Onwards and Upwards - the cvq/ns support and hot chocolate thread

[Habbibu]

Since we've nearly tipped the last one over the 1000 posts mark, here's the new thread for cvq and for her friends to help this lovely lady to keep on getting better.

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hey cvq/ns.....

i'm sorry i've been away...me and my dd have had a really nasty sickness bug...

have just read up on the last few days...

i'm really sorry to hear about your nan, and also sad for you that your mum has gone too...

you were doing so well....keep thursday at the very front of your mind...a reminder that there will be happy days in amongst the shitty ones....don't lose sight of that....

have read your posts from last night...have tears streaming down my face....am horrified at how utterly fucking evil that man who did this to you is...and even more in awe of how amazing you are.....you are an incredible young woman...so strong and such a fighter....honestly. i know you would rather not be this way, and god, if any of us could turn back the clock for you, i'm sure we would, but in your situation, you are really a survivor in the biggest proportions...

do not let this bastard beat you sweetheart...you have come so very very far....

i wish i could hold you and cuddle you...and let you cry and make you better....i feel so helpless here at the end of my pc... i know nothing about you at all apart from what you have shared on here....and you know nothing about me either.... my email is [email protected] if you ever want to talk off the board...will send you some pics of me if you like so you know who you're talking to!! (am not too scary looking with my make up on!!)

sorry...went off on a tangent then! it must be my damn hormones!!

anyway....i've gone on enough this morning....sending you happy vibes for today, and hoping that saturday also becomes a good day in your week...

xxxxxxxxx

im very tired and feeling very exposed todaybut thankyou for your words of support x

Morning honey - sorry I had to leave you so early last night.

don't feel exposed - you can delete anything you want - BUT please know that there is not a single person that would feel anything unkind about your postings last night.

Did you get some sleep in the end?

pleased don't feel exposed...you have no need to....this is a great form of anonymous support for you...we could pass in the street and never know each other....you should feel safe here....

i'm sure there is not a woman on this forum who would not be wholley supportive of you and your situation...

you rest up today as much as you can...gather some strength, both emotional and physical....

sending you lots of love. (((((())))))

xxxxxx

hello sweetie. Just checking in. I can imagine that you feel quite drained and vulnerable today - you did a very brave thing last night, and have so much support and respect from everyone here. I hope today is a bit brighter.

drained.tired.exposed.and staring into space a lot.and j is just full of himself and i dont have the energy or anything for his beans.actually i just want to sit in the garden and smoke all day

Hello CvQ - it is a lovely day out there, sitting in the garden sounds like a good idea, put j in his buggy and sit out there with him, let the fresh air blow the cobwebs away.

hi CvQ - you did really well last night. delete whatever you need to in order for you to feel safe again, but getting it out was really therapeutic for you. At least the weather has cheered up for you so going out, even just into the garden, would be a great idea.

Do you have any friends or people you can get to come and visit, just to sit with you and let you be, but who could keep an eye on j at the same time? Call them if you have.

(((((((Hugs))))))))) for you both - well done!

yes ive got a lovely friend L who lives not far away.maybe i could drop in on her later but for now ill be alright x
do you know im not going to delete.that was bloody hard lastnight and if i delete then i will feel ive done something wrong.and i havent

good for you! even better to stand by it and the most important thing is that you do what feels right for you. I am so glad that you felt able to open up and write it - that was a big step forward. No wonder you are drained.

My DH looks like shit this morning - I finally heard him go up to bed at 4am. I don't think he is actually sober yet, so the hangover hasn't really started - it'll probably kick in about 2pm, when we have to start thinking about driving into London for the Proms in the Park thing. [snurk]
Serves him right!

Hope it stays sunny for you (it has just clouded over a bit down here in NW Surrey) - a bit of sun makes everything look and feel much brighter (obviously but I mean in your head too)
xx

Oh CvQ. you are so so brave. I hope that sorry excuse for a man rots in hell.

Well done for getting it out. Hpefully it will have less power over you now. You did NOTHING to bring this on yourself. NOTHING. You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time.

You are amazing you know. J is proof of that. One day you will be able to look and your big boy and pat yourself on the back for having done something amazing.

Hugs lovey. Lots of hugs.

wow. Good for you. You most certainly have done nothing wrong. Hope the sun stays out for you - j will be happy enough beaking about in the garden and just hanging out with his beloved mummy.

ive just got him to sleep.had a good cry so feelin g abit released iukwim.

maybe you could just put your feet up and read a book? or sit outside in your garden and have a cig? whichever or whatever you choose to do, enjoy it because you will need all your energy for when j is awake

Have I said "well done" lately?

Lots and lots of well dones!

agree with bellavita - go and be very calm somewhere. rest and enjoy the quiet and the release.

nextdoor is mowing so not very relaxing out there now
im laying on the bed with him watching the grand prix
thankyou bellavita x

hi habbibu.habbibu what does your name mean?x

Ha! Well, I chose it simply because dd said something that sounded like it when she was quite wee, and we used it as a nickname for her, but I've since discovered thanks to MN that it's very like the Arabic word for "beloved". Which is a lovely co-incidence, esp. as her real name means "pleasant".

it's v rainy here - not lawn mowing weather at all. dd and I are going to a 2nd birthday party soon. We will have to eat A Lot as there's no food in our house!

aww thats really sweet

wear something with big pockets or a hood

I know! I was so happy when someone told me - oh, here it is: there are umpteen pop songs in the Middle East that seem to consist simply of 'Habbibi, habbibi, habbibi' sung in a variety of ways to a variety of electronic drum beats grin
Men will call each other 'habbibi' affectionately as well as women to each other, their children etc. It's like calling someone 'love', a generally happy and jolly term.

lovely weather - have my washing out.

CvQ - grand prix qualifying on here too. DH/DS's are grand prix freaks , although I have to admit that Lewis Hamilton is just a dish.

When DH and I went to the South of France last year for a weekend break, we had to walk around the Monaco track.