is half term in a couple of weeks and I want to take the boys.

hope you are all having a good day.

Has your order arrived yet Greyskull? I hope everything goes well on thursday. DD1 had an operation when she was 3 weeks old and I was allowed to stay in a room close to the ward she was on. I don't think there was a lock on the door, but the nurses station was very close by so never really felt like anyone would just walk in.

It's difficult doing some of the things the counsellors ask us to do. I hope you manage to try it and that it helps.

Glad that you all enjoyed the film mumof2000 and that it took your mind off your mouth for a while.

I received a letter from my counsellor asking me if I want another appointment. At first I wondered if I needed to, but this morning I ended up crying on dp. I still feel very guilty and catch myself thinking about things. The counsellor has said that she can do a technique that will scramble up the memory. It won't make me forget, just take away the emotions. So far I've been reluctant to let her, but now I think maybe time

Yay, order has arrived, all put away am now enjoying a naughty bag of crisps and a coffee watching murder she wrote

Hope goes well for Thursday greyskull? be thinking of you..

Glad order has arrived , i used to do that alot but i kept getting weights wrong and ended up with wrong amounts of every thing ...

sorry you been a bit down this morning blissa maybe good to talk with counsellor about things that your thinking about , and try this technique out .

hope every one els ok

im still mouth checking ... little change there ....

xx

Eevening Ladies,

How are you all today! My weekend has just flown by, been busy out doing things with the boys! Went to see Up on friday night - very good film

I can;t really read the screen at the moment as its hurting my eyes/head! I am shattered so just poping in for a quick hello!

I will post again tomorrow, anxiety levels been okay - although woke on Saturday with a sore chest and it hung around all flaming day so only had a trip to the park, but felt horrible n came home pretty quickly!

DH is away again tomorrow He has been given work with a company that have promised him 2 weeks on 2 off, so if it comes off it will be great! None of the companies offer perminant contracts so its a bit of a pain and they can call the work off at any point!

Anyway - hope you are all well!
x x x

Up had really good reviews! Hope you all ok.
Grey I had three nights in hosp last year when ds poorly (that was was started off this merrygoround!) .

I had a camp bed that went next to ds bed. We had curtains round us, and I felt safe the whole time - but didn't sleep well. Take your slippers and comfy trackie bottoms to slob about in. And a good book. They had free tv on the kids ward (the individual ones) but it all went off at 7pm for kids watershed!

Hello
I am new here. I suffer very badly with underlying anxiety, I had extremely bad panic attacks from the age of 12 to 27 (when i got pregnant with my ds 2). I have recently got so bad with the panic attacks that I feel like I am scared to be alive. I am alienating my dp who feels like he can't make me feel better, and I am so scared that I will lose him and my son. I just want to feel better again and not like a grey cloud is sitting over my head. Some days I just feel like it would be better if I was not here, but then I get angry with myself because I think of all of the good things that have happened in my world. I just want to make everything right again. How do you deal with negative thoughts and feelings? I hope that I am posting in the right thread.

Hi potato cakes,

Welcome - You are def posting in the right place if you ae looking for support There is a great bunch of ladies on here and we'll help you through the tough days if we can!

Have you had any professional help for your anxiety?? Sounds like its pretty bad! How do you get through the panic attacks??? What brought on panic attacks age 12 (if you don;t mind me asking, tell me to mind my own if you like!) Seems like its been a way of life for you for a pretty long time! Did you stop having them when you were pregnant?? What age is DS now?

Hi to everyone else! Hope you are all well??? Had another anxieous day Not sure what the heck is up with me - not felt this bad in a long time! Made it to tesco and in the town - just to get the things I needed, but the whole time I was just thinking I wanted to get back home!

Anyway - have my sons Eco day tomorrow at nursery so we have to wear something green and ae going to plant things, paint, litter pick, blah, blah! I am looking forward to spending some with DS at his nursery Just hope I am feeling okay tomorrow!!

Speak soon x x x

Welcome potato , sorry your feeling low at moment as yommy has said your in the right pace
theses guys have been so supportive to me this past week or so , has been a real help ...

(although still mouth watching but out today so no time check and not going to i hope till morning )

Yommy , sorry your having a anx day ...has something happened to trigger it off ? well done or going to shops though planting sounds good for tomorrow , out in the fresh air and with DS ....be good therapy ...

Hope every one els ok ?

xx

Hi YommyMommy, I have had help for my anxiety in the past, I am just finding it hard to deal with the feelings recently as they have come back when I thought I was dealing with them so well. While I was pregnant I felt anxious but I knew why and then when ds was born I was so busy I had no time to feel anxious. I have very good days and then awful ones where I don't know which way is up Thankfully today was okay once it got started.

How was your son's Eco day?

Thank you for making me feel welcome how was everyone else's day?

Hi Potatocakes , glad your having an ok day ?
keeping busy is the key i think with anxiety and depression as less time for thinking and worry ...

do you take any medication ?

my doc given me some AD but not taken them yet as scared of poss side effects , and over my wave of anx at moment ..thinking im in control a bit so not sure ... until the next wave of anx comes ...

hi to everyone els to xx