Anyone else sad and want to hand hold?

[Helplessandheartbroke]

Mumsnet has really helped me pull put of a possible breakdown and while I'm out of the worst of it, I'm still very sad. I'm crying to myself now so I can put on a brave face in the morning.

I agree. I think often people who are emotional and sensitive or struggle with mental health have more compassion because we know how it feels.

I beat myself up about the past and mistakes too. Some things were on purpose and selfish and others were genuine mistakes made as you grow. But it can also help to see your successes and lessons too so that the view of yourself is more balanced.

If you weren't a good person you wouldn't worry about being a bad person. Interesting paradox to consider! 💚

@JamSandle thank you. That is an interesting paradox.

I keep dwelling on things I should have done for my dog before he died and feeling guilty having him pts. I blame myself for ds being asd and feel like a shit mum and just a shit person in general!

How are you today x

How is everyone tonight? X

Very anxious tonight. Busy day in work, a few problems this afternoon, and now I'm overthinking everything. Got home from work, my parents were looking after dc. My dad was shouting/speaking horribly to one of my sons, dh comes in from work and is grumpy and doesn't speak to me very nicely. I feel like crying. I do so much for everyone all the time and just feel sad and anxious tonight.

Im alright today. Busy day at work but not a bad one, made dinner and done my food shop so rest of the evening is mine. Into the office tomorrow for a change of scene. Are you doing alright today?

@JamSandle you're doing so well! Loving how positive you sound atm. I'm not too bad today thank you, had a decent sleep so that helped x

@Alwaystired23 that sounds like a lot to deal with no wonder you're feeling it! Can you go and take an hour for yourself? Read/have a bath? If you need to cry then cry it can sometimes help x

Feeling exhausted for months.
My Dad died in Nov after a long battle with dementia.
My mother has gone more detached from us as has her own chronic pain and mobility issues. I was always there for them esp during covid then my adhd + bipolar brother movedinto family home, took over their care. Was given The roof over their head and dictated when we could stay [ we live 3 hrs away ] so it is hard not to stay. Huge change for me.. thought I had coped, then i was diagnosed with a rare auto immune form of scarring alopecia where there is frontal hair loss. I know in my heart and soul no one notices yet but i used to love clothes, love make up and shopping and now i just feel joyless. Went to a massive SC on sunday and just bought T towels. Mortgage soon to be paid off from a rental house sale so zero money worries. Have a very nice Hb and kids im just joyless. Have a birthday this weekend and we are going to a hotel for 2 nights and all i want to do is stay in bed
Omg what is wrong with me.
Previous to covid,massive fall out with extended family and we were ostracised, my mum. Dad and siblings and myself and not allowed visit an adored aunt ( row over farm land ) but really her neices wanted to be indispensable to this elderly aunt and receive every bit of her wealth. Off with them but i was devastated not to see my aunt who was a total pet. Just so much stress. I domt know how to get out of this lethargy and sadness and apathy. Would therapy help ??

@Radyward I'm sorry to hear about your dad, plus all the other family issues. No wonder you're feeling down! I'd definitely reach out to your gp I think counselling might help. Have you considered meds?

I've woke up with horrendous anxiety today my heart is racing. Hope everyone has a good day x

Hey how is everyone x

Does anyone else have physical symptoms of feeling low and having anxiety like not feeling very well? My anxiety comes and goes but it's bad today

@oceanwaveswater yes I spoke to my gp about physical side effects last week and he's given me propranolol. Hope you're ok x

How is everyone doing? I had what I can only describe as a nervous breakdown at the weekend. I felt like everything was getting overwhelming in my life. Busy weekend, where I had all childcare responsibilities, DH met up with friends he rarely sees with one of the DC. I have been in tears a lot recently, heavy loud sobs. My eldest DS (16) spent ages with me hugging me and saying everyone at home needs me. Unfortunately this is not the first time I have been like this. I am thinking it's probably for the best I speak to a GP as there's obviously something amiss.

I often feel panicky. Like I have lack of control over certain aspects of my life. DH doesn't really understand.

@Vettrianofan yes please speak to gp. Is there anything particular triggering you?

