This is a pointless life

[inuet]

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard".
British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.

@mrsswayze

You’re right I haven’t. You also have no insight in to mine. Perhaps you should take yourself off this board as you are now being abusive, because someone had an opinion, ironically, on a discussion board .

I personally do find comparison helpful as it does remind me how lucky we are (very) and I am very grateful and very "happy" with how life is for us. I feel grateful when I go to the supermarket and there is food available and that we have the money to pay for it etc

I make a plan for every day to educate my toddler and care for newborn (no childcare although had hoped toddler would start nursery in Jan, now think it will probably be shut) but sometimes I inexplicably feel desperate and as many times as I try to kick myself it doesn't quite work every time. Other times, I manage it and we have a positive time.

So I can sympathise with those who know objectively they are very fortunate but emotionally are struggling. For me it's just that I want my nearly 3 year old to be able to to somewhere different and interact with someone other than me, especially kids, as I feel I'm failing her. But on the days I manage to stick to a routine for us of playing, reading, walking and housework It is ok

I'm fed up of it too. Not helped that my DH is like the bloodt grim reaper repeating stats and facts in my ear on a daily basis.

How come so many other countries are through this now whilst we are still knee deep in shit?

@Singlenotsingle

Come on, it's not that bad. Have you no friends or family to turn to? (Sorry, but you don't give much information). What do I get enjoyment from? My grandchildren, my dog, tv (and all the wild and wacky programs on there - Red Quest has one called My 600lb Life! ), music (always guaranteed to brighten my day), cooking, reading... This corona nonsense won't go on forever, and the vaccine is on the way. Spring is on the way too!

I’m totally with you here AND to top that off both my kids currently have Covid so we’ve all been wearing masks and visors round the house and isolating from each other for 10 days, that parts not been great fun! Other than that we’ve adapted this year and both said we’ve had one of our best years ever. We’ve done heaps of outdoor and family stuff, the kids have been in their element. There’s tonnes to do if you look in the right places. We’ve had some great drinking and game nights with friends and family on zoom etc into the early hours. We’ve got everything we need and yes we all our holidays have been cancelled and the kids haven’t been doing their usual activities but just work round it. It’s a cliche but sadly true.... others have got it MUCH worse. If life gives you lemons and all that...

Ladydowntheroad. That's great but it sounds like you have a lovely home life anyway. I was going to use 2020 to sort my abusive marriage but lockdown has trapped me. I can't just pop out and see friends to let off steam. I'm holding it together but surely you can see how differently this affecting people. I'm perfectly resilient, I've got over tragedies including the loss of a child but I'm finding this bloody awful

Thank you @BaileyBoos.

Hope you can find a way out @Rockybooboo.

It won't be like this forever. The downsides to me are the disruptions to my children's lives the world has become so much smaller and I imagine duller. I also love travel and miss it a lot.

The upsides are working from home and having an excuse not to be social. I'm an introvert I hate Christmas parties, I don't like going out for drinks with friends more than once a year I find being with people exhausting but nobody understands it and in normal times I'm either offending people by turning down invitations to socialise or I'm socialising to keep the peace.

I noticed the queen even said mentioned hugging yesterday during her speech. I hate people touching me apart from my children and husband. I'm hoping that we will never go back to the times when you have to air kiss people you barely know.

I appreciate people have bigger issues. I've experienced bereavements and stress over family ill health this year too (not Covid related).

I know it’s really bloody hard - this year has been brutal for us. But last night we were trying to calm MIL down over whatsapp while her boyfriend was being treated and taken to hospital by paramedics unable to breathe, O2 at 70%, he’s only 50 and no underlying health issues. It was honestly terrifying. I know all this is awful but what can we do except try to contain this as much as possible until there’s sufficient vaccine coverage?

@Rockybooboo

Ladydowntheroad. That's great but it sounds like you have a lovely home life anyway. I was going to use 2020 to sort my abusive marriage but lockdown has trapped me. I can't just pop out and see friends to let off steam. I'm holding it together but surely you can see how differently this affecting people. I'm perfectly resilient, I've got over tragedies including the loss of a child but I'm finding this bloody awful

Very politely put. I know where I'd like to put Ladydowntheroad's lemons.

