Have you ever had a few awful years then life became amazing again?

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Sound like a daft question but have you ever gone through a dark, really miserable time that you thought you'd never recover from, then boom, suddenly all the bad stuff that happened started to make sense and life became really amazing again out of the blue ? Please tell me your happy endings?

Yes. I’m sure that people have had worse times, but I was dumped from a long term relationship, fired from one job, then fired from a second job, my flat share fell apart. I had no friends. Moved back in with my parents (who I didn’t get on well with) with no job, no friends, no relationship and a ton of debt. I was at rock bottom.

One year later I had managed to get an incredible, life changing job. I moved to a different city for it. On my second night out I met my now husband. I lived with an amazing group of random people. Ten years later I have a great career, a wide circle of friends, a husband, two beautiful daughters, our own house.

@Kfjsjdbd oh that is fabulous!!!! Gives me hope for the future. It's amazing how quickly life can change for the better xxx thanks you for sharing xx

I don’t think the good times “come out of the blue”. Good things are usually happening but you don’t quite believe it will be sustained so they aren’t celebrated or even acknowledged. So for me it was a slow realisation that I had to begin to enjoy these good times and believe they will keep coming.

Yes. I’m a teacher and in my 50s ended up on a “support plan”. I was devastated! The next 3 years we’re bloody awful but now I’m retired, a grandma and loving life again!

Yeah I died. Really - I was in an accident during which I clinically died, at the end of a few years of a horrible work situation in which I was completely isolated, working away from friends and family under terrible management. Anyway I got revived (obviously), was surprisingly undamaged (relatively speaking) and took voluntarily redunancy.

(PS a laptop belonging to the company got destroyed in the accident and even those people didn't have the nerve to bill me for it. 😁).

Yes, I was very very poorly for several years then found the right neurologist and slowly got my quality of life back to the point now I'm much better. It wasn't an instant fix and all the misery still doesn't 'make sense'.

But yes, times can get better. Awful when you're right in the thick of it though.

Yes. I had 3 years of hell after DS1 was born. Work treated me like crap because I’d dared to have a baby. The constant criticism and stress nearly drove me to a nervous breakdown.

I also had secondary infertility, lots of gynaecological issues, fertility treatment that kept failing work. Then had surgery for endometriosis (after it was finally diagnosed) which meant I did get pregnant but then I suffered multiple miscarriages including a missed miscarriage that required two D&Cs under general to resolve.

When DS1 was 3 I got a new job and then fell pregnant with DS2. Life has been great since but those awful years changed me deeply.

I should add - I then moved, live by my family and friends again, and got a role (same field) that is a hundred times better working on a project I believe in where I'm actually respected. And I get paid more. I also realised - after that workplace experience - that the highest position in my profession (which I thought I wanted at all costs) is in many cases a poisoned chalice.

Yes, after my mum died unexpectedly just after I’d moved to a new city for a new job. I had a couple of very difficult years, but 2 years later met my now DH.

2013 was a truly rubbish year for is. I was due to go back to work after maternity leave. Childcare was all sorted. With 2 weeks to go, work backtracked on the agreed reduction of hours. Nursery had no space available etc.
My lovely MiL was suddenly rushed in to hospital for a heart bypass.
DH was informed on DS first birthday that he was being made redundant (completely out of the blue).
Worst of all was that DS contracted Bacterial Meningitis (mis diagnosed three times before we were taken seriously!). He was incredibly ill and things really didn't look good.

Thankfully DS recovered but with long term issues. DH got a great new job, we moved to our long term family home in a lovely area and the DD arrived.

I feel very fortunate to be living our current life. I hope good times are on the horizon for you.

I'm still waiting, I have had a horrendous last 4 years hope I get my boom soon x

I really needed this thread just didn’t know I did so happy fir everyone and gives me hope 🤞

I don't think the good times came "out of the blue" but my life went from shit to 'the happiest I had ever been'.
It's now immeasurably shit again.

Thats an amazing story. Happy endings can be real.

Yes, my lovely MIL died, then my wonderful dad died, my mum was burgled and they took every sentimental peice of jewellery she had and I had to sort out my dad's business affairs as he left it in a mess. It was a horrid year and I never thought it would get better. It made me and DH stronger.

Now I have wonderful memories of MIL and dad.. my mum lives in a lovely place and we no longer have to worry about jewellery or my dads business. I do a job I love.

It does get better, the shit storm doesn't last forever.

I'm loving all your stories!!! It's so nice to hear that good things do happen. I honestly believe we all go through crappy times. most of the time it teaches us lessons and strengthens our resolve but my goodness sometimes it's hard to see the lesson being taught through the hardest of times x

Yes. At the end of university, about to graduate, world at my feet. Got involved with this awful guy and got pregnant. He turned out to be seriously emotionally and physically abusive. Had to move back in with my parents who I didn't get on with after DD was born and who told me daily what a fuck up I'd made of my life. Got involved with another awful man at a very low point and had another baby. Working in a shit, soul destroying job making tea for and being ordered around by idiots.

Now, I'm married to the most wonderful husband, live in a beautiful place, have a fantastic job and more DC, life is pretty perfect. And it truly was shit before, for several years. Don't give up hope.

@Bernadettebleu 🥰 I'm so sorry for what you went through Hun. Do you think that you had to go through those horrible times to lead you down the pathway to your now happy place ? I'm so glad you've got your perfect life

So this sounds like a few weeks of eastenders but I swear this series of events happened over a couple of years for me.
Had second child 3ams early- fine
DS made redundant
His previous 'heavy social drinking' tipped over into full on alcoholism..this was hell for about 2 years- our marriage very nearly collapsed, pretty sure he was unfaithful in some shape or form but I don't want to know
Close family member died
Another close family member disclosed sexual abuse within wider family, it went to court, wider family ripped apart
Close friend diagnosed with terminal cancer
Another close friend diagnosed with another life limiting disease
My own children barely slept a whole night between them
When I look back on it I have no idea how I got through but funnily enough at the time I just dealt with it..
life is now very good, but I'm always aware shit happens & im sure will again. That literally is what life is about isn't it?

No, mine has been shit since the mid 1990s and stayed that way.

I was widowed 3 years ago. The time between diagnosis and his death was 18 months, so for 4.5 years life has been pretty shit. This year I met my lovely Chapter 2, who has made me happy and is helping me get back to who I was before I became a carer and then ultimately a griefstricken widow. We may not be together forever, but he will always be the man who brought me back to life not existence.

Reading with hope. I had three significant traumatic events last year which I have no idea how I’m still standing. Yet here I am.

Not yet - from 14 to 40 my life has been a complete fuck up . But fingers crossed as they say, I hope I will get my happy ending🤞🏼

@Threebutterflies oh no! I really hope you get your turn very soon. We all deserve to be happy

Yes, life has been hellish hard twice. Changed profoundly by it both times but for the better, and the happiness feels more deep and bright because of these experiences.