General support thread - come on in

[Kielyflower]

I couldn’t see a recent one of these so thought I’d start one.

I just feel I need to do something positive so will hopefully share some more thoughts later that I hope will help - others as well as myself.

In the meantime, feel free to check in as, if nothing else, it helps to feel less alone.

Morning @Jk24.

I did manage to sleep. Woke up with a horrid knot in my stomach so going to shower and start work. How are you feeling today?

Morning @JamSandle pretty much the same but not had much sleep for 2 days now so it doesn't help. Work will be a good distraction for you. Do you live alone? Do you have any RL support?

I live with a parent and sibling so I I have support but am avoiding reaching out to wider people at the moment. Feeling too raw and fragile.

I'm sorry you've gone two days with poor sleep. How is your little one doing today?

Glad you've got some support. Have you heard off your partner yet? Feel free to pm if you want to discuss anything more private. Hes not 100 percent but he's on the mend x

This morning I did. He needs time and space to think. Giving that time and space is horrible!

I'm so scared we won't get another chance. I'm so clear I want us to work but am worried it's too late.

How is your day going today and how are you feeling?

@JamSandle whatever will be will be. If you're meant to be together you will be. Something I've learnt over the years. Everything happens for a reason. I kissed a few frogs before I met my soul mate. A lot of heartache too but if I knew then what I know now I wouldn't have wasted those tears... is this your first proper relationship?

I'm not too bad thank you just shattered x

No I've been through quite a few including a marriage. Never seems to get any easier! But your words are q comfort.

@JamSandle sorry I hope I didn't sound patronising! Just read it back. So you know what I mean then. If you're meant to be together you will be. Dont let him mess you about though. Give him a few days fair enough but don't let it drag on. You'll drive yourself mad.

It's the second time today someone has said if it's meant to be it will and that's comforting to me.

He has asked for time and space and I'm granting and respecting it but it's really painful.

I suspect he'll have an answer by the weekend...

How is the rest of your day going?

@JamSandle well ds has been asleep for over an hour so I'm guessing I'm going to be up all night which is making me rather anxious!!!

I feel like he needs to say OK were gonna work through this but give me some space or to say I'm sorry but I'm done....

I agree. But I am trying to give him the space to figure things out. So I'm being patient...but not enjoying it.

I hope you aren't up all night. Can you have a nap while he's sleeping or is it not that simple?

I cleaned and worked instead. I'm regretting it now hes wide awake!

How old is your DS? I hope he drifts off again soon so you can have a good rest.

Still not heard anything from my partner so the anxiety is high but I'm getting a bit calmer.

Got out of bed, showered, dressed, computer on and a quick walk.

I'm feeling very out of control and scared but trying to sit with it. In my head I keep saying acceptance and surrender.

You need to decide what you want now love. How long are you willing to wait?

He did message me today and said he still needs some time to process.

It is him I want.

DH is really struggling. He keeps crying and has had to come home from the office again to work from home. He's spoken to his union. Should he see the GP? He's being micro managed at work. He is an experienced member of staff.
I worry he will just have a breakdown

I definitely think he should see his GP. Does he have an EAP at work? They usually offer a therapy service that might also be helpful for him.

@Tarsandcase How have you been doing? Have you adjusted to Sertraline? Are you feeling a bit better? How's your sleep? First two weeks are hard for everyone.

@Jk24 @ilovedogs1 @Kielyflower How are things on your end? Thinking of you all xx

@JamSandle Good on you for getting out of bed, showering, getting dressed and computer. Sometimes when I can't do much, only doing that helps more than doing nothing.

@hamjamwitch Poor you. So sorry that your DH is struggling. It's hard not be affected when our loved ones suffer. Keep writing x

As for me, feeling okay. Still very lethargic and out of sorts. Trying to find small things during the day that bring me joy. Sleep pattern went topsy-turvy. Surprisingly had a lovely Valentine's Day. I needed that after my Christmas and NYE breakdown.

@snowfoxglove thank you for asking! I've gone on 60mg today and feeling OK for once. I definitely had a breakdown over Xmas and new year! Sleep pattern is shocking so going to Try and get some now. Glad you're feeling OK, hope you sleep well tonight.

Hope everyone else is OK x

Have a lovely and well deserved sleep @Jk24
😴

@JamSandle thank you wasn't great haha can't remember the last time I slept through the night. Over 4 years ago! Have you heard anything? X

He has messaged me and said he's really struggling and needs more time. Weekends are harder for me as I feel there's no routine. At work I can distract myself much more easily. I'm still feeling the same and trying to give him the time and space. Just feels so unpleasant being in limbo like this.

So you didn't have a great sleep? I hope maybe tonight is better. Are you a napper at all?

@snowfoxglove thanks for checking in! My GP advised me to take it before bed, as it could make me drowsy, but yesterday I switched it to the morning and had the best night's sleep in over a week. So I think I'll be sticking to the morning from now on. I'm feeling much better with it; less headaches and nausea.

@Tarsandcase which meds are you on?

@JamSandle I'm sorry you're still painfully waiting in limbo. Can you go out with friends tonight and keep yourself busy? If you're in Manchester I'd go for a drink with you 😅

No to napping not with a sen 3 year old I'm afraid. Feeling shit myself today. Saw a neighbour I've not seen in ages so told him about ddog just brought it all back.

@Takemeback2thestart @Kielyflower how are you both? X