Aaargh, it's noro season. Anxious emetophobes this way!!!

[Dottoressa]

Hello ladies,

As we seem to have reached our limit on the other thread, I thought I had better start a new one!!

We have the 'positive' one started by our lovely BB - so I suggest we keep this as the 'anxious' one (i.e. the one where we can all say "OMG, it said on the news that someone v-d 200 miles away from me - am I going to catch it?!") We can share our worries, however silly they sound, without undoing the good work on the other thread. What do you all think?

I shall start off by saying that every time DD speaks, I think she's going to say she feels sick!!!

Now that really is neurotic...

xxx

can I join, too? I thought I was in a very small minority in being scared of this kind of event... but no - HURRAH! - I'm not

Oh no, there are lots of us . Welcome, Totally!

Hi Thanks for that, fingers crossed seem ok.
Tried that tapping thing someone mentioned on another thread. Only did it briefly (got to admit a bit boring) but I really think it has done some good. Worth a try

Ooh! Can you tell us more, stressed??
Glad you are all ok.

Thanks for your kind messages
Well, I started a new thread named "cured" asking if anyone ever gets "cured" of all this mental health stuff or does everyone just learn to manage it. Someone put on that a friend had had good effect from "tapping" as on the emotional freedom technique website, I perused that and then also found tapping.com which has a free online video, so I gave it a try. My mind is still constantly occupied with our favourite subject and my avoidance behaviours are still here but my fear is I am almost sure less. You need to address each issue separately I think and "tap" for each issue so I am going to have another go for the intrusive thoughts and the obsessive/compulsive behaviours and see what happens. Certainly worth a try and at this level Free! Think my 4 yr old has over done it with the apple juice and was in a bit of a mess but I sorted it and whilst Im a little bit anxious now waiting to see if anythign happens I was really really calm sorting him out. Go try it nothing to lose.Except you feel a bit of a ninny!.x

Right - I am going to google that once the DCs are in bed. Thanks!!

Hi everyone!

welcome stressed and totally!

Stressed - It is a big gripe of mine about why adults send kids to school or visit when ill or don't mention a bug until it's too late! Do your parents know about your phobia?Don't understand why your parents allowed your ds to play with an ill child or be in the same breathing space as a sick child. Thinking of you! How are things anyway?

How is everyone? Lots of illness around us atm but a lot of it just bad colds.

bb - how are you hun? How long you got to go now? Hope you are ok.xx

Lotsa love to all! xx

Hello can i join in please?

DD2 was sick tonight and im now having panic attacks, hate this! I can deal with the sick calmly but afterwards i just go to pieces, im on edge waiting for more sick, is it a bug? arghhhhh

Ive always had the fear but it was never an issue until after DD2 was born (she was 3months) and me and DD1 had an awful bug and its left me with this anxiety.

Feel like im going mad, its affecting my whole life

But on a lighter note im so glad im not alone

Hi Wiggleit
Thanks for the welcome, i truly believe that if people would just simply follow the 48hr rule instead of sending their kids back (yes I know people have to work) and going back to work etc themselves then this could be at least halved.This is what makes September such a bloomin awful month Im sure.
I worked in the NHS for 22 years and have seen this grow I laugh when I think I used to attend outbreak meetings 2 0r 3 times a week as part of my job and think nothing of it until this hit 5 years ago and now I just cant go to work anymore.My dd(14) grew up with me having such a different angle on life.

Yes my mum and dad do know about me but didnt know the little one wasn't well, my DS1 just invites himself into the neighbours house.I was really naughty today and dived in the house when I saw her so that she didnt have the opportunity to mention it -how rude am I? anyway in that regard all ok thanks (although always on my guard especially as he has just started school)
My DD who has the immunity of an ox as she is at the stables half her life, suddenly announced an unwell feeling on Sunday my husband woke me to tell me and I just shook violently for 40 minutes totally useless to anyone, so weird because I actually cope with the boys quite well anyway it came to nothing. As you say lots of cold around though at the moment.The little ones sound like the benson and hedges brothers, but Ive been really brave and taken them to the GP!and that doesnt happen very often

hug me -that was similar to how i started ds1 was 5 weeks old I was BF him and DH became ill 3 days before Christmas I just totally went to pieces moved me and the kids out I was panic stricken incase I couldnt feed DS1 and in case the red man wouldnt get to come and make everything ok for dd. We were fine incidently

Just a question. Please could we have a rule on here that certain words are alluded to but not actually used??? what do people think??

Sorry hug me also meant to say hang in there we all know what you are feeling. Clearly Im not cured as you can tell but hypnosis did help tremendously.I read somewhere on here "it is only fear it wont kill us" so we will all be ok.

Thanks Stressed, im doing my best to remain calm. Every little sound i hear over the baby monitor sends my heartrate soaring!

I am a trained in CBT and should know better but i just dont seem able to help myself at the moment im starting to fear the panic which isnt helping either.

Hypnosis sounds good, will look at that thanks.

When I talked this through with a Consultant I worked with expecting him to think I was completely barmy, he told me that nurses etc are the most common to have this type of fear in his experience. My post natal counsellor tried to helpwith a bit of basic CBT but confronting the thoughts meant they were in my head absolutely constantly so i had to stop the sessions.I much preferred the hypnosis "stop the thoughts" method (although that includes not really going on forums like this either) oops. take care hope all goes well.

