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Mental health

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not going to be around much anymore

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 10:48

don't really know why I am bothering to even say. its not like anyone will even notice i daresay. i have got too much to deal with in RL and I don't feel like MN is helping really. No matter how much I try and post on here, i almost feel a bit ignored. its bad enough in RL. I feel like I am hitting rock bottom right now. Nobody on here can help, and I don't have anyone in RL either who can. I have got one RL friend round here and shes got enough to deal with as it is. So just in case someone happens to miss me, I probably won't be around much, if at all anymore. I can't help anyone on here with their problems, same as they can't help me. I had stuff on the for sale boards but nobody seemed to reply but in case anyone does, I am sorry. As usual. I am always the one whos sorry.

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mistletoepeaks · 11/12/2007 13:40

Angel. Please don't feel alone. You aren't. There are loads of us here to talk to. If you're having one of the 'ice-skating uphill days' as I call them (and I have a lot of them!!) then post to us. If you say how bad you are feeling you will get a response. If you're feeling a bit better then post on other threads and take your chances at being ignored. It happens. I looked in my history the other day. Out of 5 threads I'd posted on 4 had finished on my post (not good for the soul - being a thread-killer) The one that I didn't kill was the competition (not even I could kill that). If you ever need to smile remind me to tell you of some of my awful days. Days where I sat on the kitchen floor sobbing 'cus I didn't know what could happen next. These are days I now recount to people (minus the sobbing) people sob laughing at the tragedy of it - and it helps to put the next days into perspective and think I'll laugh at this in x weeks - why not just laugh now. . .

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AnAngelWithin · 13/12/2007 14:05

sorry yadda

no im not ok really. everything is going wrong.

mistletoe, i have never felt more alone in my life. ive done the sobbing on the kitchen floor this morning stupid things that are going wrong that feel 20 times worse.

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mistletoepeaks · 13/12/2007 16:13

I re-read your posts and I think maybe try to stop being perfect 90% of the time if it leads to 10% pure misery. Aim for 99.9% liveable slattern!! You putting way too much pressure on yourself to do everything. God I've only got 2 LO's and I just know where my limits are. I can look after kiddies, have a house with 1 tidy (ish) room and do a homecooked meal. Or look after kiddies have an immaculate house and order takeaway or ignore kiddies (can't do that one!!) have imaculate house, homecooked food. I cannot physically or emotionally do everything (and nowhere in my equations can I clear the ironing pile - its on a need to wear basis). Do you have a DP? If so does he expect everything from you? Mine kinda did till we had a sit down.
You're not alone (I'm here - albeit a bit late!!)

TwinklyfLightAttendant · 13/12/2007 16:18

I would notice, I have seen you around a lot

yaddayule · 13/12/2007 16:29

Oh crikey Angel, Mistletoe speaks a lot of sense (i very rarely do but try my best)

See you have been missed though !

sweetboy · 13/12/2007 16:31

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FoulOlRon · 13/12/2007 16:37

Angel; you would be missed.

Every single one of us on here contributes something, whether you are a Scapegoat, a Golden Girl, a Background Chorus, a Hugger, a Listener, a No-Nonsense Type, an Expert, a Wise Woman, a Comedian, a Tom-Fooler, a Saint, a Devil's Advocate, a Minx, a Mouse or...an Angel....

Please stick around and keep posting. I have often found MN to be one place to turn to when it felt like there was no-one in RL who had time/knowledge/empathy.

TenLordsaLapin · 13/12/2007 16:57

You're not being ignored sweetheart. Mn is so massive these days, and it may be that you are posting at peak times when the boards are moving particularly fast. You also need to be completely prepare to neglect your housekeeping if you're going to be a really prolific poster and I know you're on the Good Housekeeping threads (too scary for me!)

I think you need a Christmas name too. AnAngelGabrielWithin?

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AnAngelWithin · 14/12/2007 10:50

DH says i have too high standards. i guess it comes from being brought up the way i was. i just don't want for my children to grow up and remember the house being a mess and mummy being a gibbering wreck. There is so much i need to get done round the house but lack of money, time and energy are holding me back. I have managed to get on top of all the washing and ironing which is an achievement and a half. Daresay that won't last very long. I know i am not purposely being ignored, just sometimes, when you are just feeling so low and nobody replies....well...you know.

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mistletoepeaks · 14/12/2007 10:55

the children won't remember the house being a mess. Even if they do where's the harm. What would you rather they say "mum was great, but a bit messy" or "mum was a nightmare to live with?" My mom was one of those who has 'things' just for show. God forbid you ever dried yourself with a nice towel, drank from a good cup or heaven forbid drew the curtains!!! (SERIOUSLY!)

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