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Need help please urgent

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stressedmum22 · 02/06/2022 10:25

I am having strong suicidal thoughts, I have no help. I'm on hold to crisis team. I don't want to be here I don't know where to turn. Can anyone talk to me please. I'm scared

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LetsGoCrazyPurpleBanana · 02/06/2022 10:26

I'm here xx

SophSoSo · 02/06/2022 10:27

I’m listening OP, I’m really pleased that you’re on hold to the crisis team - keep holding you’ll get through soon.

Do you feel able to present at AandE?x

Calvinlookingforhobbes · 02/06/2022 10:27

Can you call Samaritans? I’m here too

ChaosMoon · 02/06/2022 10:27

You are doing the right thing. Your reaching out to the right people.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Calvinlookingforhobbes · 02/06/2022 10:27

Reaching out is really brave. I’m glad you are here. Do you want to talk about things?

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stressedmum22 · 02/06/2022 10:28

Thank you
I am a rubbish mum, I am letting my baby down. I can't do it anymore

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mrsjackrussell · 02/06/2022 10:28

Im here. Please keep chatting to us. It will help.

Mammma91 · 02/06/2022 10:29

I’m here too OP. What has triggered you to feel this way this morning do you want to speak about it? Your doing the right thing reaching out and phoning the crisis team. Is there anything you want to talk through? X

SophSoSo · 02/06/2022 10:29

You’re not a rubbish mum, you’re struggling.

If you were a rubbish mum, you wouldn’t care that you thought you were letting your baby down.

How old is your little one? Being a mum is really hard isn’t it?x

Mammma91 · 02/06/2022 10:31

We’ve all felt that way Op. Baby’s are hard work. How old it your little one? I had bad PND with baby no 1. I couldn’t set a routine, he screamed a lot and had awful reflux and constipation since birth. I struggled and could’ve handed him back to the hospital at some points. He’s 3 now, we’ve discovered the reason for his constipation and he’s a lot happier and content now. It doesn’t last forever I promise but I know it doesn’t help now. Just know your not alone in feeling that way and it doesn’t make you a rubbish mum either x

mrsjackrussell · 02/06/2022 10:31

Your baby needs you more than you know. Hang in there and wait for them to answer. Thinking of you.

ChaosMoon · 02/06/2022 10:32

SophSoSo · 02/06/2022 10:29

You’re not a rubbish mum, you’re struggling.

If you were a rubbish mum, you wouldn’t care that you thought you were letting your baby down.

How old is your little one? Being a mum is really hard isn’t it?x

This is so, so true.

GetOffTheTableMabel · 02/06/2022 10:35

You are brave. You are here. You are needed. You matter. Your unhappiness matters. One minute at a time, One breath at a time if that is what is takes. Please stay with us.

DemBonesDemBones · 02/06/2022 10:37

I'm here. X

FandangoMango · 02/06/2022 10:37

You are not alone OP. You are not a rubbish mum and you are not letting your baby down. The fact that you have asked for help shows this. I have pnd and I felt like I couldn’t go on. I got help and things are so much better and I am enjoying my daughter. I promise you that it does get better. Sending hugs.

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stressedmum22 · 02/06/2022 10:37

They need a better a mum and I know there is a better one out there for them.

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Sapphire387 · 02/06/2022 10:38

Hello OP, really sorry to hear this. Having babies is incredibly difficult and can have a massive impact on your mental health. You're not letting anyone down, and you are absolutely doing the right thing calling for help.

I don't know if distraction helps, but today I am planning a jubilee tea party despite not being a royalist in the slightest. On Saturday, we're taking the kids out on one of those heritage steam railway trips. There are lovely things like this in your future. Simple things. Don't miss it - please stay.

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stressedmum22 · 02/06/2022 10:38

No one is answering the phone

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BattenburgDonkey · 02/06/2022 10:40

stressedmum22 · 02/06/2022 10:37

They need a better a mum and I know there is a better one out there for them.

They only have one mum, theyl never have another if you aren’t around. They will just have a gaping hole wondering why their mum left them. They need you to carry on fighting for yourself and for them. You are not a rubbish mum, and I can promise your kids don’t need a great mum anyway, they just need their mum, you, no matter what position you are in.

orwellwasright · 02/06/2022 10:40

You will get help. You will get better and you and your baby will be ok. It will not always feel like this, I promise. Try to slow your breathing and keep on hold until you get help.

mrsjackrussell · 02/06/2022 10:40

Can you call 999 or is it them that put you through to crisis team?

Theresamagicalplace · 02/06/2022 10:43

If you feel a danger to yourself please go to a&e if the crisis team isn't answering. Someone can help you there.

Sapphire387 · 02/06/2022 10:43

Also - is there anyone else you can call to just come and be with you? Is it just you and your baby right now?

One minute at a time. And another minute. And another minute. That is all you have to do for now. Just keep going for a minute at a time.

Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 02/06/2022 10:43

Hi @stressedmum22 you can call Samaritans on 116 123. They are there 24/7/365.

They can hold your hand.

Sending hugs

Speakuptomakeyourselfheard · 02/06/2022 10:43

If you've been holding with no response OP might you try Samaritans instead? Please don't feel like you're alone, and that the world would be better off without you, it wouldn't!! I've been where you are, please just keep breathing, concentrate on breathing in and out, slowly, while waiting for the phone to ring. Is there a family member you can call right now? Just someone to help you through this minute, if not, message back and I'll give you my number, I'm not qualified or anything, but you need to speak to SOMEONE and I'm happy to be that person if I can help at all.