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not going to be around much anymore

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 10:48

don't really know why I am bothering to even say. its not like anyone will even notice i daresay. i have got too much to deal with in RL and I don't feel like MN is helping really. No matter how much I try and post on here, i almost feel a bit ignored. its bad enough in RL. I feel like I am hitting rock bottom right now. Nobody on here can help, and I don't have anyone in RL either who can. I have got one RL friend round here and shes got enough to deal with as it is. So just in case someone happens to miss me, I probably won't be around much, if at all anymore. I can't help anyone on here with their problems, same as they can't help me. I had stuff on the for sale boards but nobody seemed to reply but in case anyone does, I am sorry. As usual. I am always the one whos sorry.

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Tatties · 07/12/2007 11:21

Oh Angel I am sorry you are feeling like this.

I think this is a very hard time of year, when people feel they need more support yet people are feeling too stretched to offer any. IME it can take a long time to feel like you are making friends.

camillathechicken · 07/12/2007 11:21

when i changed to camillathechicken, i was not ignored, per se, but certainly got less of a reaction than posting as lulumama... if your name is not hugely known, it can be easily missed

it is not personal !!

you sound like you are depressed

i suffered from depression for years. i have been there

i remember coming off ADs, then having a real downward slide but not wanting to go back on them, as it was like failing or admitting defeat. i did go back on them, and in the end i was referred for inpatient treatment, so i was terribly unwell.

it is important to take all the help there is

tablets, talking therapy, offers of any help from outside

have you been in touch with homestart or sure start?

are there any practical problems MN could help you with?

yaddayule · 07/12/2007 11:24

Still here.. I'd posted a reply but it all sounds pap, so i'll just gently bump along, hoping wise MN'ers will say it better than I can (which they are)

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 11:25

i have a homestart lady. shes lovely. done the therapy crap. didn't help at all. was discharged from EMDR therapy cos it was upsetting me too much. have been ok since. unless someone can give me the winning lottery ticket so that i can move house, get my house sorted and afford to take my kids out for the day then i don't think there is anything anyone can do really!!

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camillathechicken · 07/12/2007 11:26

i found CBT to be exceptionally helpful, it is years since i finished it, but i still fall back on it now.

there is more than one type of therapy and therapist.

money worries can be overwhelming, can;t they?

CAB are very good at helping with debt management and counselling and dealing with creditors if necessary.

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 11:28

went for an assessment and they said CBT wasn't appropriate for me. thats when they started the EMDR therapy.

i have no debt. was made bankrupt nearly 2 years ago. should count myself lucky i guess that i managed to get a fresh start, albeit though the indignity

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bethoo · 07/12/2007 11:30

i am sure there are others in similar situations out there, do not feel as if you are the only one. a problem shared is a problem halved as they say. youwould be surprised how venting really helps, sometimes better with complete strangers than friends iykwim.

THelesbellsRINGOUTFORCHRISTMAS · 07/12/2007 11:30

how old are your dc's angel?

camillathechicken · 07/12/2007 11:32

i am sorry you seem to be hitting a brick wall. have you tried just regular, person centred therapy , where you just talk to a counsellor? that can be a huge benefit , just to get it off your chest....

not sure what else to say, except i feel for you and i have been there, and if i can get through it,so can you .

(((((((((hug))))))))))

jangly · 07/12/2007 11:33

I think you need to rely on your homestart lady, and your inner self (if that doesn't sound too crap) to get you out of this. All anyone on here can really offer is words, and you've probably heard them all before. With your homestart lady you most likely will get things at home sorted and once the house is tidier you may feel better. Don't forget a walk in the winter sun can do wonders, but there I go you see - just words. Prob not very helpful. Best wishes to you.

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 11:33

i have got 4 dcs ranging from 22 months to 8 years.

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hertsnessex · 07/12/2007 11:35

where are you living? (roughly)

bubblerock · 07/12/2007 11:36

What area are you in? I left the place where I grew up 4 years ago and still haven't really made friends up here.

THelesbellsRINGOUTFORCHRISTMAS · 07/12/2007 11:36

I think jangly is right. I know its a huge effort to go for a walk when you're feeling so low but once you're out there it really lifts your mood. You may well be able to come back an start to organise your home - one room at a time and not all in one day. It will help you feel better.

karen999 · 07/12/2007 11:36

Jangly - I am with you on the walking thing. I make sure that I get out every day, even if it is only for a ten minute walk. The fresh air can do wonders and it keeps dd occupied too.

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 11:44

i go out most days walking the dog. it wears me out lol. don't really want to say where i am as my sister looks on here and might guess who i am. i am on the welsh borders though.

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THelesbellsRINGOUTFORCHRISTMAS · 07/12/2007 11:48

see? you're lol-ing already

seriously though, four dc's under eight must be hectic. I've two teenage dd's and a 22 month old and she's a handful by herself! things will get better for you though i'm sure.

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 11:55

dd2 is screaming at me now. just for a sodding change i can't do this.

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THelesbellsRINGOUTFORCHRISTMAS · 07/12/2007 11:59

You can do it angel...go out for that walk now, get them out in the fresh air.

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 12:25

doing kids lunch now if i can drag myself up out of the chair. too tired to go out.

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jangly · 07/12/2007 14:15

I know what you mean about the walking wearing you out. It definitely works both ways - gets you out of yourself but then you're too tired for the flippin' housework! I've tried doing the work first but then it gets late in the day and you don't want to go out. Its a bit no win this housework And exercise! I reckon, do tidying and then its surprising how little actual housework you can get away with! lol

jangly · 07/12/2007 14:16

You can do it, Angel. You'll see. I know its hard when they're little.

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AnAngelWithin · 07/12/2007 14:17

im feeling very sick now. think im getting myself wound up the dog is whining. shes just been sick everywhere always something.

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monkeybutler · 07/12/2007 15:38

I am on ad's I dont want to be on them. My DH is diabetic and he desnt want to be on insulin - we all sometimes need help. I so understand the fried brain - ad's have helped unfry mine so that I can see that everyone is not against me - they are all wrappe dup in their own lives sometimes. Prozac has cleared the fog and enabled me to see a future, I am going to come off them next year and am booked for some counselling to help me 'deal with my issues' hippy talk.

I used to think that my life was like trying to get the edge up on a roll of sellotape - i tried and tried to get the edge and knew once I did there would be no stopping me. The frustration is horrendous, seek RL help as well as on here. Good luck angel.

yaddayule · 11/12/2007 13:24

Angel within hasn't posted since

Hope you're ok ?