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what do you call it when you are not depressed per se, but you hate the world and can;t shake the feeling??

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 12:55

cos I am in that at the moment, cannot get past it, and DH is telling me that he wants me non-grumpy or he might leave.

he doesn;t mean it really, I know that in me head, but my heart took a battering, and right now with all the fucking crap I am struggling with trying to get a DX for DD3, plus the issues with DS2, and all the other crap going on right now, my head seems to be stuck in grump-phase rather than coping phase, and I am not liking me that much.

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notnowbernard · 27/04/2009 12:59

Sorry you're going through it atm

Are you certain you're not depressed, though?

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:02

no idea TBH, altho when I was depressed after my car accidents, it felt different.

this time, I just feel exhausted and as tho once I have a decent sleep all will be ok again.

oh, last time I wasn;t able to read, or even want to read..............reading is the one thing I am still able to do with enjoyment and I actively look forward to be able to go to the book-store.

I think, for me, this is all to do with the fighting for DD3, and all the stress building up about that, and the side effect of the stress and anger I feel is this low mood (IYGWIM).

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twoisplenty · 27/04/2009 13:03

You sound like me atm. Not depressed either, but lethargic, tired of the constant battle (disabled ds, LEA being frustrating to say the least, a million things on my "to do" list) but I just feel overwhelmed.

Life feels dull and never-ending tasks.

I feel like running off somewhere...but of course I'm too "sensible" for that, and anyway where would that get me.

I am doing something positive however. I was eating rubbish for months because of feeling crap, so I have changed my diet.

I only changed it yesterday! But I'm only eating healthy stuff, mainly fruit and no rubbish at all. I feel a bit clearer headed today.

I shall see how it goes with the healthy bit.

And no, I'm not depressed. But do you know you are not depressed?

notnowbernard · 27/04/2009 13:06

Are any of the following being affected:

Sleep
Appetite
Concentration
Energy
Libido
Motivation

twoisplenty · 27/04/2009 13:06

Funny that, reading is my enjoyment atm too, it must be for the esapism. I had this memory of reading "Cider with ROsie" at school, so I got that from the library. It is just escapism and wonderful... if I ever get the time to actually read it.

FabulousBakerGirl · 27/04/2009 13:08

Purely flippantly as can't think atm but do you want chocolate?

You know where I am. Just tell me the flavour.

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:08

yup, that is it, frustration with life in general right now.

I fel as tho I am on a roller coaster, and this one is doing me in now so I want to get on a new ride.

I think also it is the constant 'head-full-of-things-to-do' which is also getting me down, as I don;t seem to have time to deal with one thing before the next issue crops up.

last week I was at 5 different hopsital appointments, about 4 different children, plus I had the docs and need to go for bloods at some point myself (altho quite when I will have time for that??), and it is all that running about and not having 'time-out' which has worn me out.

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marmoset · 27/04/2009 13:13

Sorry you're down. I have a child with sn and I have found fighting for things quite exhausting at times(recognise the feeling about wanting to go into a deep refreshing sleep!)
If you are low, how about some moodjuice - www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/? (smile)

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:14

notnowbernard

Sleep - yes in that I am having a lot of nightmares at the moment, altho I am able to get to sleep ok. tis the staying in a nice place while asleep that is the problem!!
Appetite - always an issue, so no chage there. have allergies tho, so tis hard to find enjoyment in food at the best of times.
Concentration - DH says that I am able to switch off too well while reading, so maybe overconcentration is a problem??
Energy - a little.
Libido - well, tis the teenagers that never sleep that are having a bigger effect TBH. when they went away for a few days, we made up for any issues
Motivation - a little.

bakergirl, orange if poss, but please don;t fret about me...........you are fab

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:16

twoisplenty, yes, time is certainly an issue when you have small children about!

marmoset, can you get that in healthfoody places??

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twoisplenty · 27/04/2009 13:16

You feel like you are on a roller coaster. I feel like my head is spinning.

I'm not being much help am I, if I am the same as you?

But at least we can go quietly mad together!

Trouble is, I don't know a solution. I guess one thing to do would be to pamer yourself in the evening? That would be something to look forward to each day. Is that a possibility?

FabulousBakerGirl · 27/04/2009 13:16

I will get you some but might not be until Wed that I can get to the shop as feel yuk still.

MayorNaze · 27/04/2009 13:16

can you try something like rescue remedy? can help as a little pick me up? there is also a night time one if you need help sleeping. camomile tea also helps me sleep and get a good nights sleep too, as oppose to one with horrid dreams.

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:17

oh, my head is spinnning too

actually, just knowing that others alsp have similar feelings help enormously. at least I am not abnormal..........((altho not sure normal is a quantifiable reality anyway at times))

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alicecrail · 27/04/2009 13:17

I sometimes feel "unsettled" like i just don't feel quite myself and i have no idea why, but get the stomach churning, lack of enthusiasm and feel a bit "dead" iyswim?

notnowbernard · 27/04/2009 13:18

It sounds like you're under a lot of stress. You do need to look after yourself, though. If you notice that any of the afore-mentioned things are becoming more disrupted than usual, maybe a visit to the GP may be in order?

I hope things get better for you, Psycho

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:19

oh, you know, cammomile tea might well help.....I get into the habit of drinking it for a while, all is calm again, then I get waylayed by something and this happens again. I am sure I still have some in the cupboard.

rescue remedy, yup, have that too................good plan, thankyou

bakergirl, you been ill??

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FabulousBakerGirl · 27/04/2009 13:20

Second choice if can't get that?

Have phoned hubby and told him to go and get some.

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:21

notnowbernard, thankyou. I do think it is probably stress causing this, but then...., I dunno. how do you recognise stress??

alicerail, i get what you mean. tis crappy feeling like that.

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psychomum5 · 27/04/2009 13:22

aww, bakergirl, you are such a star, thankyou. coffee if no orange and many thanks (plus thanks to your DH. not sure he would appreciate a hug from a psycho)

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TitsalinaBumsquash · 27/04/2009 13:23

I know how you feel psycho, everything at the moment seems like such hard work and a real struggle, even simple things that should be easy.

No idea what tos uggest, do you have the time after the kids are in bed to relax in the bath with a good book followed by a cuddle with DH and an early night?

It always makes me feel slightly better.

I hope things look up for you soon.

SusieDerkins · 27/04/2009 13:24

Anxiety rather than depression?

I suffer from anxiety sometimes. That hard to shake feeling of struggling rather than coping well.

twoisplenty · 27/04/2009 13:24

Yes, "dead" feeling is a good term. I think we must just lose sight of what life is about, and doing nice things just for ourselves. So busy looking after everyone else, and the pressure builds up. Start to wonder what life is for?

Must must do nice things just for me. And I also like the chamomile tea idea.

Psychomum, let us know how your week progresses, would you?

MayorNaze · 27/04/2009 13:25

go and make yourself a cup of the camomile and a squirt of rescue remedy - even if its only placebo the fact that you have done something to help you feel better might help you feel better IYWSIM?

FabulousBakerGirl · 27/04/2009 13:26

He is married to a loon so a psycho is no biggie!!