The Anxiety Club (continued) !

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Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

Morning Girls,

What happenen yesterday BTP Not being nosey, just if you want to talk about it! Hope you are okay {{{{{hugs}}}}}

mumof2000 stop checking the darn mouth stern look Has anything changed with it??? Let me have a look n i'll tell you if I think you need to worry about it! Open wide Hope you day gets better and the anxiety calms down! {{{{hugs}}}}} for you too!

Welcome ESS - Congratulations on your recent marriage Sorry to hear about all the other crap stuff you have been through, and shcok at being given meds at just age 11 . I am glad you have finally found some peace with your DP in a far away land (Far away from small mind American towns that is!) Long may it last! I am sorry to hear about your Grandma. I hope things go okay when you are out in the states! Keep posting with us n well help get you through

Blissa - how are you today? Did you have a good session yesteday?

I am good today - apart from a fuzzy head - still in PMT mode. Was feeling a little paniced last night when I just went to bed, then again this morning when I came back form nursery run!

DH is back today - Woo Hoo! Feel like he has been away for ages! Think we are picking him up at the train station tonight about 7 or 8!

Hi to everyone else if you are around x x x

Morning ladies

Welcome to ESS of course we will have you! Congratulations to you and your dp. You have been through so much, I am very sorry to hear about your Grandma.

Come out of the corner and talk to us Greyskull! I'm sorry you're not feeling so good. Did you manage to find me on FB?

I'm glad your session went well yesterday Mouette. When do you see her again?

I'm going to join in with Yommy and the stern looks mumof2000. Stop checking yer gob

Bet you can't wait til this evening Yommy! How long is he home for?

I didn't make it to my session yesterday. Dd1 had stuff on and I asked dp to come home at 4 so I could go to my appointment. He text me in the afternoon saying something had come up and he wouldn't be back in time so I had to cancel it. I wouldn't have minded but what he was doing wasn't even very important. I let him know I was very pissed off with him and he has apologised.

Dd2 has a friend coming round for tea so I ave spent my morning making playdough for them to play with, baking fairy cakes and tidying up

Hi all
Welcome ESS!!!
Sorry you're not feeling great Greyskull - we're thinking of you!
Dear mumof2000, I know it's difficult, but since I've stopped checking my BP I feel better - try not to check your mouth!
Enjoy your DH yummymummy, and the tea blissa.
Am seeing my counsellor agian next Tuesday.
Off now to have lunch at the in-laws with DS - who's fast asleep. xx

Hi , back from work early ,im going to see dentist later to check mouth as anxiety through the roof ..... ( holding back the tears ) sorry ....just out of control with worry , of which i have mad i know ...[angry ]

convinced all bad bad bad ...

You are all right with advice should stop looking i know but right now i just cant ...but thank you all for advice (((hugs)))

sorry Greyskull your not so great at moment to xx

hope every one els having an ok day .
xx

Awe Mumof2000,

Hope you are okay!!! So sorry if I offended you earlier on my post, I was just trying to amke light of the situation!! So soory if I took it too far Hope the dentist can put your mind at rest!!!

Come back on and let us know how you get on!

{{{{{more hugs}}}}}

x x x

Please dont worry yommy , you did not offend or upset me at all , was good advice ..

but im just crap at doing all the things i should do at the moment .....
cant get it out of my head self checking all the time ...grrrrr
the only ay i will stop s to get it checked out ...on monday i wasnt aware of it at all busy worrying about my moles ... now this .. what will it be next ....

Its not the answer i know to keep seeking reasurance all the time i need to find way to cope and not be like this ....what i dont know ...i go round in circles , this has been the worst iv been for ages ....thinking maybe i should try the AD doc gave me ?

my appt at 3.30 ...

xxx

have been googling... no i shouldnt now terrified ....off in a bit so will c what dentist says
slightly hysterical hpe i can hold it together and not cry ...

I hope your appointment goes well mumof2000, I'm sure it will be fine. It's fine to seek reasurrance.

I have learnt that googling can be very unhelpful. A lot of the things that come up are put on by people with no credance (sp?) at all. I know it's hard to resist, I used to spend ages doing it.

Don't start thinking what next. There maybe nothing next. Something else I have learnt is that if you start to look for symptoms your body will start to produce them.

After I was ill I found I was driving myself mad and eventually had had enough. I started some hobbies to keep myself busy, as if 3 dcs wasn't enough. Sometimes we need to do something for ourselves, I planted vegetables, tried cross stitching, and went for ages about learning to knit (no moose, I never started. Something to keep your mind busy

I think I said it to Mouette so forgive me if I am repeating myself, but I found the more I checked things the more I had to check. The busier I kept myself, the less I thought about things and gradually became more confident and able to deal with things.

I hope you are ok. How many dcs do you have?

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Thanks Blissa , your advice is really good thank you and so right and i am driving myself mad ..saw dentist hes so nice , thinks its trauma from me biting on cheek , said he was happy all seemed ok, not presenting itself in any other form ..no typical signs of MC is what he means , thank goodness...ahhhhhh

i had long chat with him he said would see me in2 weeks to have another look and to reasure me again if needed as should go in time , but he is sure it will , and if doesnt will refure me if i want ...

also said if he was in any doubt would refure now and not wait .
i have to think what he said and not" what ifs"
donet want to spend the next 2 weeks worrying incase it doesnt go .......and what if ...

i feel such a wreck at moment .....

you are so right the more you check the more anx you become , iv got to not look at it now for a while and see if it goes or i will spend the next 2 weeks in worry ,

how has your day been xxx

ps ..fogive my spelling im so bad

He sounds like a nice dentist . I'm glad all is ok and hope you feel reassured.

