Onwards and Upwards - the cvq/ns support and hot chocolate thread

[Habbibu]

Since we've nearly tipped the last one over the 1000 posts mark, here's the new thread for cvq and for her friends to help this lovely lady to keep on getting better.

what has upset you?what was the outcome of recent crisis team assessment?

this has gone on long enough im ging to have to call smomeone.im having more couselling becasue i had to disclose something to them.but ive only had one session so far.
i think m y grief has come to a head.my nan gets buried on monday and its dragged stuff up fo me abuot my past and im missing having someone here
i need a fag it might calm me down a bit

try that - and draaaag 2,3,4; hold smoke in,2,3,4 and blow smoke out,2,3,4. Same thing, works the same way.

Gotta go to bed now lovey - hope you get sorted and manage to speak to someone useful tonight.

Take care now
((((((((hugs))))))))))

have a fag.what was your crisis plan,your to do list.sorry to hear about you bereavement.

ok am a little calmer and i think i can maybe ride this out.
do you mean my crisisplan of what to do if i cant cope or things im meant to do between times.sorr ymy head is all fuzzy.
i need to go back to j soon

hey cvq....dropping by to leave you my morning hug! ((((()))))

sorry you had a hard night sweetie....

did you manage to write your note yet? make it a note...not a huge letter. just something like

" dear grandad. i was really really sad to hear of the death of nan. you have both been in my thoughts all week. i know its been a long time since we've spoken...i hope that this letter goes some way to making things ok between us again....
i decided that it would be inappropriate for me to come to nans funeral...i am feeling some negativity from the family, but please know that i am lighting a candle here with j, and grieving in my own way.

with love....cvq x"

sorry if i'm out of order doing that...i wondered if it may help you a little to get started...... once its done and gone, it'll be somthing to cross of your list of thinbgs to do, and the ball is then in their court....you can try to let it go.

how you doing this morning? did you call in the crisis team after? did they help?

thinking of you....
xxx

Morning, sorry you had a bad night CvQ.

Did you manage without having to call the crisis team out?

It is a beautiful morning out there, maybe you could sit out in the garden with j and lose yourself and forget your worries for a bit in the sunshine?

As always, thinking of you and will hopefully speak later? xxxxxxxxxx

hi
i did it alone although was still up at 4am.
mellyonion thankyou for trying to draft something out for me.its given me something to think about.

helo>

hi CvQ - how are you doing tonight?

a litle upset and j has ben sick but hes ok now.hes gone back to slesp.
my nans bein gburied tomrrow morniong

i know petal - how are you feeling about that now - have you composed a message for your Grandad?
Sorry to hear about j - hope he's ok? Did he have something odd/different for his tea?

you know, we are going to have to start another new thread for you as this one is abot to run out of space - any ideas what you want to call it or shall we just call it the same thing but number 2?

i think he had to much to eat.he sesms fine now hes not hot or anythng.
stil got nothing wrtten down.i havent got my head round it today and i stilllwant to do it
we could call it cvqs a lost casue so neds her own padded cell

now now - POSITIVE outlook my girl - we could call it CvQ's purple blanket thread for warm fuzzies

could call it that of course except no one would know who we were talking about...

Perhaps just stick with calling it Hot chocolate and purple blanket thread for CvQ?

thatl do
j will never met my nan now.
i lighing a candle for her tomorow

this isnt ful up is it?
thads shameful 3 threds in 3weeks

Hi sweetie

Just popping in on my way to bed and I hope you don't mind but I've reported your thread of 00.00 (spooky huh) as you accidentally I think?? named yourself.

Will email tomorrow xx

oh crap

it's nearly full, only another 29 posts to go... we can wait a bit more if you like or start the new one now and re-direct people to it.

I know petal, that j will never meet your nan and that is sad.. I had to cope with knowing that my DS would never meet his nan (my mum) cos she died when I was 19 weeks pg with him. I know it is different of course; but in the end all we can do with our littluns is to have pics and stories of our passed on relatives, and tell them that "X would have loved you so much" etc. Do you have any photos of your nan? If not, perhaps you could include that in your message to your grandad - say that you would love to have a photo of her that you coudl keep where you could see it every day. That would please him, I'm sure.

Hey- it's fine ok!

There's hardly anyone online at this time of night so I doubt anyone will see but I just thought you'd prefer it gone?

Sorry if I've interfered x

no. thankyou think i had a litle to much to drink

ive got lots of pictuers in an album of everyone ive got here.
my grandad will be so sad tomrrow.thy wer married for over 60 yrs you know.she was 82