General support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

@bonzaitree Yes it's so weird how anxiety comes up when we least expect it. We can do well for weeks and all of a sudden something small and insignificant triggers a major anxiety attack.

But I've heard people say that recovery is never linear and that it's normal to have setbacks. Thinking of you.

@Helplessandheartbroke Yes I remember how a lot of us got together around Christmas on that board by kielyflower -- I think that period of the year is very hard because so many people are portrayed to be jolly which in turn makes sufferers feel worse. How are you doing today lovely? X I hope you will be able to get much needed rest this weekend.

@Cien75 I know what you mean when you say your childhood was all abour stiff upper lip. I have found that stuffing emotions up can backfire. Someone taught me that when we write them down we externalise them so in a way we get rid of that circular thinking in our heads.

I also have low apetite and struggle eating but I force myself because when my sugar drops this amplifies my anciety. I hope things are a bit better x

@snowfoxglove yes I agree that letting things bottle up is terrible for you.. I recently have called out a friend on the way she had been treating me - this is not something I would do lightly and took a lot to broach it with her. Turns out that friend was not really a friend 🥹I think that has contributed to my event anxiety flare up. I’ve other friends but this one we can went way back..

Hello everyone. Sorry I've not been back. I'm torn between wanting the support and knowing that being on wider MN/social media is very bad for me. My anxiety relates to (possibly) wanting to split up with DP. Being with him sneaking me anxious, but the thought of trying to cope without him also makes me anxious. So I am in a bind. When this comes upon me I stop sleeping and make myself ill, then I'm too ill to take on the task of leaving. It's a cycle I can't seem to get out of. He's a wonderful man but I just don't love him (yes, I should never have got together with him in the first place). Sorry this is all me me me. I hope everyone is having an ok day.

@MsGoodenough im the same social media definitely doesn’t help me lately & I keep meaning to quit . That sounds a difficult situation with your partner even more so if he’s a decent person. I’ve had similar experiences in the past but the man in question not so nice so easier to leave but still difficult.
Do you feel it’s definitely over ? Although horrible a break up would be in time it could be for the best. Do you have children together?

I'm taking a 2 week social media break if anyone wants to join :)

@JamSandle good idea x

@JamSandle I'm on an 11 year social media break so I'll join 😂

@snowfoxglove the 6 week hols is stressful atm. Trying to juggle work and being a mum and cleaning and everything else. How are you lovely?

@MsGoodenough Don't apologise. I understand what you mean that being with someone makes you anxious, but also the thought of being alone makes you anxious. When you're chronically stressed out and exhausted leaving sounds like a gigantic task.

@Helplessandheartbroke Oh absolutely. Being a mum and working is like having two very hard jobs. I'm hoping people help you and that you don't have to do everything by yourself. It's nice that you changed scenery and went on a couple of trips 🙂 Right now I'm doing fine (today). I feel like because of this thread and people I met, I came a long way since December xx

@Cien75 I'm so sorry. It really hurts to be betrayed by people we trust and whom we consider friends.

Anyone else in perimenopause? I feel like it exasperated my mental health issues. Also I'm on hrt and get occasional light bleeding which freaks me out. The menopause thread on my isn't great - hope everyone is doing well x

@Dawn1331 I’m in the perimenopause and it’s definitely not helped with my anxiety. I take fluoxetine which is slowly starting to work. I have to come at it with hrt, exercise good diet and yoga then it eases but it never goes totally

@snowfoxglove thanks for the reply . It’s knocked me for six how she’s treated me. Have to distance myself to protect self now.

@Cien75 If you can, by all means, protect yourself. Life is way too short to spend it with people who treat you badly. Life is hard enough without people who are supposed to be your friends making it harder.

Yesterday I said how I felt good but hey ho another miserable Sunday 😂 You know what's weird? It's August and I already dread Christmas. Because I know if I'm not out by then I will have another nervous breakdown.

It's so weird because I know I won't "have" OCD when I'm well rested. When I'm chronically stressed, it appears.

