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stressedmum22 · 02/06/2022 10:25

I am having strong suicidal thoughts, I have no help. I'm on hold to crisis team. I don't want to be here I don't know where to turn. Can anyone talk to me please. I'm scared

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clippety clop · 04/06/2022 00:30

I've been thinking about you @stressedmum22. How has today been?

stressedmum22 · 04/06/2022 11:51

Thanks everyone for checking in.
Yesterday was a bit better but today is really shit. I'm so low. I keep wishing I wasn't a mum anymore. I'm so lonely and fed up of this life. Feels relentless with no light at the end of the tunnel...

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whowhatwerewhy · 04/06/2022 12:25

Do you have friends and family to support you

ItsOverFlo · 04/06/2022 12:56

Take the Mirtazapine. It is sedating, but this usually gets better. Prepare yourself for it taking a couple of weeks at least to work. But you've been feeling this awful for longer than that. If it doesn't help, then there other options.
Suicide may seem like a comforting thought right now and you believe that your kids are better off without you anyway. But that isn't true. Your crippling illness is tricking you into thinking that way.
Try to think about life where you are well again. This can happen.
Listen to your mental health team. It's understandable you don't want to confide in other people, don't feel bad about that. But the team is there to get you well again and you will get well again.
Just get through each day at a time.
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Basilbrushgotfat · 04/06/2022 13:08

keep wishing I wasn't a mum anymore

This is so telling. You're so low on resources you can barely function, so of course you feel incapable of being a mum right now. And wishing you weren't anymore, is simply your brain's way of saying "I can't do it, it's too much".

I'm not a mum, but I have been in this same, very dark place. I promise, it does get better. The more support you can have from your doctor, mh team, family and friends the better because you need to focus on taking care of yourself right now.

Just take things one hour at a time. What do you need between now and 2pm? To curl up and sleep? To eat or cry? Maybe go for a walk?

One hour at a time got me through the period you're in. Sometimes it's just staring at the TV, other times it's doing something that needs doing.

Don't expect too much of yourself right now, the bare minimum is absolutely fine.

Keep your blood sugars level. Eat something proper every day and try to eat regularly, even if you just graze. Keep drinking water and avoid anything that precipitates a drop in mood.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other, even if you do need to stop for a break, because in less time than you think you'll be planning in terms of 1 day ahead instead of 1 hour. Then 1 week, then a month.

You're doing fine, op and we're here for you.

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