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Seeing all these Feeling Low Posts makes me feel like screaming THAT'S LIFE

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RegularPoster · 25/10/2004 17:48

I'm sorry

I don't really read these threads

I do know that depression is a real illness and requires medical help and I do not wish to denigrate those who are suffering in this way

I cannot help thinking that a lot of these posts stem from expecting more from life than there really is. Some people just seem to want to feel good all the time, and the things that are getting you down are JUST LIFE

I think a lot of you do need to pull your socks up and stop analysing things. just get on with your lives and make the best of it

God forbid you had something proper to worry about - like war, disease, famine

Don't seem to see many of the mothers from the SN board posting here nor those who I do see as having real problems to worry about.

Discuss...

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clairabelle · 25/10/2004 21:18

No hercules but she is saying that all the feeling low posts make her feel like people should pull their socks up. TBH IMO it isn't the feeling low posts it's the ones in other subjects that are like this.

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:18

No she isnt. She says a lot of you not all.

2wildbabies · 25/10/2004 21:21

FF and Hercules did you read the original post??????

People with 'a real depression' are being let off but it is picking on most of the posts on the site. We are being told that things that get us down are 'just life' and a lot of us need to 'pull our socks up'.

BTW how can you defend someone if you don't know who they are or why they posted?????

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:23

I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt. It is a shame some people have said nasty things without knowing the reasons behind the postings.

I dont totally agree but I can see where she is coming from.

agy · 25/10/2004 21:24

Well maybe she shouldn't critisize anybody.

KateandtheGirls · 25/10/2004 21:24

I agree Hercules. I don't agree with everything RP wrote, but I can understand where she is coming from.

2wildbabies · 25/10/2004 21:24

mmmm sounding a bit of a personal threat to you H.

Did my comments upset you?

2wildbabies · 25/10/2004 21:24

oops thread

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:25

Would it be better if she had said people should wallow in their feeling lowness and shouldnt try and get on with life remembering that their problem although big to them isnt actually in comparison to rather more serious things such as war victims, mothers with sn children?

moomina · 25/10/2004 21:26

Her post is patronising and insensitive.

I know RP says she's not criticising those with depression - that's the point - she's making a distinction between those she personally believes have a right to complain and those she personally believes don't. That's what is outrageous, imo.

'God forbid you had something proper to worry about - like war, disease, famine'. The only legitimate reasons for wanting a few kind words chucked your way, are they?

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:26

Oh fgs it's not me! I have no problem posting anything in my own "name".

2wildbabies · 25/10/2004 21:28

then don't get so offensive over it. Let RP answer for themselves.

fairyfly · 25/10/2004 21:29

I did read the original post yes thankyou and as everybody else has had an opinion on what she meant so have i. My opinion is just a little less harsh, abusive, and kinder. I believe she was making a point on general day to day moans not real problems. I believe like i do she probably knows people who drive her wild moaning about the rain and there ingrown toenail. I don't for one minute think she was saying people who ever get down are terrible people. If she was then she is wrong obviously.
I also think life is a lot easier if you can laugh and not take everything as a personal attack on yourself.

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:29

Perhaps we read the post in different ways. She was stating extreme examples of suffering and I didnt read it the way you did. That doesnt make wronng or right for that matter.
People are entitled to different views.

My dh is from a country undergoing civil war and it always amazes him to hear people moan about their lives in the uk when he has actually seen war, rape, child torture etc.

He would never dream of saying this to anyone though but he does always count himself lucky.

And no it wasnt him who posted it!

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:30

I am entitled to discuss it though.

joanneg · 25/10/2004 21:31

Hercules - I know what you are saying and agree with a lot of what you say.
But I think that if the poster had come on here wanting a real discussion (re. ways to cope with everyday life, medical help and so on) she could have done so without making her post offensive to those who post on the feeling low board. There are ways of doing things and her post was deliberate in its intent to upset people. But this is how mumsnet is sometimes. Usually I just click off a thread like this - but what I find upsetting is that this has offended people who are already finding life hard to cope with.

Enid · 25/10/2004 21:32

it is quite patronising but not offensive IMO.

stop being so flouncy - loads of threads on mumsnet - lots of people in the world - we don't all think the same - this is mumsnet, not a depression support group, its not unreasonable to expect people that don't understand/care about depression to post here.

marthamoo · 25/10/2004 21:32

Absolutely agree with RegularPoster - why are we wasting anyone's time with our little gripes and problems?

Let's extend that further: "chat" is a waste of time; "other subjects" - most of the stuff on there is fairly trivial; "products" - ye Gods, just another sad indictment of the consumerist society we live in; "behaviour/development" - very few real problems on there, mostly people seeking a little reassurance; "telly addicts" oh puhleeease!; Mumsnetter profiles - who gives a sh*t...shall I go on?

From now on only people with real, tangible problems should post on MN - I'm talking war, disease and famine. Everyone else just tootle off "pull your socks up and stop analysing things. Just get on with your lives and make the best of it."

See you all then. Mumsnet R.I.P.

Twiglett · 25/10/2004 21:33

Do you honestly think RP .. whoever they are .. is ever gonna post on this thread again? And really would you want them too?

Hercules / FF you're doing a smashing job .. though why you keep trying is beyond me

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:33

Am i reallty the only one overreacting?

blossomhill · 25/10/2004 21:34

Well said Marthamoo. I agree with every word!

Enid · 25/10/2004 21:34

what about me

joanneg · 25/10/2004 21:34

We dont know what people have been through in their lives and what they have had to go through. They might come on to moan about what a bad day they have had - and this might seem trivia but how does anybody know that there are not underline problems that maybe they are reluctant to discuss on an open forum?

That is what I mean about whoi are we to judge who has 'something proper to worry about'

hercules · 25/10/2004 21:34

You too Enid

2wildbabies · 25/10/2004 21:35

I dont see this as a personal attack on me. This silly poster does not know anything about me.....but as a person who knows how bad life can be, this person should leave people well alone. If someone wants to come on this site and complain that they stubbed their toe and it is sore....so be it. Nobody should have to check if it is a real problem to complain about before the post. That's what has annoyed me, and probably many other people on this site. It is ok to have heated debates.....this is not a debating subject. This is a comment from an ignorant person.