General support thread - come on in

[Kielyflower]

I couldn’t see a recent one of these so thought I’d start one.

I just feel I need to do something positive so will hopefully share some more thoughts later that I hope will help - others as well as myself.

In the meantime, feel free to check in as, if nothing else, it helps to feel less alone.

Brilliant! Well done on nourishing yourself with some food and drink. And self care with a nice bath and a book. That’s really positive. I’m glad you liked the blogpost!

Of course you can use the thread for that - anything that helps!

Sleep well everyone x

That’s not boring! That’s a great update. Well done for today. Have you any plans about what you’d like to manage tomorrow?

I'm in tears. Had some real knocks this year already and don't know how to keep going. 34 and I feel my life is over.

Please do. It would brighten my day to hear your updates.

@JamSandle I'm so sorry you are feeling that way. I recently found this thread useful on life transforming after a difficult patch

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4570592-have-you-ever-had-a-few-awful-years-then-life-became-amazing-again

I hope it helps!

I'm so glad daily updates are welcome, it will help me I think. Might try to include the odd photo to bring them to life a bit, inspired by @Jk24's tea mug!

Tomorrow I want to go the gym, to the shops, send some work related emails and tidy up a bit. Also take a walk as I've been so cooped up.

Morning everyone, I was fast asleep by 9.30pm which is unheard of! Think I needed it!

@JamSandle your life is far from over as if it was then mine is too! (Same age, shit few months) we will get through this together I promise. How are you this morning?

@Greenspace81 well done on the positives update! If you manage gym, shops, walk, work and cleaning today then wow!! If you only manage a couple of those things then great! Please do upload a brew pic. I hope today's a better day and please keep posting. Ladies on this thread help me regularly x

I just wanted to add, I told a close family member on Saturday that if it werent for my ds, I don't know if I would still be here....

For those who don't have children can you find a focus to keep you going through these hard times? I'm noway 100 percent but I no longer wish I weren't here. You've got to ride the waves as there is light at the end of the tunnel x

Good morning.

@Jk24 it's great that you got into bed for 9:30.

I am out of bed today but am looking at my list from yesterday and realising that part of my problem is the pressure I put on myself and my unrealistic expectations...

Thank you. I just feel I've gone through so much loss and change and have no idea what any of it is for. Not sure I want children but was happy with my partner and that's now done so just a bit lost.

Pretty much everyone is coupled up, owning homes and with kids. Even if you don't want all of that it's easy to feel defective and out of step/left behind.

I stay for my brother.

Oh man I do this too. What are the top 3 on your list?

@Greenspace81 ye separate the list now top 3 today and the rest tomorrow? It did seem a lot to achieve so don't be hard on yourself for it taking a little longer x

@JamSandle yes you need to be there for dB and for me! I enjoy our daily catch ups. Youre 34 most people only settle down in their 30s. Everything happens for a reason and one day in the future you will say to yourself 'this is why' x

Hi everyone, hope it is okay that I've joined this thread. I posted my own separate one too. I am really struggling and waiting on the crisis team coming out. @riley I was reading your post and I am in the exact same position as you. The ocd the intrusive thoughts and panic etc. I don't want to die either but I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place 😔 I have 4 beautiful kids, they are at school age now and an amazing husband. Why am I like this? Why can't this just leave me alone now. I am absolutely exhausted and don't know how much more I can fight it x

@hk1993x welcome lovely. I'm sorry you're struggling too. A few of us on this thread suffer with ocd so we can completely resonate with the intrusive thoughts etc. Please vent away, we're here for you!

Can you do 1 thing for yourself today? Not sure if you're working but can you take a short walk? Have a bubble bath? Read a book?

@Jk24 those are my husbands intitals lol 😊

Thank you for welcoming me, I'm a uni student but have had to take time off this last week due to this crisis with my mental health. Im still in my jammies after getting the kids etc away to school and sitting on the couch waiting for the crisis team to come out.

I just feel completely and utterly lost. Like I am a complete shell of myself. I'm trying everything I can possibly do to break this cycle but all I am doing is crying and panicking, then getting into a dissociative state of depression. I upped my dosage of fluoxetine 11 days ago and have no improvement yet either. I feel broken. I want to live soo so much but in stuck. I want to live for my family and my kids but I want my suffering to end now 😔 it sounds so selfish to think like that x

@hk1993x I have OCD and the intrusive thoughts are the worst. If your in a crisis atm you just need to concentrate on the basics, sleeping, eating etc.
But looking forward have you heard/read about ERP therapy? Its really hard going but I've found it really does pack a punch to the OCD. XX

I feel like I've been in a crisis for 11 days now with no relief 😔 It's frustrating because the trigger of all this is actually anxiety or if I feel the slightest bit unwell it all goes 😔 I'm just in survival mode now and I don't know how much longer I can keep in that x

@hk1993x I have another user name helplessandheartbroke this is an old user name on this thread.

Do you want to share any thoughts? I was pretty much in the mist of a breakdown at Xmas. I lost my ddog and blamed myself and felt horrendous guilt. Losing my beloved dog was the tip of a sinking iceberg for me after suffering badly with intrusive thoughts for months. I'm also on 60mg of fluoxitine how long have you been on altogether? I'm having cbt too x

I did it! I got a shower and walked round to the school to pick up the kids! My heart was racing and I was panicking but I did it 🥹

@hk1993x a massive well done! Do you feel better for it? Thats a huge step after 11 days in the house! X

@Greenspace81 how have you got on x

@Jk24 yeah I feel so happy I did it 🥰 I just hope it continues xx

@hk1993x only you can make it happen. I spotted your thread earlier. How did you get on with crisis team? X

@Jk24 the male nurse I got was amazing, he used to do one to one therapy etc before joining the crisis team. He made a lot of valid points and assured me that im not alone and this will pass. He is coming to see me tomorrow too, I'm just hoping that I can start to build up from today now. I'm absolutely shattered, excited to go to sleep for some rest but dreading the wakening up tomorrow, the morning tremors and panic are the worst 😔 thank you for messaging me xx

@hk1993x 100 percent you will go up from here. 1 step at a time. I'm glad you've got good support and we're here for you too. A good night's sleep and each morning will get a little easier. I couldn't get out of bed without being in floods of tears a few weeks ago x

So proud of you! These are big wins especially on difficult days.