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General support thread 2

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Helplessandheartbroke · 17/04/2024 19:39

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

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JamSandle · 20/05/2024 14:16

fara20 · 20/05/2024 14:13

Because none of them have lasted. Either I've f*ed it up or they've done something that upset me.

Would you be willing to try again to start some new friendships gently and slowly?

fara20 · 20/05/2024 14:21

I would if the chance arose.

Helplessandheartbroke · 20/05/2024 19:27

Sorry ladies just catching up. How are yous? If you were in NW @fara20 I'd be your friend just don't be round me when I'm drunk! Anxiety has been horrendous today x

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JamSandle · 20/05/2024 20:24

fara20 · 20/05/2024 14:21

I would if the chance arose.

Happy to be online friends :)

fara20 · 20/05/2024 20:46

Thank you both that is really so kind, it has cheered me. @Helplessandheartbroke North West or North Wales?!

Helplessandheartbroke · 21/05/2024 13:33

@fara20 sorry North West! But as you're not more than happy to be online friends too. I've mentioned this before but it anyone fancies a WhatsApp group, let me know x

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JamSandle · 21/05/2024 13:34

I'd love a WhatsApp group but only have the app on my phone and can't PM.

Helplessandheartbroke · 21/05/2024 13:35

Can you open in a web browser to PM?

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Ilovedogs1 · 22/05/2024 09:30

Morning all. After a wonderful week away where my OCD was relatively minor I'm now feeling anxious and tired.
I hate it when I've had a good spell then feel bad again.
I read on another post about OCD about how the poster said they have had to come to terms with the fact that they will always have to manage their OCD and that it will always be lurking as that is just how they are wired. I know this is something I need to do aswell but it's hard.
I know there are plenty of other people dealing with many things but sometimes I feel I'm the only broken one.
Sorry for the moan . Hope your all ok. Xx

robinshields · 22/05/2024 09:45

@Ilovedogs1

I am sorry to hear you’re having a tough time, it can be so hard when things have been okay and then it dips again.

I think it was me who mentioned the being wired stuff under a different username (I changed for this thread so that my SiL wouldn’t be able to find me here!).

It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact I will never be rid of my OCD. But now that I have come to terms with this somewhat, it has taken the pressure off a little weirdly? There is no way of curing myself however hard I try so instead I can focus on the steps I can take to improve things.

are you having treatment for your OCD at the moment?

JamSandle · 22/05/2024 09:54

Ilovedogs1 · 22/05/2024 09:30

Morning all. After a wonderful week away where my OCD was relatively minor I'm now feeling anxious and tired.
I hate it when I've had a good spell then feel bad again.
I read on another post about OCD about how the poster said they have had to come to terms with the fact that they will always have to manage their OCD and that it will always be lurking as that is just how they are wired. I know this is something I need to do aswell but it's hard.
I know there are plenty of other people dealing with many things but sometimes I feel I'm the only broken one.
Sorry for the moan . Hope your all ok. Xx

There is definitely power in accepting our wiring to some degree. I'm anxious and always have been. If I accept that I can be less hard on myself and feel less weird. It doesn't mean I'll stop trying and practicing but the fight is exhausting. Acceptance of the self is more peaceful.

fara20 · 23/05/2024 08:48

Hope everyone is doing OK.
Having a lot of trouble sleeping, can't switch off my thoughts and worries. Tried listening to meditations but they don't help. Dreading the weekend when I don't have work to keep me occupied.

JamSandle · 23/05/2024 09:27

fara20 · 23/05/2024 08:48

Hope everyone is doing OK.
Having a lot of trouble sleeping, can't switch off my thoughts and worries. Tried listening to meditations but they don't help. Dreading the weekend when I don't have work to keep me occupied.

I always dread weekends too. Without structure my mental health really suffers. It's a long weekend too which makes me feel more scared.

fara20 · 23/05/2024 12:08

JamSandle · 23/05/2024 09:27

I always dread weekends too. Without structure my mental health really suffers. It's a long weekend too which makes me feel more scared.

Yes, the long weekend is not good for me either. I wish I could just sleep a lot like I used to be able to.

