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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

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Fairydust26 · 12/03/2018 20:56

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

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Stilllivinginazoo · 22/09/2018 22:17

*insight

BippityBoppity87 · 22/09/2018 22:26

I think what I find a bit unhelpful, I don't know, I could be wrong as they are the professionals and dealt with this kind of stuff for years, but if I mention something, I find they will focus on that, as if it's the whole picture, when it really isn't.

What didn't help either, was that I was constantly seeing different people. But at the moment, I'm going to be seeing the same person weekly for the foreseeable future. So hopefully it will help.

BippityBoppity87 · 22/09/2018 22:36

I remember what I was going to say now Iblinkedandiamold I used to like Christmas too, not really a massive fan of it now. My favourite time of the year is Halloween Smile

Stilllivinginazoo · 22/09/2018 23:32

bippity I'm lucky to be seeing one person

It's patient led,so she just helps me thru whatever I want talk about.at moment we are focusing on importance self-care and woulda friend judge harshly as judge myself

BippityBoppity87 · 22/09/2018 23:41

I'm the same. I wouldn't judge a friend (or anyone for that matter) as much as I judge myself. Easier said than done I suppose.

Anything could happen in a day, maybe an innocuous comment, but I will over think it in my head for hours, sometimes even days. It's horrible living with anxiety. But I'm highly aware of it, which probably makes it worse, especially when I know my thoughts are irrational, but take it to another level in my head if that makes sense? I'll be mulling over something that someone else probably forgot about that day.

BippityBoppity87 · 22/09/2018 23:43

I keep having to try and tell myself, ok the world doesn't evolve around you bippity, I'm sure what you're thinking isn't as bad as you're imagining.

Stilllivinginazoo · 22/09/2018 23:53

bippityFlowers
Funny how we torture ourselves but wouldn't dream talking to a friend like it

BippityBoppity87 · 23/09/2018 00:02

I know. Night time is especially hard for me, as I struggle to sleep and really like a chit chat. Sometimes I'll text my friends, but I hate to bother people. So I end up just writing nonsense on here.

Iblinkedandiamold · 23/09/2018 11:24

Bippity, I used to love my alone time when DS was small. Now I can't stand being in this house. During the day it's okay but at night it seems quieter and I am lonelier. Last night I was in my parents house until 9.30.
On a brighter note I finally started course work that is due tomorrow. Almost a 1000 words written. Only another 1000 to go. Going to reward myself with a cuppa and some corrie. Grin

Stilllivinginazoo · 23/09/2018 14:09

Good work iblinked
I had collect D's from Sunday school in throws bad panic attack...
He's ment be going with them on a trip next Saturday to a Tim Peake exhibition(he loves space) so that's up in the air now asy anxiety couldn't cope a coach trip.
Not feeling to good about myself because of all this and bit fearful how he's going to cope at school tomorrow.glad Ive CBT tomorrow as I always feel more motivated and positive after that

BippityBoppity87 · 23/09/2018 17:30

That sounds good iblinked It's nice when you have something to look forward to.

I couldn't get to sleep until about 5 this morning. I have an early start tomorrow as well, so preparing myself for a couple of hours sleep that I'll more than likely be surviving on.

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Fairydust26 · 25/09/2018 10:39

Been surprising feeling good these last few days how’s everyone else doing?.

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BippityBoppity87 · 25/09/2018 18:12

I've been in a good mood the past few days too @Fairydust26 I haven't really slept though, but it hasn't bothered me as much as I thought it would. Glad you've been feeling better Smile

Iblinkedandiamold · 25/09/2018 18:24

Still not good here. My DS has been in contact with me but it's all sort of goady texts, trying to get into an argument. I told him he needs to appoligise. He's being so rude it's not even funny.
Work is good though. They pick my mood up.

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Fairydust26 · 26/09/2018 22:50

Glad to hear you’ve been doing better😊BippityBoppity87

Hugs for you Iblinkedandiamold hope todays been better for youFlowers.

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Fairydust26 · 26/09/2018 22:51

Glad to hear you’ve been doing better😊BippityBoppity87

Hugs for you Iblinkedandiamold hope todays been better for youFlowers.

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Fairydust26 · 26/09/2018 22:52

Ooops didn’t mean to post that twiceBlush

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Embracethechaos · 28/09/2018 19:25

I've got a niggly stress, as there's a couple of things I need to sort out with finance. It's just slipped down my to do list and I'm wasting money paying for a parking permit along with other things. Thing is I've not got financial difficulties, still putting money into savings so just haven't bothered.. I need to find my permit so I can return it... Otherwise I've been doing great. I think my anxiety medication has taken away my drive for to do lists.

Stilllivinginazoo · 29/09/2018 22:16

Can I sit in the corner of the thread and cry?
Had AWFUL day with D's.he got try attending school again 1.5hrs Monday and is unravelling already.lots panic attacks and very anxious.jad meltdown in the street with a psinc attack and I felt very self conscious as people were staring at us.he follows me around the house and I don't get a minutes peace from it my emotional battery is Pty and still he keeps taking.i have no way to recharge as I don't live with their dad and he works very long hours in care industry so it's like be a single parent

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Fairydust26 · 01/10/2018 20:39

Stilllivinginazoo how did your son get on at school today?

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Iblinkedandiamold · 01/10/2018 20:55

Aw stillliving I am so sorry to hear that your son is struggling. How is he doing now?

Stilllivinginazoo · 01/10/2018 20:56

We got to school.he was freaking.seng us home and said chivvy cahms....
I rang them.wait app is 4weeks.look at headspace in meantime
School are saying it don't matter he's missing lessons,not like it's year 10/11😒😒😒

Wingingit1985 · 03/10/2018 17:33

Anyone about? I have posted on here before but had an NC.

I feel so anxious today I feel sick.

Just made a bad mistake whilst out driving and not sure how to forgive myself 😢

I feel so terrible as I could have caused an accident. I held my hand up and apologised to the other driver because I cut them up. Thankfully no accident but I keep making silly mistakes as a new driver and just feel like giving up. On a waiting list for CBT for anxiety/OCD.

I feel so alone as husband doesn't understand what I'm going through and how much the negative thoughts in my head control everything

Stilllivinginazoo · 03/10/2018 17:39

I'm here
Of course you will feel very anxious.the shock of a near miss would do that to anybody
You need to keep reminding yourself no one got hurt.use it as a mantra EVERYTIME thought come what if...
It's very hard managing OCD,but don't get drawn into a negative thought cycle over something that was a simple accident.
Sending hugsFlowers

Iblinkedandiamold · 03/10/2018 17:48

Wingingit sorry to hear that. You will be a bit shaky. I have had many near misses and some not so near involving parked cars and walls. Blush
Thought I would never get over it but driving almost 10 years now.

I came on here to vent and write this down.
Last night I had a horrible nightmare. I dreamt DS didn't come home for Christmas, wouldn't answer his phone and didn't call me. No-one in the family heard from him then a video of him getting married turned up.
I woke up in tears and I am still not right after it.