what do you call it when you are not depressed per se, but you hate the world and can;t shake the feeling??

[psychomum5]

cos I am in that at the moment, cannot get past it, and DH is telling me that he wants me non-grumpy or he might leave.

he doesn;t mean it really, I know that in me head, but my heart took a battering, and right now with all the fucking crap I am struggling with trying to get a DX for DD3, plus the issues with DS2, and all the other crap going on right now, my head seems to be stuck in grump-phase rather than coping phase, and I am not liking me that much.

I force myself to listen to upbeat music even though I really don't feel like it.

I don't know how you'd define stress, but I guess it's a build-up of circumstances/events which you become increasingly unable to cope with or manage

Symptoms can be of a physical nature (headaches, palpitations, tension) or psychological (irritability, anxiety)

Sleep and concentration are often affected too

ok. rescue remedy on board, will make some tea in a mo

twoisplenty, yes I will.

titsaline, maybe some 'me-time' in the bath later might help. it can;t exactly make me worse at least

susie, anxiety is a possibilty I guess. no idea what to call this, tis a weird feeling.

ah, now headaches I am suffering from a lot, and also am constantly irritated by everybody........even the children laughing riled me this weekend

No usefulness from me but hope you feel better soon.

Do you really really think camomile tea does something? I might get some. I have days feeling how alicecrail described, but I tend to snap out of it pretty quickly (not that I'm saying you should 'just snap out of it', just that I'm lucky in that I do).

TBcoalman, that is one thing I am doing..........lots of loud music in the car is helpful.

trillian, flame got me onto cammolmile after one of my car accidents, when I was DX'd with PTSD and depression, and it helped a lot. not least because I felt as tho I was doing something actively to help me as opposed to going onto medication (have issues with taking meds for depression due to my mother issues).

plus, it is more natural IYGWIM.

and don;t worry about me taking your comment about being able to 'snap-out-of-it' wrong. I used to be able to myself, but with all the constantness of the hospital stuff going on right now is what is stopping me I think.

DH did say it earlier tho, and me think the tears and shrieking were a tad scary

Do you get time to do anything for yourself during the week?

(Am thinking a stress-alleviating activity such as yoga, swimming, tai-chi or something)

notnow, I used to, but haven;t really managed anyting for ages now. I haven;t even managed to get my hair done since last november, plus haven;t been for my nails either for 8wks, there is just so much to do all the time (the girls had their dance show at the end of march and that was 6wks of hell defore with the costumes and rehearsals etc).

on top of that, I have been ill......

so no, not had any proper 'me-time' for ages now, which I think is also getting me down (well, apart from the escape on MN that is)

Hi - You won't know me at all so feel a bit of an intruder, but I hope I won't seem rude pushing in

This sounds really like me a few years ago - we called it 'anxiety and burn out'. I got it after a horrific work experience [bloody nhs].

I needed cbt - which helped me spot the way my brain put me in a bad, angry, worried mood. With months of practice I was able to see my self go into the spiral - and stop it. Here is a really bad example

Me: the dishwasher needs emptying.
Brain: that bloody dishwasher I hate it and all of it it's like it does it on purpose....
Me: and I haven't eaten
Brain: you can never do anything can you, on,ly run around after everything and everone else....

If this rings true, and it's spoiling things for you, CBT really helped me just stop myself 'going there'.

oh you know what, I did CBT for driving issues last year, and that helped fabulously. maybe I need to go back to help me thru this blip.....

I get the same regarding the dishwasher anology, altho mine is more to do with housework in general, and especially, cleaning the shower......I mean, it is 'washed' everyday, why does it build up with soap scum? it is doing it to piss me off I swear.......!!

Have just looked on your profile, can imagine how busy life must be for you and your family! Your dds are gorgeous, btw

Do try and get something in for you, even if it is just once a week. Try and make it relaxation/exercise based if possible

Do you drink caffeine? If yes, try and avoid after 2pm - might help with the sleep

god, that sounds slightly unbalanced doesn;t it

btw - I was really crippled by it all at this point, so my example may seem harsh. But you get the idea?

Plus, it never actually changed the fact that the dishwasher needed emptying, or that life was full on - it just helped me deal with it without burning up tonnes of adrenaline.
I think in challenging full on times, we rely on stress hormones and plenty of adrenaline. When we run low on reserves and can't 'fight or flight', the colds come, the blues come and the body tells us 'enough, lie down'.

Hope it all flows easier soon.

aww, thanks for the compliment with the girls. I have to agree (and yes, tis pretty busy here!).

I think I will look into yoga of something similar. flame does it and says it helps her a lot, so maybe it is something to look into for keeping me back on my even keel.......

i do really rate the camomile (and sorry, i am just jumping on your thread and dishing out the advice wheni don't "know" you either)

in fact, am off to have some now so i am ncie and calm for school pick up

hope you feel better soon

Oh I sooooo hear you on the shower. I have been known to shout at various electrical goods......

Go for it

oh, and yes about the caffiene......am slightly addicted.........I like my coffee.

Blimey, I don't 'know' anyone on MN and constantly barge in on threads with my two-penny's worth

mayor, please feel free to jump on the thread. tis nice that so many of your have, helps me feel better knowing that I am not alone, and hearing ways to help. me thinks I should take up the herbal tea route agin to combat the need for coffee/

I read MN all the time, but rarely post anything, so feel a bit of an intruder...which is silly seing as very few of us know anyone else. We're only sitting here typing!!

Yes, try and ditch the coffee/tea after 2pm. It really does affect sleep pattern. As I am sure you know, it's a stimulant and will exaggerate any feelings of irritability you may have, and won't do the headaches a lot of good either

I have some jobs that DP has to do because they give me rage. For example I don't take stuff to the outside bin if I can help it because we had neighbours who used to dump their stuff in our bin and it made me so angry for so long afterwards. That is slightly different to the shower or dishwasher 'doing it to piss you off' because there were actual people involved, but still irrational amounts of grr.

If you do decide to stop the coffee comlpetely remember that you may feel worse for a few days before you feel better, that feeling in the morning after the first cup of coffee isn't actually a good feeling that the coffee is giving you, it's just your caffeine-withdrawal symptoms going away.

I don't do caffeine, but I really think that eating crap ie chocolate, biscuits, crisps, fizzy pop etc, really aggravates stress.

I have been eating rubbish for a few months and felt really ropey. I have just switched to eating good stuff, no sugar at all, and just fruit, veg, grains, you know, the stuff we are told we should eat.

It does help. It really does.

Much clearer thinking. And calmer.

It's worth a thought, just to go through what you eat during the day.