Onwards and Upwards - the cvq/ns support and hot chocolate thread

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Since we've nearly tipped the last one over the 1000 posts mark, here's the new thread for cvq and for her friends to help this lovely lady to keep on getting better.

im ok.just chilling and trying not to think tbh.js beans have not gone so he is still up but quite honesly im not botherd tonight.he can keep me company!
am wondering if i can pay someone to push daad in nans grave
anyway foret i said that im fine!

cvq- that sounded like something I would say, chill. Have you spoken to your mum since she got back?

Glad your chilling hun, hope to be more available tomorrow.

Big hugs.

hello

hello

sorry

oh my darling, what do you need to be saying sorry?

come and talk to me while I drink my tea

my nans dead

It is hard isn't it when you can't grieve properly. Perhaps you could light a candle on the day of her funeral in her memory?

i never got to see her.she never got t see j.she dies not liking methats kindof hard to swallow becasuse ill never get a chance to change that now.

why on earth would she not like you?

hi CvQ - just got in from the Proms - soundslike your day was going ok until a little while ago, what happened?
What makes you think your nan didn't like you, pet?

because she was filled with bad stuf about me when i kept hold of j.no one speaks to me except mum.if i could turn it back i would havv meade more effort to try

Darling, if no one speaks to you or if your nan didn't that is bad on their part, not yours.

How on earth your family (except your mum) could hold this against you I just don't know.

They should be celebrating yours and j's life which has become all the more precious because of what you have been through.

You should not have to deal with this crap on top of everything else.

I am sorry if you think I am speaking out of turn, but it makes me angry that you are not supported.

bellavita if you only knew the half of it

CvQ - I can't say for certain because I didn't know your nan, but I would think it unlikely that she didn't like you. More that she couldn't understand how you could have j, given the circs. And not being able to understand something AT ALL, often makes people distant - plus they don't want to face up to what has happened to you (and j is the evidence). Whatever, she would have still loved you, even if she couldn't understand or agree with you.

I understand your wish to turn back the clock but in this case it might have made no difference even if you had tried.

When you say no one else speaks to you (I know your Dad doesn't), who else is there?

A thought has just occurred to me - your dad didn't, God forbid, dare to suggest that the attack was somehow "your fault", did he? The old Judge Pickles routine? If he did, he deserves to be shot.

Do you feel up to/able to tell us? Iyou can't then that is ok too, I understand. Don't want you going to sleep on an even more unhappy heart than you are now.

my sister doesnt speak to me.she is a single parent aswell.she is fully accepted.she has tried to cause trouble for me in the past by saying my dad has asked to see me etc.she knows how to get to me.shes a bitch.
my gradnparents on dads side i have n contact with.well nans dead now .
mums parents died many years ago so their not around anyway.
when i maoved away everyones kept their distance.i am the black sheep

when i found j was coming i was told that evil breeds from evil acts.
if i could finda hitman i would

no you are not a black sheep, they are ignorant small-minded people who don't deserve to have you in their family. THEY are the black sheep, you are the white one, and your mum is probably a grey one?? but getting whiter.

are you the black sheep because of j and what happened or does this go deeper?

Thumbwitch - "small minded" came into my head also.

It feels like they are living in the 18th century.

because of j but yes there is historybut i cant talk about that here