General support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

I'm okay, I'm safe tonight 🥹 I have mental health tomorrow so going to speak about going back on meds but I've already tried sertraline, citalopram, fluoxetine, venlafaxine, lithium, mirtazapine and even ECT. I'm worried about whats next to even try or if there is even a solution. I know I need meds and was stupid to think I didn't.

Aw we haven't been getting on lately, I haven't been present in our marriage and he's found that really hard to deal with so we just had a big blow up where he was ready to leave but after talking and me apologising for the way I am etc we are going to see how we get on xx

@hk1993x breathe! Get a nice early night and plenty of rest. Tomorrow's a new day lovely. Every marriage has its ups and downs and through some MH struggles in with it and it can be hard work but yous will get through it. Good luck for tomorrow x

Thank you 🥹 hope your good xx

I'm OK and here for a handhold x

Morning,all. Just checking in, hope your mental health appointment offers something for you, @hk1993x 🤞🏻🤞🏻. It’s disheartening when ther appears to be little available to meet your needs. Thinking of you all.
I had an assessment with the mental health nurse yesterday, and she is going to discuss me with her colleagues at an interface meeting, to see if there’s anything they can offer me in the way of psychotherapy, or some such. I’m fully aware there may be nothing they can offer apart from support, and that’s ok, but the fact that she recognised that, and actually HEARD me, was just so valuable after all these years.

@UseOfWeapons Would it help for me to post my thoughts on trauma?

Good morning everyone. How are you all today?

Thank you for thinking of me @snowfoxglove im glad to hear you’ve been doing a bit better, try not to beat yourself up if you have a bad weekend, even those without a mental health problem have good and bad times, just remember you have felt better and you will again!

so sorry your having such a tough time of @hk1993x 😔 I really hope you can find a way through and get on a medication that can actually make a difference for you. I hope you work things out with hubby too, just remember it’s not your fault you are like this, you are unwell and are trying so hard to get better!

how are u @Helplessandheartbroke ?

im doing ok right now but its taken a good 5 months to get to a place where im finally seeing the positives in life again. For anyone just starting out on meds, you really do need to give it time to feel the real benefits so dont give up! X

How are u @JamSandle ? I’m ok today just wish this weather would get better, things always feel better when the suns shining!

Thanks @Helplessandheartbroke I'm in the north, but too far north and too out in the sticks.

Has anyone here used a private therapist? If so what is your experience? How do you pick one and did it help?

I'm fed up being so sad and crying all the time. The anxiety is eating me alive. I sometimes feel like ending it all but the other half of me wants to live and be happy. I hate that my kids see me cry almost everyday, I hope one day they can forgive me for it 🥺

@hk1993x I don't know if you remember but we had a brief DM conversation a while ago, happy to pick that up again if you like.

Feeling a bit better now my medication seems to be working. But also concerned it might stop working. It can make a real difference when it all works well.

Oh gosh I'm like this a lot too (only no kids). I hope you can take comfort knowing you aren't alone and this is a place where people understand and can support.

Yes. I have one now. It's talking therapy and does help. I normally feel really good after a session but bad the next day. I do also take medication. I still struggle a lot but the two things do help.

I called my mental health team, the woman I was seeing has called in sick they don't know when she will be back, they gave me someone else I don't even know or haven't met, she sounded so un empathetic on the phone 🥹 I phoned my GP surgery today and seen an advanced nurse practitioner who actually gave me hug ❤️ I asked to go back on medication and she said she would prescribe it but had to check in with MH team as she didn't want to step on anyones toes, got a call back and she said she was so sorry they said I need to wait to see consultant which is the end of next week, I phoned MH team back up and they said they are totally full and can't see me until my appointment next week so basically I have to survive until then, the receptionist was so rude and had zero compassion and made the point there are other people waiting weeks for help. So lost and don't know where to turn to now 🥹

Hi all

Sorry been a mad few days! Going away today and can't sleep... typical! Thanks for asking @Whycantgiraffesdance I'm not too bad. How are you? @fara20 if you're already up that way have you considered Scotland? Much cheaper cost of living at least as far as accommodation and beautiful country!

@hk1993x what did the MH team say when you saw them?

That I have to wait to see consultant next week 🥺 hope you have a lovely holiday xx

Woke up happy but having a dip. I find the day really hard.

@Helplessandheartbroke have a lovely holiday, I hope you get some time to relax and forget your worries for a while?

I hope you manage to get through the next week until your appointment @hk1993x how are things with your husband?

anything in particular happened today @JamSandle or just having a down day?

it is so hot here today! Think it’s only meant to last one day but I can’t be bothered to do anything when it’s this hot! 🥵

Hi @Whycantgiraffesdance. How are you today?

I think its a mix of things I'm going through, emotional dysregulation and ADHD. My moods can be very up and down. I've just finished sobbing and feeling calmer.

Things are a little better between us, he's taking me out for some dinner tonight but I feel like i dont want to go cause im so anxious 🥹 and yeah me too, feeling so unwell too which doesn't help 😔 just fed up with it xx

How is everybody doing? Some nice weather at least so hopefully it should help.

@fara20 I was considering seeing a private therapist but they charge something like 75£ per 50 minutes and it just didn't sit well with me.

Like @JamSandle I would feel relief but then bad the next day. For me it helps talking about future and hope and goals and they would focus on my problems and I would just feel like having even more problems.

@Helplessandheartbroke @Ilovedogs1 @Whycantgiraffesdance How are you lovely ladies doing? How is everyone else doing?

Anyone reading this please remember that most of us have been through depression and anxiety so if anything you won't be judged and people here will have empathy for you.

Sending everyone UnMumsnetty hugs 💐

@snowfoxglove Yes, I was scared to even look at what they charge. I've seen some that are around £50, which is still a lot. And I worry that I'll hand over a load of money and still won't feel better about myself. I can't see a way forward by myself though.