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General support thread 2

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Helplessandheartbroke · 17/04/2024 19:39

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

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fara20 · 07/05/2024 20:54

Thank you @Helplessandheartbroke. I usually just about manage to get on with life with medication for depression/anxiety. I'm not a mum so I feel a bit of an intruder.

EmmaEmerald · 07/05/2024 21:43

@fara20 Hope the new meds help and the temp job is sorted asap. I'm not a mum and find it's led to exclusion in real life.

I find exercise to be brilliant when I keep it up consistently. My aim is to be in a daily exercise habit by end of summer so it's a norm for winter.

I have put these plans in the new journal.

@snowfoxglove you mentioned distraction, yes, I find that really helpful.
Forgot to say, I managed to read a novel today for 15 mins, that's honestly progress for me. I used to read two books a week. I don't find that thinking over my problems is helpful but the escapism of a good book is important.

So basically, trying to rebuild my life from before the breakdown. So I have made more progress than I've realised now that I've written that down!

Sorry for waffling, thanks for listening everyone x

fara20 · 07/05/2024 22:03

@EmmaEmerald You have made a lot of progress, it's impressive. I hope to be be able to build myself back up the way you're doing. I used to like doing Leslie Sansome's walk at home videos on youtube. And yes, the reading.

Ilovedogs1 · 07/05/2024 22:39

Just a 'Hi' from me ladies. @Helplessandheartbroke I know what you mean about feeling like your going to jinx it by saying your feeling a bit better. You kind of feel like where's the catch.
Also thank you for your kind words.
@hk1993x hope things get sorted soon, you've had a real rough ride lately.
@EmmaEmerald well done on starting some exercise. 👏
@Whycantgiraffesdance you are not a broken record. A lot of the time MH is one step forward, two steps back. Just keep plugging away.
Hello to everyone else. Xx

jbiscuits · 08/05/2024 07:41

I typed out a message last night but apparently fell asleep before hitting send 🤦‍♀️

@fara20 Well done on self refering to the talking therapies. Even if it takes a while that's a good step in itself. I've been given the information, but found the form etc just too overwhelming so haven't done it yet.

@EmmaEmerald well done on reading. I keep on getting books out from the library and just returning them unread 😂 My attention span isn't there anymore.

I'm struggling at the moment. I feel like I'm supposed to feel better, but I've just gone from one unstable mess before my breakdown to an exhausted feeling like I have a huge weight pressing down on me all the time. I don't even have the energy to cry. My marriage is suffering, we're supposed to be moving house, but that's been one disaster after another, I don't really have any close friends here, and I'm hardly spending any time with the kids because it's just too much. I just want everything to stop

Sorry, that was more of an offload than I expected

fara20 · 08/05/2024 08:18

Hi @jbiscuits it's ok to write it all here. We need somewhere to let it out. I don't have any friends where I am.

Helplessandheartbroke · 08/05/2024 09:03

Morning ladies, some boards are definitely more for mums but others aren't so I wouldn't worry especially on here. This is a support thread for women in general who need a hand hold and can give a handhold. Some real positives on here I've enjoyed reading through.

@Ilovedogs1 I meant it sweet thank you honestly. How are you? X

@snowfoxglove @JamSandle how are you both? X

Hope everyone has a good day and keep popping on with any updates x

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fara20 · 08/05/2024 09:39

thank you @Helplessandheartbroke , it's nice to feel welcome. I hope everyone is doing OK today.

Whycantgiraffesdance · 10/05/2024 17:00

It’s been very quiet on here, hope everyone is doing ok! The suns been shining here in the South East which always helps lift my mood ☀️

Helplessandheartbroke · 10/05/2024 17:20

It has been quiet. Hopefully that's a good sign. I'm doing ok atm. How about you @Whycantgiraffesdance? X

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Dawn1331 · 10/05/2024 17:44

@Helplessandheartbroke @Whycantgiraffesdance I'm moving house so it's been mental my end. I hope everyone is OK x

fara20 · 10/05/2024 18:17

Hi everyone
It's been rough this week, there was all sorts of issues in getting cleared to start job on Monday. I thought it wasn't going to happen and I was so worried. But at the last moment they cleared me.
Today I switched my medication from citalopram to fluoxetine.
@Dawn1331 I hope the move goes well.
How are you? @jbiscuits

stars345 · 10/05/2024 18:38

Hello all. I'm checking in from the recommendation of another poster. I haven't read the thread yet, will do when I don't have little people pestering me with encanto and Mario!
I have OCD and anxiety disorder and it's recently become unbearable. I've really struggled and have my first private psychotherapy session next week. I've no idea how I'm going to pay but I can't go on like this anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️