Sorry you’re struggling OP.

I plan on booking a holiday for the end of next year tonight. I am going to spend time doing research etc. That way I have something to look forward to.

It’s very easy to say and I really hope it doesn’t piss you off but this will end. There is a vaccine. Life will return to normal. I just keep reiterating this to myself.

"O n e Y e a r!!!"

Yup. Just one year. Someone dear to me was told a couple of years ago that he probably had about 5 years left. So this one year, "only" one year, is about one third of his remaining life to do all those things he wanted to do and see all those places he wanted to see before he became too weak to do much.

But sure, it's only one year. Anyone who isn't happy about losing a year out of their normal lives should just pull themselves together, right?

Alltheusernames that made me laugh. That sort of humour pulls people together not Eckhart and Ladydowntheroad patronising bollocks

I'm not aiming to 'pull people together', @Rockybooboo

Should I be? People who don't take responsibility for themselves view being told to take responsibility for themselves as patronising.

EcKhart. My comments were to the OP as she's says she is feeling low and lockdown has affected her mental health. I know from my experience that people telling me to take responsibility for my mental health when I'm depressed doesn’t help.

@amicissimma

Well In that context a year is a very long time. For the “average” life expectancy in this country it really isn’t. It’s shit, totally.... but not a completely pointless existence.

OP is reaching out, is this not a form of resilience?

No she's not 'reaching out'. She's been nasty and rude about and to anyone who tries to offer any help (like going walking, trying to shift perspective etc.) and who are prepared to take some responsibility for their own mental health and happiness in as much as anyone can. Calling people Coronaqueens, for example - ride and nasty.

@Rockybooboo

EcKhart. My comments were to the OP as she's says she is feeling low and lockdown has affected her mental health. I know from my experience that people telling me to take responsibility for my mental health when I'm depressed doesn’t help.

Your experience isn't universal.

You are speaking in favour of an op who has been abusive to me, and anybody else who didn't back up her point of view that life is pointless.

Somebody will have to do something, if OP wants to feel better. The somebody will have to be OP. Nobody can help her out of this except herself.

@Cam2020

Exactly. The “corona queens” who are apparently spouting out things like “it’s okay not be to be okay” and baking etc? In other words women who are validating other peoples suffering, and most probably their own, and women who are trying to keep themselves occupied by baking etc. She has belittled them.

Any alternative perspective is also classed as drivel by the OP. That is not suffering, that is wallowing.

Apologies I got the baking mixed up with another thread but the OP mentions corona queens on her social media letting people know it’s okay to find these times tough. The OP is angry at people who validate other peoples suffering because hers is no doubt greater than anyone else’s, because she cannot travel at the minute.

Any alternative perspective is classed as drivel and we are absolutely not allowed to talk about concepts such as resilience, or god forbid gratitude.

Only miserable people are allowed to reply to these posts as she frequently states these are “good or interesting posts”.

[quote Northernsoullover]@inuet if your passion was travel then that makes you very privileged. Of course you are entitled to feel crap and just because other people have it worse doesn't mean you can't feel sad about your own circumstances but please try and have a little bit of compassion for those who have lost jobs, family members to this awful pandemic.
Like yourself I love travel and I'm really social. That's all gone. I'm also separated (distance) from my partner and I'm on my own today away from my vulnerable family. So are many others. I'm nothing special. In the first lockdown my mental health became very poor and I'm now on medication for the first time ever for this (I'm nearly 50). I'm not going to moan I'm going to try and take comfort from the small things. Small steps I can take to make my existence that little bit brighter. Perhaps time to speak to your GP?[/quote]
People like you have no idea! Why don’t you just shut up yeah before making people feel worse

I've been very normal about it all, but even I questioned if I should go out to the soft play this school holiday. My DS has been asking everyday to go and it was open here in Tier 2. We went, but I know the feeling about being scared to do things when you can. But we have since today, become Tier 4 and with the post Xmas slump and no money it's tough to feel upbeat. And I love a walk normally anyway.

At least you can plan future travel we don't go anywhere no money for travel or renewing my passport or getting my two children passports And some place are still open. Some relatives are in the Dominican Republic on holiday, think you have to have a private Covid test to fly first and stay home on return.