Why do sometimes our family and friends feel like a whole different job? I'm so burnt out with all this so called "love".

@snowfoxglove you'll always have ocd from experience but it's more manageable in less stressful situations. I've recent found myself agonising over an intrusive thought and it's driving me mad 😠 so tough to live in our minds. I'm up worrying about it now. Thinking of you all x

@Helplessandheartbroke Oh lovely, I know exactly how you feel. I had this Thursday and Friday and no matter what I did, I just couldn't get rid of it. It made me so mad.

Up myself and feeling 😠 too.

It helps immensely knowing I can be myself on here and it just makes me feel less alone.

Posting here didn't solve all my problems but it definitely did help me chatting with people who understood. Sending love to everyone as well 💐

@snowfoxglove and @Helplessandheartbroke hope you are both feeling a bit better today . Horrible not being able to stop thinking about things .

i had some bad anxiety back end of last week but weekend wasn’t too bad . Woke up feeling awful which I know is because of work but feeling slightly better half way through day. Think the sertraline may be starting to work a bit as feeling like I am not taking things as personally and stressing quite as much but we will see .

Thinking of you @popandchoc It really is hard when you have a lot going on and anxiety makes you worry about everything. Meds should help smooth things out so you are only bothered by very important details.

It took about 2 weeks (my case) for meds to start working and one more and then I was really sure.

You can do this.

And thanks for your kind thoughts 🙏

Does anyone mind if I use this as a way to just shout into the void for a minute please?

So I was on this thread before as Emma Emerald.

This time last year I was mid-nervous breakdown.

Massive improvements when I look at the last year, I'm okay to a large extent. I hope that posters in the thick of things can take heart from that 🫶🏾

Something I talked about here was loneliness. And not only does that go on .... but I'm shocked at how much it's a norm ...and no one wants to do anything about it or ....sees it as a good thing. I'm glad if people manage to reframe loneliness and either never feel it - or just enjoy the solitude...

but
I do worry what society will be like and what mental health will be like (for some of us) as a result. I won't put the analysis of all the "whys" on here as that would make for a boring essay! But there's maybe a good time/societal era for every type of person....the societal changes I dislike will be of great benefit to others and I have to accept that.

But some days are harder than others!

Hi Emma @EmeraldRoulette

I think a lot of the time, humour, sarcasm and excessive politeness block vulnerability and when there is no vulnerability there is no connection.

Which is perhaps I only made friends on this thread and not on others, even though I tried a lot to participate and be active on MN.

I feel too stressed with my DM to even try making friends offline TBF. I really want to but it's hard to just get basic things done.

I hope everyone on this thread is doing well. I do participate and care when I'm not overwhelmed with my own life.

I find loneliness brutal. The shift to most communications being via WhatsApp rather than spoken phone conversations has been really bad for me. I need to speak to people!! I'm only 45, the elderly must struggle with this so much more. We need human contact! I am contemplating splitting up with DP. I probably should (sexless relationship), but the fear of the loneliness is holding me back.

Hi all

Relating to so many posts on here and glad people have found a safe space to write and vent. It definitely helps. Hope tomorrow is better for everyone struggling x

Evening all. Reading and relating to all of these posts. This place feels like a safe haven at times where you can just let it out and feel heard.

Today my anxiety has calmed have just felt very tired probably from the recent intense anxiety. I accept now I will always have this but I can reduce it.

Hopefully in future the drugs to treat all mental health conditions will be better I read that one in ten people have anxiety and is it about 1 in 4 have some sort of mental health issue.

I agree it’s great to have somewhere just to let out what you are going through .
so sad that so many people do suffer though .

Morning ladies. Sorry to those of you struggling.
Having a slight dip myself. Have been feeling pretty well the last few weeks but last couple of days feeling the anxiety rearing it's head and getting some intrusive thoughts.
Always makes me worry when I feel like this that it will spiral out of control like last year when I was really ill.
I know it's unrealistic to expect to feel good all the time but when you've had a good spell it's a bit disheartening. Xx