Whycantgiraffesdance · 10/05/2024 19:33

Hi @stars345 fellow anxiety sufferer here! 💁🏼‍♀️ it’s relentless isn’t it! Is there any reason why yours has been worse lately?

glad ur doing ok @Helplessandheartbroke I think I’m doing ok too, don’t want to jinx it either!

good luck with ur new job @fara20 how are u feeling about it?

ah moving is so stressful isn’t it! Are u moving far @Dawn1331?

are u still around @hk1993x? hope u are doing ok lovely x

stars345 · 10/05/2024 20:06

@CPx08 i was on 150mg of sertraline. I had those side effects, I was 'gurning' and also lost my appetite. I was excited to lose a few pounds but the side effects lasted for about a week!

@Whycantgiraffesdance hi ☺️
Summer makes my anxiety worse. The warming up of the weather has me hiding. There's so much expectation in summer, to make memories, and I find myself wanting to be poorly just so I can retreat to my bed and be left alone. It's awful I know 😞

@snowfoxglove OCD is unbearable. It winds me up when I hear people say they are 'so OCD' because they like things clean. My OCD has actually ruined my life 😞

fara20 · 10/05/2024 21:07

Thanks for the good luck wishes@Whycantgiraffesdance I've been so anxious about this whole checking references fiasco, that I haven't been able to think much about the job itself. I think I'm going to a meeting in London on Weds, so that will be a long day of anxiety.
Hello @stars345 People do throw the OCD term around a lot without fully understanding what it means. I hope that psychotherapy will help you to feel better.

Whycantgiraffesdance · 10/05/2024 21:15

I agree with @fara20 i think a lot of people assume ocd is about obsessive handwashing etc and I must admit I didn’t realise there is so much more to it than that until I started chatting to people on here, I really feel for you @stars345. and I can relate to what you say about the summer, there is a lot of expectation to be out and about, socialising and enjoying yourself when the weathers nice so I don’t blame you for wanting to avoid that! x

Helplessandheartbroke · 10/05/2024 23:14

@Dawn1331 it'll be worth it in the end! Gardens looking great already!

@Whycantgiraffesdance glad you're doing ok but I'm here when you need it.

@fara20 @stars345 100 percent agree! I suffer ocd and gad and it has consumed me. Yes I'm clean but that's more to do with the ritual side. The intrusive thoughts is the worst! I also do a weird blinking thing that people don't really noticed thankfully. @fara20 I hope the new job goes well and we will be here for a hand hold on Wednesday. @stars345 so glad you found us!

I've also been wondering how a few of our quieter friends are doing. Hope everyone's well x

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robinshields · 10/05/2024 23:27

Hello all, I saw the mention on the other thread and thought I’d mark my place. I haven’t read all the thread through but look forward to reading from now on.

I’ve namechanged as my SiL knows my other name and I’d rather her not be able to link me to here.

I’ve got OCD, anxiety and depression. Mostly managed okay now but very much a journey of ups and downs, relapses and recoveries.

Helplessandheartbroke · 11/05/2024 00:14

@robinshields hello and welcome. Fellow ocd and gad sufferer here. You're in a safe place. Many of us here are on a very up and down journey x

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jbiscuits · 11/05/2024 05:46

5:30 in the morning on a Saturday, and I'm spinning out. My head's a mess. Why is it so hard?

@stars345 I can really relate to that wanting to be more poorly feeling

fara20 · 11/05/2024 10:45

I got woken up early by a wasp buzzing loudly around the window. Then I couldn't get back to sleep because my legs shake so much when I wake up, I can't stay lying down.

@stars345 I feel like that about summer too. I don't want to "get out and enjoy the weather" and I know that sounds bad.

@Helplessandheartbroke I will be especially grateful for hand holding on Wednesday, thank you.

stars345 · 11/05/2024 11:24

@fara20 People have caught on at work that I don't like hear and high summer and they just make me feel so bad about it, like I'm an alien because I don't want to sunbathe and bbq. I've never been like that tbh. Peoples expectations can be exhausting!

I have just vomited on the way back from taking DD to dance class. Y anxiety is sky high. It's awful 😞

Whycantgiraffesdance · 11/05/2024 12:39

@stars345 so sorry you are suffering so badly, apologies if you’ve said but are u currently taking anything for your anxiety? I suffer as well so I can really sympathise! Do u know what the trigger was today? Hope u are ok x

fara20 · 11/05/2024 13:03

@stars345 I hate the heat. I used to prefer autumn and spring, but we don't really seem to get them anymore.