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To ask for a suitable punishment for my children

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Workquestion11 · 09/08/2023 19:33

Most nights we take our youngest and our dog for a walk.
Never occurred to me to lock the back door (don't come for me, I know I know)

Just found out that my two children aged 5 and 6 have been opening our side gate and helping themselves to chocolate, money, juice anything pretty much

I'm so pissed off I don't know how to calm down

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Dinojump · 09/08/2023 19:54

I think you need to go to parenting classes before you blame your children.

Hufflepods · 09/08/2023 19:54

I can’t even imagine an infant school having cash around let alone a 5 year old having the freedom to wander around and steal money.

BansheeofInisherin · 09/08/2023 19:54

Add 3 more kids plus your dog and you have the plot for " Five run off to Kirrin Island". Lay in a few cans of sardines.

VinEtFromage · 09/08/2023 19:55

Is the kid you take with you, your favourite or least favourite??

what breed is your dog?

Maray1967 · 09/08/2023 19:55

GoodChat · 09/08/2023 19:43

The children don't play at the neighbours anymore as they're unsupervised and they accompany you on the dog walk in future.

This. The neighbours are clearly not looking after your children, whatever impression they may be giving. The DC all come with you now.

Zanatdy · 09/08/2023 19:56

i expect the neighbour isn’t watching the children as such, they are just left playing in their garden and you’ve gone out. Unacceptable leaving young children that age on their own essentially. The fact they are stealing money and hiding it under their bed is alarming, at their age. I’d be addressing that, and I would issue a punishment as despite the fact you’re in the wrong, they presumably know that they shouldn’t be taking money (food perhaps is another matter).

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Workquestion11 · 09/08/2023 19:56

Hufflepods · 09/08/2023 19:54

I can’t even imagine an infant school having cash around let alone a 5 year old having the freedom to wander around and steal money.

They have a tuck shop at break time which is run by some of the older children so yes there is cash laying about

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DaisyAndDonaldDuck · 09/08/2023 19:56

Workquestion11 · 09/08/2023 19:50

My daughter has stolen money from her own school, which I have posted about before
They hide it under their beds

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Something has gone very wrong somewhere in their parenting.

CalistoNoSolo · 09/08/2023 19:56

Crunchiethatfridayfeeling · 09/08/2023 19:46

What does bot thread actually mean? I see it posted a lot and don't understand.

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Generated by AI. MN really needs to get a handle on it.

GoodChat · 09/08/2023 19:59

VinEtFromage · 09/08/2023 19:55

Is the kid you take with you, your favourite or least favourite??

what breed is your dog?

I'm going favourite because they're too young to steal the chocolate and french bulldog Grin

Whattodo112222 · 09/08/2023 19:59

Op.. I think the problem here is you.

Maireas · 09/08/2023 19:59

So they go to an infant school which has a tuck shop? It's run by older children and they leave cash lying around, which yours have stolen?
Where do you live?

purplecorkheart · 09/08/2023 20:00

Your neighbour is suppose to be watching your kids? Do they know or more importantly have agreed? Or are you kids just told to play in neighbours garden as their kids are playing outside?

EnthENd · 09/08/2023 20:00

Say nothing. Put up a hidden camera. Because it might not be your children stealing the stuff...

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Workquestion11 · 09/08/2023 20:00

VinEtFromage · 09/08/2023 19:55

Is the kid you take with you, your favourite or least favourite??

what breed is your dog?

Neither.
Why does the breed matter?
I don't actually know because he is a rescue dog. I would put him up for adoption in a heartbeat but my partner is refusing

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NaomiS1 · 09/08/2023 20:00

OP please don't punish your children for this. Just don't leave them alone at such a young age.

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Workquestion11 · 09/08/2023 20:01

purplecorkheart · 09/08/2023 20:00

Your neighbour is suppose to be watching your kids? Do they know or more importantly have agreed? Or are you kids just told to play in neighbours garden as their kids are playing outside?

Yes they are fully aware
If they need to pop out for milk or anything I will watch their children
It's not every night as sometimes DP will just walk the dog or ill do it by myself but yes they were aware
The little one got tired so we weren't even out for long, back in 10 minutes

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Maireas · 09/08/2023 20:02

This is very bizarre. Not least the tuck shop thieving.

ZoeCM · 09/08/2023 20:02

What the fuck? What's wrong with a five- and six-year-old taking food from their own kitchen? Crazy.

Hufflepods · 09/08/2023 20:02

Workquestion11 · 09/08/2023 19:56

They have a tuck shop at break time which is run by some of the older children so yes there is cash laying about

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Seems incredibly unlikely. I can’t picture a single infant school that would be okay with infant pupils coming in with cash every day for a tuck shop.

If a 5 year old is stealing money from multiple different sources they are learning it from home …

hollyblueivy · 09/08/2023 20:02

Punishment - must always come on the dog walk in future so they cannot do the kind of things a child will do when left alone.

GoodChat · 09/08/2023 20:02

I would put him up for adoption in a heartbeat but my partner is refusing

This thread is telling us a lot of unpleasant things

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Workquestion11 · 09/08/2023 20:02

NaomiS1 · 09/08/2023 20:00

OP please don't punish your children for this. Just don't leave them alone at such a young age.

I'm not going to
And I'm not going to leave them with neighbor again, they either come with us or getting the youngest out will just do it 1-1

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HappyCatty · 09/08/2023 20:03

Why are you not taking all the children for a walk?

spitefulandbadgrammar · 09/08/2023 20:03

So you and your partner take the dog out and leave the children?