DH wants a divorce

[Devastatedandblue]

Sorry, im shaking as I type this. Together 21 years, married 12. No kids.

Very much my fault, I'm depressed (on sertraline) and drink too much. I'm on a waiting list for counselling. We had a drunken row last night, he said he didn't love me and was moving to spare room. In light of day he has reaffirmed that he's seeing a solicitor tomorrow.

If anyone's around for a kind word, I'd appreciate it a lot.

That's a brilliant start! Hope you grab something nice for lunch after

Have you checked out the Dry thread on Alcohol Support? Lots of experience and support there.

Well done OP. Have you discussed with your DH the changes you are making?

^This, OP.

Oh wow! Well done. What an amazing step forwards!

Well done lovely. Looking forward to hearing more and more good news on your journey. You just so did a good thing for yourself going to the meeting. It shows that you believe in yourself.
I believe in you too. You are a brave woman.

One day at a time @Devastatedandblue. My husband left and blindsided me 9 months ago, I also thought I would die - but I didn't and I'm getting stronger every day. You will too!

Yes, you're entitled to 50% of everything, regardless of children. Get a free hour with a solicitor and see where you stand x

That's a fantastic start, you should be proud that you have been so proactive when feeling so low.

Well done OP. I am experiencing suicidal thoughts at the moment too and I am rooting for you down here in the same hole. You did something amazing for yourself last night. Keep going.

Please talk to someone @MsGoodenough . No man is worth you leaving this world for.

I am thank you. X

Do dm me if you'd like.

How are you today @Devastatedandblue ?

@MsGoodenough I took a sleeping pill and slept for 14 hours. It helped.

How are you?

Hope you are doing ok OP . Such a cliche - especially to someone like you who has been to AA - but it really is one day at a time .

Be prepared for ups and downs . When your life has been so enmeshed with someone there will be lots of things that remind you of them / happier times .

You will get stronger each day
and it does get better with time .

That's so great to hear OP. Sleep is still eluding me, but I did manage a better day at work today. Thinking of you.

Hi everyone. Thanks for everyone who replied. Still going to AA - it's honestly the only thing keeping me alive right now.

I know you've all given me advice to take copies of docs etc but aside from going to AA , all I do is stay in bed and cry. He has moved out to spare room and I already feel so alone and that life is over.

I'm seeing GP in 10 days but aside from him changing my DH's mind, I'm not sure what he can do.

So glad you're still going to AA. Don't focus on him changing his mind or thinking you can do something to bring him back. Just concentrate on getting yourself well. You're valuable. Maybe in time seeing you succeed at sobriety will make him remember why you got together in the first place. If it doesn't, so be it. Long-term sobriety will bring it's own joys and rewards, and in time you will be in a much better place. I'm rooting for you op, you can do this! This could be a big turning point in your life if you let it and stick to it. For what it's worth I'm very proud of you!

Another one saying how proud I am of you too.
This period is the hardest, all you can do is keep going.