God in your relationship

[CaveDivingbelle]

We are both active Christians, but OH much more so and has regular actual back and forth conversations with God he says. I'm ending up living on tenterhooks as he will inform me that he needs to talk about what God has told him in relation to us quite regularly...I guess im waiting for the axe to fall! Its an odd feeling, does anyone relate or have advice? For example today,he's said we need to talk seriously tonight..because God has been speaking..and that's it! So I'm left all today worrying..

Vicar in the C of E posting here. This is clearly a mental health issue. No amount of reading of scripture is going to help in the situation that the OP has described. Lots of people have give suggestions for how to access that support.

The church can be a supportive community but it cannot diagnose or treat. That is a MH professional's job.

The church can be a supportive community but it cannot diagnose or treat. That is a MH professional's job.

I agree. I just think that support might be very important for the OP. It might be that support she needs in order to get her DH access to the proper medical support.

I strongly suspect that any study of scripture will result in more sticks with which to figuratively beat OP. He seems determined to find fault, and will be seeking evidence to corroborate his world-view. I repeat my experience - you're not going to win when someone is constantly on the attack.

Religion is a biased, power hungry bigoted beast. Does that include the one you belong to as well or just the one in question.

Vitalogy

I have no religion. I am atheist.

This man believes in a higher authority. A higher authority than a church member or MH professional.

Do you think he is going to listen to mere mortals (in his mind)?

The safety of OP and DC's is the dilemma here.

I think having a 'bit of' religion may help with your common or garden MH issues like anxiety but with illnesses that have paranoia and delusions a person's religion can be a bit of a bastard combination.

How are you op?

I have no religion. I am atheist. Some would argue Witchcraft is a religion, others might not though. You promote religions that you agree with ie Wicca/Paganism.

Vitalogy

Are you telling me what I believe?

I am an atheist.

I have little time for your negative energy Vitalogy

Are you telling me what I believe? No, just stating that you promote Wicca/Paganism.

I have little time for your negative energy Negative energy or difficult questions to answer.

I do not "promote" Wicca.

Keep your poison to yourself.

I do not "promote" Wicca. Is that right.

Keep your poison to yourself. Poison, what like a potion. Please tell me of any poisonous comments that I have made. I would be happy to address them with you.

I would be happy to address them with you.

No thanks.

I don't wish to have a conversation with you.

Ok. Again things are unresolved.

Vitalogy

All resolved for me thanks.

Ok.

I will have to keep on addressing any hypocrisy, untruth or the promotion of harm onto others.

The Bert test is quite useful here.

Suppose you are given a message from God by someone. If it were purported to be from Bert, would you find it toxic and unhelpful? If so, ignore it.

This is an area in which religious people are uniquely vulnerable. Usually they will be able to use their own judgement to decide whether they ought to accept or reject something they are told. But if someone says the message is from God and sounds convinced of it, the information can sometimes bypass the normal self-preserving mental filters of the listener and do real harm. The situation can end up taking on ‘gas-lighting’ overtones, with the listener being sucked into the distorted reality of the one asserting to have a hotline to God.

OP, if you want biblical support for this notion, remember the phrase, ‘Ye shall know them by their fruits.’ If the fruit tastes bitter, might the one who offers the fruit be a false prophet? In this case, an unwitting false prophet, of course, who needs help and who has admirable qualities when well.

Touching base in some way with normality and sanity is the way forward. If your DP refuses to seek help, then you at least must do so as a first step. I think talking to your GP is a good start.

Hi OP, Just wondering how are things with you?

I know I've not posted here but have on other threads. He has been detained now under a section 2. Things got worse. Much worse.

Kumali - are you the OP with a name change? Sorry to hear things have got worse, but not surprised.

Am I right in thinking that this is a fairly new relationship, as you were posting on dating threads only a few months back? I presume you are not living together, which may be a good thing as it will be easier to take a step back and focus on looking after yourself and your children, and only get involved in your partner's treatment and recovery to the extent that you can cope. This early in the relationship, no one would blame you if you decided that you could not cope with serious long-term mental-health problems, which would affect both you and your children, and called it quits.

Hi. Yes 5 months in but... I'm hating the thought of walking away.. We were planning a future...