Feeling alone a lot. Putting on a brave face for others in the outside world and masking how I feel about things. It seems like I must do this for several months and it all just comes to a head and floodgates just open. Been like this for years before having my own family, before meeting DH. Have said to him that I should have just stayed single as life is very complicated being part of a family. That's how I genuinely felt the other day. I panic if he plans to meet his friends who he hardly sees as life is stressful with the youngest DC. Youngest one possibly has ASD, still awaiting assessment. Lots of meltdowns. It's exhausting. Sorry for offloading. I know many on this thread have it so much worse. Big hugs to everyone struggling daily❤️

@Vettrianofan don't apologise thats what we're hear for. We all need somewhere to offload, get a hand hold and tomorrow you might hold someone else's. Do you have close friends or a hobby where you can take some time for yourself? My ds is asd and I know how difficult it can be. Have a bubble bath and a glass of wine whatever will help you relax x

@Vettrianofan have you ever considered that you have ASD, it's harder to diagnosis in women bit what you describe as masking and then having a meltdown/breakdown is what my colleague who has autism suffers from. She also suffers terrible anxiety along with it. I would definitely talk to your GP you could ask for.an assessment for yourself as well.

I've been ill the last two days horrible cold so been in bed. Oddly enough I haven't had any anxiety symptoms while being ill or migraines for that matter either. DS has been off school ill to but worse of all DH's anxiety has flared up, which has meant he's also had to start taking propranolol again and I've had to stay away from him as he's to worried about catching my cold so I've been sleeping in the spare room.

@oceanwaveswater I definitely find my anxiety comes and goes. Sometimes I can be fine and others not. I'm thinking I should start taking drugs again to help.

@Radyward therapy is often worth try, I had some last year and found it useful. I had talking therapy bit DH has a kid of more advanced CBT therapy which he found useful.

I hope everyone has a good day tomorrow.

Sorry to hear this and reading everyone’s posts

I am also very tearful and upset today. I feel
so alone. I tried to chat to a school mum today and she very obviously wasn’t interested in speaking to me. We had a playdate in the summer which I thought went very well and met up again in September but everytime I see her she feels off. I think I have autism so social situations confuse me.

I have a DH whose very cold and unloving. My new neighbours are too “busy” to come over for tea, I moved here 6 months ago and feel so lonely and isolated.

life really sucks sometimes

Oh and I'm sorry about my phone that keeps putting bit instead of but in my sentences. It's so annoying and I keep having to correct all my posts.

@HelpWBD it's hard when you move and don't know anyone. I'm not great at making friends myself so sometimes feel I only have my work colleagues. I don't always think school mums are a great place to make friends often they are only interested in their DC's and not that bothered about being friends with other parents.

Well ds has been awake since 1.45am (asd) 2 nights in a row and I'm exhausted 😩

@MigGirl sorry to hear you're not well and dh is struggling too that much be difficult to juggle! And having a poorly ds too! I feel for you x

@HelpWBD try not to overthink these social situations as it will make you paranoid, I've been there! Just sadly not everyone's has friendly as you but that's their problem x

@MigGirl @Helplessandheartbroke thank you both. I hope you are doing well today. How’s your day been?

how is everyone else feeling today?

I am going through this at the moment and am having a bit of a meltdown. I’ve had muscle twitches the last month, all over. I am down a deep dark anxiety hole and I can’t get out of it.
Feels like all the joy has gone from things I was excited for or looking forward to because I’m scared of what’s to come for me. Have self diagnosed myself with MND and am petrified.

I havent (before now) experienced physical anxiety symptoms. I hope that’s all mine are…I just want to be normal. I hope you’re okay

@HelpWBD sorry for my spelling mistakes I hope it made sense. How are you today? I'm utterly exhausted which makes my MH a lot worse and my ocd with overthinking is always heightened when I'm tired.

@SB1712 hi! Sorry you're feeling like this. Is there anything triggering you? Also what's MND? Sorry I'm not good with abbreviations. I get physical side effects like panic attacks etc gp has put me on propranolol for this. Has you spoken to your gp for help?

@Helplessandheartbroke i can imagine you must be exhausted with DC being awake since 1:45. I hope tonight is better for you! I’m exhausted too. House is such a mess. I couldn’t even find matching socks for kids today I feel awful. Putting them to bed now and I’m plan to stay up till 11:30 and clean. Won’t get all of it done but will hopefully get the basics sorted

@HelpWBD don't put too much pressure on yourself. It'll still be there tomorrow. Going to try and get some sleep now, maybe you could too?

Hi OP, how's your day been?

I'm struggling too. I've had depression for many years. I moved not long ago to be nearer elderly mum and have no friends - only had one where I lived before anyway, she doesn't drive so I have to visit her, which I'm doing Saturday and looking forward to, but I wish I could make friends closer to home. I know people say, go to groups etc, but it's not that easy due to lack of money and other things. I have a chronic health problem and don't work. I can't go to exercise classes for this reason, plus they'd have to be paid for. I need to lose weight, but eat because I'm bored or sad or frustrated. I can't even carry out my hobbies (crafts) for long due to pain. Just fed up of being lonely and having no money. Sorry for the rant.