Can I ask if you've had a cancer scare before? Is that why you are so anxious about it. Tell me to mind my own business if you like!

'What ifs' and 'yeah buts' are the worst, I used to be the queen of them but am slowly learning to stop. It doesn't do any good. I was told this umpteen times after I came out of hospital, but it wasn't until my counsellor said it a few weeks ago that it made any difference!

Keep yourself busy, make yourself get out everyday and soon enough you'll have gone a couple of days without thinking about it.

My days been ok thanks, just very wet! Now just need to get them all to bed

Thanks , blissa , ((( hug))))

No C , just had a cyst removed on my hand but at time i was worried it was , and since then, every little thing i worry about and always my health

iv tried hypnosis , councelling , and little CBT , keeping busy will be a good thing i thik , im so drained today close to tears once more ....

It's crap I know. It's bloody exhausting.

(((hug))) back.

How long ago was that?

yes it is ....was 3 years ago since that happened but have had numerous things investigated and worried about since then ....just goes on and on ....

from what my dentist has saiid i should be ok do you think ? still mulling i tall over ..
thanks for listening to me going on xxx

what were you in hospital for ? and are you ok now ? only answer if you want to .. i understand if not
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I think if your dentist wasn't concerned then it should be ok. If it is in the same place that you bit your mouth then it is almost certainly that. It will be sore if you bit it, have you tried to put anything on it? Has it changed in it's appearance or soreness since you noticed it?

My life has pretty much been poured out on this thread for the past few months. I had blood clots on my lungs just before christmas last year, I was on blood thinning medication for 6 months then had tests to find out what caused it. Been found to have a mutant gene making me more prone to clots, but I've had it all my life, but I hope I can go another 27 years without it bothering me. I have to think like that, I an't go back to living under a dark cloud and waiting for a clot to come and get me.

My checking is for clots in my legs, I've been back to the dr loads of times, even sat in A&E once. And then my anxiety makes my chest tight which then sets me off thinking.

I see , thanks for telling me , are you on medication now ? or do you have to just monitor it your self ?

Must have been very scary for you .....?no wonder you were feeling anxious with it ...glad things a little better for you .x

Iv had chest pain with anxiety to along with pulputations , fluttering stomach etc ...

doesnt look any different than found on monday ...not sore but is in the place where i bite , im missing 2 teeth lower left got back wizdom tooth but then 2 gaps then teeth only had 2nd one out bout 4 months ago and now and again since then chew that side and catch cheek ...and this is what dentist thinks iv done , causing white bit ...said not looking like MC as not hard or swollen round jaw or cheek , he did say if he was concerned we wouldnt be talking he would be writting me a letter for refural now , wants to see me in 2 weeks as he knows i worry and wants to put my mind at rest .
just dont want to let this eat me u for 2 weeks ..with worry incase it doesnt go ...
what am i like grrrrrrrrrrr

thanks for listening x

No, off medication unless I need surgery.

Please try not to think about it- ha easier said than done! What the dentist said makes a lot of sense. I'm sure it will go in a few days, so you will not be thinking about it for 2 weeks.

When you find yourself checking it or worrying, tell yourself to stop, get up and make yourself do something. Distraction really does work, this is coming from someone who a few months back thought any form of physical activity would kill them and who couldn't say pulmonary embolism outloud without crying!

Play with your dcs, get outside, bake, clean, anything that focuses your attention from it.

Thank you for listening to me going on......im sorry if iv been a pain ...
im going to bed now as am exhausted and need to sleep ..
if i can ...

must start tomorrow with plan ... get out and keep busy ...and NOT look in my mouth .....

thanks again your advice has been a help (((hug)))
xxxxxx

No probs, it's what we're all on here for

Sleep well. Good plan for tomorrow!

xx

morning all

Still feeling exhausted and anxious.. but working today so little time , for to much mind talk and mouth checking ......

going to try and go whole day with out checking !!!

will let you know later ..

hope you all have good day xxxxxx

Morning Ladies,

Good plan for today mumof2000! Sending good vibes for a relaxing day and no mouth checking

DH is away on the nursery run so just having 5 mins before I get my shower!

Another nice day outside for us, so will need to get the boys out later.

Feeling V happy today - although my DH is going back to work next tues - thought he would have been home longer! I shouldn;t moan as he needs to work to keep a roof over our head! He is going to be away for DS2 1st Birthday But we are having a wee party for him on hallowe'en so he'll be back for that at least!

Hope everyone else is well!
BTP - how are you today, hope you are feeling a little better x x x

Morning yommy , glad your feeling ok , and enjoy the time with your DH

Off to work in a mo ...so will keep my mind busy ....and mouth shut ...

going to go to body balance class later tonight , combi of yoga /tichyi and pilartis ( lol sorry spelling so bad... laughing to one self ..) so will relax then .(i hope )

hope all have god day , will check in later xxxxx

Hope you're having a good day mumof2000

Good to hear you sounding happy Yommy, I bet the boys are pleased daddy is home too. When is ds2s birthday? Weather is nice here too, might take ds to the park later, will have to wrap up though!

Hope you're ok today Greyskull

Having a bad time guys , feeling so anxious ...cried at work yesterday , down all last night , everyone is sick of me ...i know it ... just cos i dont look physically ill they think i should pull myself together ..it really isnt that easy ... im going through so many what ifs and iv got ...with this mouth thing i just cant escape the fear and worry i have ....i know i must think of what dentist said but cant stop looking for change ...and its not .....

sorry to go on ....got kids harvest festival this morning , i just dont think i will be able to hold it together as children singing always sets me off at the best of times ...

calming down a bit now having a rant helps ...

thanks forl istening
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