Whycantgiraffesdance · 23/05/2024 15:20

I can relate @JamSandle @fara20 i need to have something planned at the weekend to distract myself from my thoughts! Even if it’s just a walk in the sunshine! X

Ilovedogs1 · 24/05/2024 11:04

robinshields · 22/05/2024 09:45

@Ilovedogs1

I am sorry to hear you’re having a tough time, it can be so hard when things have been okay and then it dips again.

I think it was me who mentioned the being wired stuff under a different username (I changed for this thread so that my SiL wouldn’t be able to find me here!).

It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact I will never be rid of my OCD. But now that I have come to terms with this somewhat, it has taken the pressure off a little weirdly? There is no way of curing myself however hard I try so instead I can focus on the steps I can take to improve things.

are you having treatment for your OCD at the moment?

Hey. I've had CBT several times for my OCD and I've been on meds for a long time. I'm presently having sessions with a certified peer support specialist which I am finding helpful. Just finding the continuous ups and downs exhausting atm. My mind never feels quiet, always something going on. I have had some routine blood tests done recently and I'm apparently deficient in vit D and B12 so that could be a contributing factor. Feeling quite anxious today but trying just to roll with it. Xx

fara20 · 24/05/2024 14:12

@JamSandle @Whycantgiraffesdance Hopefully we can help distract each other a little over the weekend.
I took antihistamine sleep aid last night (which I had forgotten I had) and managed to sleep until about 6 today. I really need to break the cycle of waking up at 2am.
I have an interview for a remote contract job next Monday morning. I'm travelling down by train the day before. I'm extremely nervous about the whole thing. Even little tasks are daunting to me right now, and this feels like a massive thing with lots of parts to get through.

JamSandle · 24/05/2024 15:44

fara20 · 24/05/2024 14:12

@JamSandle @Whycantgiraffesdance Hopefully we can help distract each other a little over the weekend.
I took antihistamine sleep aid last night (which I had forgotten I had) and managed to sleep until about 6 today. I really need to break the cycle of waking up at 2am.
I have an interview for a remote contract job next Monday morning. I'm travelling down by train the day before. I'm extremely nervous about the whole thing. Even little tasks are daunting to me right now, and this feels like a massive thing with lots of parts to get through.

We definitely can. Very happy to be distracted.

Can you tell us more about the job? Only natural to be nervous. I get so nervous too. Is there a reward you can treat yourself to once its finished?

fara20 · 24/05/2024 16:15

It's a kind of administrator job for a company that does IT systems for retail. As well as the interview there's going to be an Excel test. I'm quite rusty so have been practicing today. The travel makes me nervous too, I found it difficult last time to sit on the train for so long.
What have you been up to today?

fara20 · 26/05/2024 10:21

Nobody here?

Ilovedogs1 · 26/05/2024 10:37

Hey. I'm here. How are you feeling about your interview? I think that people who suffer anxiety etc but still push on are very strong. That's exactly what you are doing. X

fara20 · 26/05/2024 10:48

Hi @Ilovedogs1 How are you?
I have an interview on Tuesday as well now. On Teams. I'm just so nervous trying to prepare.

JamSandle · 26/05/2024 12:03

fara20 · 26/05/2024 10:48

Hi @Ilovedogs1 How are you?
I have an interview on Tuesday as well now. On Teams. I'm just so nervous trying to prepare.

This is amazing! You'll be just fine. What's the role?

JamSandle · 26/05/2024 12:05

fara20 · 24/05/2024 16:15

It's a kind of administrator job for a company that does IT systems for retail. As well as the interview there's going to be an Excel test. I'm quite rusty so have been practicing today. The travel makes me nervous too, I found it difficult last time to sit on the train for so long.
What have you been up to today?

Just seen this so ignore my question. You'll be great I'm sure. How is the prep going? I always like to record myself answering questions on my phone so I can see if I'm happy with my responses.

I'm okay. Been with my dad this weekend and he can really test me. He is very moody. Leaves me on edge.

I'm seeing a friend tomorrow and have booked a few health appointments and check ins. Proud to have got a few things moving!

Also trying to stay off of social media so I can focus on my own healing atm. I dont include Mumsnet in that.

JamSandle · 26/05/2024 12:06

Whycantgiraffesdance · 23/05/2024 15:20

I can relate @JamSandle @fara20 i need to have something planned at the weekend to distract myself from my thoughts! Even if it’s just a walk in the sunshine! X

Have you managed to keep yourself distracted?