Parents of anxious kids/ teens support thread

[Stilllivinginazoo]

Hi
Welcome to parents of anxious/ teens thread.idea is to share tips and advice and listen and support each other on days things are getting tougher

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Bless him.sounds like poor beans really struggling
I left D's with his dad and took girls bra shopping with dd1(adult and she drives!!)he's quite long-term this afternoon as I've been away from him.thunk time get colouring books out and have bit quiet time together

The DC are on the train to Milton Keynes. Wish me luck with DS2 for next week!

Oh poor sweetie wheres . Transitions and changes to routine are so stressful.

Good luck Philomena!

Thanks Zoo! Ds1 is 16 and it may rate as the oddest birthday ever . I came down with the norovirus a few nights ago and Ds2 now caught it and started vomiting last night. With this 10 year old's anxiety he was wailing like a banshee and freaking out with every vomiting episode. DH had to travel 30 minutes away to find a pharmacy open after 6pm on New Year's day for Pedialyte. Plus we are staying with my in-laws and due to drive home tomorrow. Fun times . As a result young relatives not coming for bday cake since the virus is highly contagious. Anyhow we promised DS1 a special day this weekend to make up for it. Hate when my kids get sick as they are already so slim. Hoping your sweet DS has a better day today

Oh no Viking hope no one else drops and all better quickly

Lots of luck Phil🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

Thanks both for the luck!

I hope you and DS2 are better soon viking. I know what you mean, when DD gets a tummy bug she looks like the grim reaper. She puts it back on quickly though.

Good luck with return D's Phil

Anyone got kids revving up the fear factor of return to school?D's been getting steadily worse since Thursday...

It's dd1 birthday today(how do I have a 24 year old??)she's popping over to spend most day with us which we are looking forward to.shes off to dinner tonight with partner and her dad then ice skating after-her dad's bought her skates for her birthday

Sounds like the perfect birthday! DD would like that. We went ice skating for her birthday, and also at Winter Wonderland.

She had a lovely time thanks Phil
DS woke me at 3am in throws massive panic attacks...
Back to reality with a bump

Poor love, and poor you!

We're in McDonald's having breakfast, it's an incentive to get up early for DD who's a night owl.

Well played Phil
My girls are up.ds is struggling as exhausted.need go wake again in mo(5th time)

How was back to school for everyone?
DS was awful.got him there(only cos dp was around so it was a double parent push to walk him in one each side)
He did nothing and was highly stressed for his two hours.stressed rest say and start rev up with fear of today teatime...
Just going wake him(was up past midnight still pacing his room etc)

zoo.

Had trouble switching DS2 off yesterday afternoon. There was a fight this morning over my bureau, which they both wanted for different purposes.

It should be easier after tomorrow morning, as DD's going on a residential.

Oh Phil,how lovely for her and peaceful for you
DS had super wobble after bad night.i rang SENCO before left house warning he's not good and may not even get past student services...he did an hour(no curriculum work tho)
We popped into our church on way home as wellbeing cafe and spoke our rev.shes lovely and suggested ways to help D's back to church Sundays(leaving to join Sunday school with me and dd2 at his side and not returning for communion(lil zoo and dd2 go in I stay with him) and him going into church end of service for reflective prayer once it's empty) also going back to chikdrens (small) choir Fri nights.they are so kind to us it's like being welcomed back home by nice familyshe's also offered us any spiritual support cahms may think could be of use to him she will be there to assist with
Boosted by that I took him for ramble over nature reserve before lunch

That sounds like a mostly lovely day zoo.

All lovely and quiet here at the moment, they're on their respective tablets!

Hope she heads off ok and is so excited this morning is smooth Phil
Was up til 330 am with D's panicking.its going to be a very very very long day
Starting to question if sending him to school is too much for him right now

Did you take him in zoo?

DD's not usually the problem in the morning, DS2 will kick off about something and then start pushing her buttons, and she can't ignore him.

All was fine today except DS2 thought there was time to be a comedian, so we ended up running late, he did something on the way to school which I didn't see, I just heard DD shrieking "DS2!"

She's gone off on the trip fine.

Glad to hear that Phil
I sent hi.it does feel like I'm torturing him.he goes with a heavy heart and a I surrender attitude
DP gone pick him up from his two hours,just spoke SENCO.they see same he's miserable and clock watching.have asked if we might be able to get him signed off school til therapy starts(24th)as he's not benefiting being there
I've just rang CAHMS,man want speak to has just walked into the office and I'm awaiting a callback once he's settled at his desk.if NEC,ring go after
I feel distraught (could be overtiredness speaking)for him

Poor boy. Getting signed off school sounds good. Fingers crossed.

Spoke anxiety pathway leader.as we have app with occupational therapist he can't step on her toes making professional choices,he's chasing her up to emergency contact us,poss bring app forward.meanwhile we have do as parents what feel fit.three options gave are do nothing,cut hours,keep home unauthorized.im opt keep home tom.hes not doing academic stuff anyway so only getting them bloody attendance marks and is turning into a submissive shadow resigned has do stuff ..

Hey everyone!
Very quiet,I hope everyone's doing ok
Is dd back today Phil?

CAHMS finally chased down occupational therapist to speak to.qe have an emergency appointment Monday at 1 for D's.intermittent waking me til settles at 3-330 am is killing me.ive had retreat for a nap whilst Xbox babysat or I'd be commiting murder with them all doing teen bickering (not out of the ordinary for this age group but on virtually no sleep I hadn't the patience got it)amongst themselves!
Going to attempt kids choir at church tonight as it's lost rowdy disruptive element that started(D's couldn't cope them shouting/cause trouble so we had to have a break) I think bit interaction other kids is important as he's so isolated..
Hope it's a chilled Friday evening for everyone!

Yes, DD was back today, DS2 was very tired and causing trouble, I had to send him down from the table at dinnertime. Then DD thought she was entitled to sit on our bureau all evening because she'd been away for 3 days.

Back to business as usual at your then Phil
DS is trying take deep breaths and colour at mo. In predict another 3am before he falls into an exhausted sleep....(as I wake him by 8 I've no idea how the hell he's keeping going on it)

Hello, can I join please?

DD1 is nearly 15. She is struggling with school. I have an appt for GP (2nd visit) on Monday and hoping to persue the CAHMS route but I know the waiting list is very long so am thinking about CBT privately. Has anyone done this? Is it worth the huge expense? Any other advice? Thank you!

Welcome sayatika
We are on cahms route..my D's had initial assessment late october.we start treatment next week.how are you managing?have you got to support

Thanks Stilllivinginazoo. So about a 3 month wait for you? Hmmm, I think we might try and hold out for camhs. It's hard living day to day though. I'm ok thanks. Just v worried about DD. She's really gone downhill in last few months. School know but not much is working currently.