hey me too. but clothes not the main problem, they come second to online gambling ... 4 months preg with first. no idea how we will cope without my income. 7k on credit cards and 5k on loand plus am self employed and behind on tax.
keep holding off the chat with husband, but know it will have to happen. he knows and is ok -ish but we still haven't had the big chat. we will go thru my finances and he's basically agreed to take all my cards (inc for my current account) and give me small amounts of cash weekly.
really grateful for him for taking the responsibility off me. i am 30 going 12 ... but we still haven't had chat and when he tried to bring it up other day himself, he did it in an angry way, not like him at all and i went thru roof. screamed and cried and took couple of days to get ok again. so hard to face up to it all
don't blame yourself, not a sign of moral weakness. i notice real patterns, like montly ones etc and (bull sh t) alert, full moon seems to really set me off . and it's strange 'cause sometimes its so controllable and no urge at all, other times i just blow hundreds and know it won't stop.
i think its like drugs, because other people presumably most of the time feel like i do that five percent of the time when i really don't have urge to gamble/spend.
it really really is ok. know i'm not onw to talk, but will be ok. what i most regret now is that if i'd stopped earlier, by now i could at least be spending a bit of cash. does that make sense? like the main reason i'm so broke now is cause i've been spending like i don't have large amounts of debts already to pay off
good luck