Hi stressed. Just wanted to say i hope i didn't come across funny (not haha) about your parents. I didn't realise they didn't know the child was ill before your ds went round. Apologies . I get so defensive on this subject!

Welcome hugme! How is your DD2? How are you feeling about things? Hope you are coping. You are definitely not alone with this!

Hello to everyone else! Lotsa love xxx

Hi Wiggle, gosh no not at all hope my reply didnt seem curt I didnt mean it to sorry. Actually you're not entirely wrong, they do know but it doesnt always stop them bringing things into the conversation that Id rather they didnt, sometimes I wonder if they have their own programme of aversion therapy going on for me! I am with you wiggleit, I get really angry with people, I try to remember what I would have done or not done before but I dont think I was as stupid as many around us. take care everyone, chin up x

Hi Wiggleit, thankfully she was only ill the once! seemed fine today, but i spent all night awake worrying and have been on "high alert" all day, im exhausted! still feel anxious but better than last night.

Its hard worry this phobia anxiety panic thing.

Hi stressed and hugme.

Stressed - your reply was not in any way curt.. it was when i re-read my reply to you that i thought it may have come across wrong, thankfully it didn't! (phew!)
as for people talking about v things when you really don't want to hear it.. I was out recently with a group of friends and we for some reason got on about v'ing, so i mentioned i had a phobia about it and couldn't deal with it so then everyone went on to tell their most horrible v story in great detail! ( why?????) I did have to tell them to change the subject in the end because i was starting to feel funny!

Hugme - Good to hear all ok with your DD. It is very hard work this phobia thing! Exhausting! Anxiety does wear you out!

Hi to everyone! xxx

Hi all, i havn't posted on here since before the summer but now the kids are back to school the anxiety is building up.

Dd2 was poorly last week (with a virus similar o swine flu) and was sick once, i coped ok but still got the shakes and anxiety , luckily dh was home so he helped.

Anyway i thought we had got through the bug without dd1 getting it but today she has woken with a temp, head ache and hasn't ate her breakfast. I phoned the school to say she wouldn't be in and when i told them what class she is in they said 'oh yes, quite a few have phoned in this morning, has she been sick?' , aparently there is a tummy bug going around the class and now i'm sat here shaking thinking 'has dd1 got the D&v bug and how will i cope as dh is at work until 6pm.

Dd1 seems happy colouring, i have given her calpal etc.. but i am a nervous wreck.

Please tell me its not a D&V bug, do they start with a temp? She says her tummy feels fine but i'm so worried, i can't cope without dh being here and i havn't got anyone to sit with me. Also i still have dd2 home from nursery poorly.

God i hate this .

You poor love, I know how you feel. My skin just crawls and you just long to be able to run out of the front door...

Anyway, sit tight, she may not have a tummy bug, it may just be a temperature thing. Sometimes lurgies affect different kids in different ways.

And even if the worst happens you will cope. I sometimes find the anticiaption is far far worse than the reality...

I'm such a wimp, i feel like such a useless mother , i know if it happens i will cope but the thought of it makes me shake with fear.

I'm trying to get hold of Dh (hoping he can come home, but i doubt he will). So far he's not answering his texts.

Dd is asking me to sit with her but i cant , i feel so guilty.

Lets hope its just a high temp.

How old is your DD? My oldest is 6 and I feel fairly confident that she can almost look after herself when she is sick (ie, not likely to throw up everywhere but will go to the toilet). Sorry for being graphic, but they get better with age!

I know you feel like a useless mum, but I'm the same and lots of us on here know how you feel too.

This time of year is horrible. I'm waiting for CBT (Cognitive Behavioural therapy) counselling at the moment but it's a long wait, I had an assessment last December and still waiting for an appointment! I'm hoping that might be some help though...

I had some therapy last year/season but the insisted on exposure therapy, i found it so hard that i gave it up, i am considering going back to the GP to ask for help but not in the form of exposure, i am hoping they offer me CBT.

I wish my dd was like yours, she copes with V well but it usually happens in her sleep so she doesn't make it to the loo, at least dh can be on v duty tonight when he gets home, i won't be sleeping tonight.

She has had a temp since last night, we have all had a cold/flu virus (dd2 ended up in hospital with it and was sick once), at least dd1 will take medicine so i can keep her temp down (managed to get it down from 38.0 to 37.00). She's led on the sofa watching Simpsons and laughing but she looks really pale. Hopfully its just a temp and a cold, she says her glands hurt but i think i'm putting ideas in her head (she's just agreeing with what i say).

Thanks belgianbun, the past few days have been a nightmare with dd2 being so ill, i don't know how i coped, i had a lot of help from dh and my mum, dd2 copes really well with illness and tends to just sleep, dd1 is more of a moaner and wants a lot of attention.

I just started to feel like we were getting over it all, i kept dd1 out of the way as much as i could (she went to her grandads for a day) so i thought we were in the clear.

Thank god i have got you lot to talk to as most people don't understand how i feel.

Thank you so much.