General support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

@Whycantgiraffesdance yes still doing it. Not sure if it's helping tbh @Amsterdammit I've become lazy with it though and not really doing my homework.... did you?

@fara20 is there anyone in RL you can talk to?

@hk1993x please go back to your gp. Youre clearly struggling.

Cbt this morning and docs tomorrow for me. Dont really know what I'm hoping for. I feel I've just ruined huge parts of my life and made so mistakes and keep making them! I'm almost 35 I should be growing out of this by now I'm a mum for goodness sake! Sorry rant over

@Helplessandheartbroke , rant away, it’s healthy! I have an appointment with the mental health nurse at my GP practice on Monday, and she will do an assessment to take to the Mental health MDT. She knows I’m sceptical about certain therapies, and no antidepressants. I just feel that my response to trauma, an abnormal situation, was completely normal, so a trauma-informed response is needed.
I hope for us all, there is something good that happens today. 💐

@UseOfWeapons do you want to talk about your trauma and response? I personally find sharing on here therapeutic but its not for all

Hi all

How is everyone?

I had therapy later but its been cancelled. Could really have done with it so quite upset now.

@JamSandle I'm not too good. Doesn't sound like you are either... have they rescheduled?

Yes rescheduled for Saturday.

What's wrong @Helplessandheartbroke ?

No I'm not doing good. Struggling emotionally and mentally and things aren't letting up.

It felt like life was going so well and now its just such a struggle.

@JamSandle what do you thinks made you take a step back?

I'm just fed up with myself tbh x

Is there a particular theme in this group - anxiety, for example - I can help with?

Fed up with yourself why?

Just a mix for me of:

*breakup grief and guilt

• high workload
• problems in the family
• ADHD
• Depression/anxiety

It just feels a lot to carry all the time.

@hk1993x i think sometimes the people around us say things out of frustration, not even with us but the fact that we’re not getting the right help/ things that are meant to help aren’t working etc. my mum is one of my biggest supporters but when I was at my worst and couldn’t see any light at the end of the tunnel even she was getting annoyed at how negative I was being! Has being off your meds made any difference do you think?

@Helplessandheartbroke sorry your struggling right now, I’ve put the idea of counselling on hold for now, I’ve always been a big fan of talking therapies but I sometimes wonder if I’ve spent too much time dwelling on the past instead of trying to accept the things that have happened and try to move on. Have your nights got any better with your little one?

@fara20 how are u today?

@JamSandle do u have much support in real life, if not family then friends?

sending hugs to everyone xxx

@Eyesopenwideawake my main issue is the anxiety, my general mood is so much better but I can’t get past the initial morning anxiety!

Hi all, hugs to everyone.
GP called this morning to review my medication. He was kind and took time to talk to me. I'm going from 20 to 40mg fluoxetine. And 7 zopiclone for sleep which he expects to last me a month. I also got taken off the online CBT course and on the waiting list for one to one. I don't know how long that takes, I got a letter saying they'd contact me every 4 weeks so probably quite a while.
I got so down after coming back here on Friday where I don't want to live. But I haven't cried today so that's an improvement I guess.

Im still under community mental health and have the psychiatrist on the 22nd I think so will see what he says. I don't know what to do. Scared to go back on meds, scared to stay off them. Feeling mega lost.

@Whycantgiraffesdance It can become a habit to scan for anxiety first thing in the morning, especially when your 'get the fuck outa bed' cortisol surge strikes (which is completely normal).

It really helps to take a moment and let your rational mind analyse what the anxiety is trying to telling you. If it's "get up, get up, you've got XYZ to do today and they are all important tasks", treat that as a slightly over attentive PA who means well but needs to calm down a bit. Take control and make your own choices over what is the priority.

If it's "OMG, what are we going to worry about today?" then take a deep breath and talk to those emotions in the same way you'd talked to a child who's worried about random 'stuff'. Say out loud or internally - "I'm a adult, I will keep me safe and I will deal with any challenges the day brings in the same way I always do, I will cope. So you don't need to panic because I've got this." Because that's what humans do. They cope, they adapt, they come up with solutions - maybe not perfect but good enough. Once the subconscious knows there's an adult in charge it will relax.

HTH!

@Whycantgiraffesdance I 100% understand what you mean about dragging up things in the past etc.... youre doing so well atm x

@JamSandle you're going through a grieving process. Give yourself time. What do you feel guilty For?

I keep dwelling on mistakes and not liking myself very much....

@Eyesopenwideawake great advice as always! I suffer mostly with GAD but also OCD so intrusive thoughts and compulsions. How are you?

Hope everyone has a good day x

Because the break up was my fault.

Thank you @Eyesopenwideawake that makes perfect sense, I’m my own worse enemy as if there’s nothing to worry about I’ll find something!

eyesooenwideawake- this is brilliant and so helpful, thank you.

If it's "OMG, what are we going to worry about today?" then take a deep breath and talk to those emotions in the same way you'd talked to a child who's worried about random 'stuff'. Say out loud or internally - "I'm a adult, I will keep me safe and I will deal with any challenges the day brings in the same way I always do, I will cope. So you don't need to panic because I've got this." Because that's what humans do. They cope, they adapt, they come up with solutions - maybe not perfect but good enough. Once the subconscious knows there's an adult in charge it will relax.

@Helplessandheartbroke What northern cities would you suggest?

Hi all

Hope everyone's had a good weekend! @JamSandle noones fault sweet. Dont put so much blame and pressure on yourself!

@fara20 I'm from Manchester so I'm biased! But Yorkshire is gorgeous too. Yorks lovely, Hull, Beverly, Huddersfield. Is there a city you know people in that is nice and affordable?

@Helplessandheartbroke Thanks. Yes, Manchester and York are nice definitely, but too expensive for me I guess. No I don't know anyone.

Hi all @Helplessandheartbroke @Dawn1331 @EmmaEmerald @Ilovedogs1 @JamSandle @Whycantgiraffesdance @hk1993x @Takemeback2thestart and everyone else I haven't "met" yet.

How have you been holding up this summer? I was doing a bit better than all of a sudden I got overwhelmed with life this weekend, and it seemed like it was all getting a bit much. At least here I know I don't have to pretend to be okay all the time if that makes sense.

@fara20 the centres will be too expensive but if you look on the outskirts it must be cheaper than down south? Cheshires gorgeous too. Inbox me your budget and I can have a nosey if you like?

@snowfoxglove I was thinking about you the other day! Hi! Anything you want to talk about from weekend? X

@Helplessandheartbroke I was thinking about you too, I actually meant to PM you this weekend because there was so much going on, but I thought how you have too much on your plate for me to bother you 😅How have you been doing lovely? xx Getting enough sleep? Eating healthy?

I see @Eyesopenwideawake joined us. Brilliant poster, I have seen many of their posts and they always have wise things to say. Thank you for your advice 🙏

How is everyone else? I haven't heard much from @kielyflower but I suppose that's a good sign, isn't it? Either way, I'm so grateful for this thread where I don't have to be perfect but just be myself.

Hi everyone. Struggling so much, had a massive fight with hubby, we are trying to work things out. Feel like running away and not coming home but trying to stay strong. I think I need to go back on meds xx

@snowfoxglove pm me anytime sweet! It's nice to unload! I'm here any time x

@hk1993x are you ok? Did you speak to gp? What's going on sweet x