Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

[Fairydust26]

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

Hi Nouser. Sorry you are struggling at the moment. Are you still on the meds?
Sometimes things just creep up on you and it does sound like you have a lot going on with the kids and everything. Home edding seems like a nightmare to me!
Just take it one day at a time and deal with things as they happen. DDS GCSE results and registering first. Been there twice and its not so bad.
Feel free to rant on here. It does help.

Does this make me a horrible mother? I feel horrible admitting this but I sort of want to cut contact with my son. He's just being so rude and difficult at the moment. He doesn't live at home, he's 19. He's going away with his GF soon so today I sent a message asking if he had to get together before he left. It resulted in a rude message back. I tried to call, he wouldn't answer. Few more texts, not my fave way to communicate. Anyway now I feel terrible, lead in my stomach, teary etc. I think all this is having a terrible effect on me. It's horrible to say but I am much better when we don't have contact. It doesn't help that I am a little paranoided and don't think the texts are in his words. As in someone is either telling him what to write or doing it for me.
It's time for me to accept that my sweet, thoughtful kind boy is gone.
Time to left him go.
I have told him I will always be here for him but bow I think I shouldn't contact him any more and let him come to me.
Sorry for the rant. I am just in a heap at the moment. I think I'm going to go for a long walk.

Iblink I pray your son is going through a teenage stage and he'll grow up soon and have a kind and thoughtful adult son back who will visit. Doesn't seem horrible to not contact him to let things cool off. Like you said your still there for him.

Can I ask you ladies a question. Have you found contraceptive has an effect on your mental health? I was on the combined pill for years then came off it when i decided the cancer risk outweighed the pregnancy risk (I'd got a graduate job and been with my partner since school). Coming off it improved my libido but I was not really tracking its effect on my mood. I don't get much monthly mood fluctuations. My mood fluctuates more daily/different seasons. Now I've given birth, my midwife and mum recommended the coil but that sounds pretty scary to me and my dh thinks an operation for contraceptive is unnecessary (allthough we both was to wait at least 5 years for a second/just have one child). My dh is a little inconsist as he doesn't want me to be on antipsychotics long term due to the side effects but the pill has more documented long term side effects. At my 6 week check up I decided to go on the pop (mini pill) for now as I'm breastfeeding. May be unrelated but since taking it I feel really low. The biggest risk of my anti-psychotics is increased depression and suisidal thought (I've never had suisidal thoughts) for young people (under 25 and I'm 26) so maybe I'm over thinking it. The gp has given me 2 months worth, see how I get on while I think about the coil. Has anyone had the coil? Did it effect your anxiety?

That's something I never thought of. I can't help as I have never been on any contraceptive. I haven't had sex in ages but it was condoms I used.
Thanks for the support too Embrace. It feels good to get stuff off my chest.

Nousernameforme sounds pretty stressful in your house right now. Hope you're doing okay.
Hope everyone else is doing okay.

No contraception here as dp has had the snip. Though I do wonder if it's worth giving it a go as I do get more anxious when I am due

I'm starting buggyfit today which I've been looking forward to for months. I recovered physically from birth quite quickly. I had to wait until after my 6 week gp appointment to start this excersise class designed for new mums. I also got a new car at the weekend but don't feel as excited about as I would normally. I can be an anxious driver, in my second trimester, I felt newly qualified and started getting migraines driving so drove less. I walked to work at times which was exhausting. Today my dh was going to drive and come with us to buggyfit but he accidentally booked his car in the garage so I'm going solo, in a new car with my baby. Eek. I know I can do it but my baby may not let me excersise if she's awake. We'll see. I'm anxious about meeting new mums too. I'm expressing now, allthough I've breastfed in public, I don't want to add another stressor to the mix so I'll take bottle. However, if my boobs need milking, and dd refuses the bottle from me, breast it shall be... Here u am catastrophising...

*looking forward to for weeks

Successful, I did breastfeed in the park and survived

Well done embrace. I have to say I giggled a little at your "if my boobs needs milking" line. Did you enjoy the class? I do a boot camp twice a week. Have to say I don't over do it but I still feel I did something. Mainly because I always feel sick afterwards despite slacking a bit.

I overdid it a few days ago when it was cooler weather and I'd finally sussed the stretchy wrap and walked too far/steep carrying dd. I live on a steep hill so a walk to the shop is a work out. This morning when I tried to get up my back hurt, the excersise class was good and easy on my back. However, I twisted again when I was chaging dd in the park in her pram. The point I Could have done with an extra pair of hands. I'm paranoid about my back as I work as a radiographer, regularly see arthritic and injured spines.

Really fed up! Low level anxiety back again, not sleeping well and waking early with stomach knots and pounding heart.

Stopped taking citalopan 9 months ago and had a 6 week course with Mind which helped and then was finally seeing light at the end of the tunnel and it's back.
I'm stressing about my Ds and that is the only thing that I can think of that's worrying me. He lost his job just before Christmas last year and became really down. He's on citralopan and says he now feels "flat" but the thing is he hasn't got another job yet and I am helping them out by about £150 pw .
I can afford it (just about) and I'm not going to push him, he's got a few things that could come off, work wise.
My real worry is that I took everyone away on holiday and thought it would be a bit of a boost for everyone.
It was a nightmare, his Dp ruined it for everyone by going out at night with teenage relatives and getting absolutely pissed, to the point that the teenagers didn't want to go out as she was a liability to them.
My Ds's stepdaughter confided in me that her Dm drank every night at home and then would start arguments with my Ds, following him around the house and taunting him.
I didn't say a word while we were away as my Ds asked me not to do, he said that he was going to "sort it" when he got home.

Now we're back and I've talked to him once about it, he said that she had blamed him being depressed for her behaviour and she just had wanted a good time. He told me that she had calmed down her behaviour.
The thing is, my Ds used to call round quite often in the day for ten minutes or so or phone for a chat and since all this I hardly see him or speak to him.
I wish I'd never organized the holiday now and I really regret it. It seems to have messed everything up rather than making everyone happy.

Sorry to hear that Annabelltutu. How old is your DS?
It's a terrible situation to be in. I feel for the wee girl too.
I can't offer any advice but I give virtual hugs and flowers.

Thankyou lblinked! He's 31
I know there's nothing I can do about his life but I'm so fed up to get the anxiety back again!

I know what you. My own DS is 19 and we are going through a rough patch which is not helping my anixiety or depression. He doesn't even live with me anymore. Like you though, he's an adult now and I can't do anything. Have to let him suss things out for himself.
Hard to stand by and watch though isn't it.

Sorry you're having problems with Ds lblinked,.
You're last sentence really "hit the nail on the head"!
It is very hard to stand by and watch!
I think that is probably why my anxiety has started again, it's frustrating that I can't do anything to help him.

I'm just so sick of feeling tired and anxious and I can't be bothered with anything just now.

I've cancelled days out with friends and weekends away because I just can't be bothered.
I think I might have to go back in the citralopan and I really didn't want to.

How's everyone doing?

I’m doing okay thanks.. how are you doing?

Really well actually, we went to a garden centre, bought some plants and I dug over the vegetable patch and did other little bits in the garden. Baby slept lots today after being awake a lot yesterday.

Going to see the Pope tomorrow. I'm not even religious but it's an historic event. I kinda want to be there. FOMO (fear of missing out) I guess.

Embracethechaos glad to hear your doing well😊. Iblinkedandiamold enjoy😊.

Not good here. Uti symptoms still ongoing and I'm totally obsessed with it and making myself worse.

Olivesandwine sorry to hear you're not doing great.
My new job starts on Wednesday but going in tomorrow for a meeting. Sleep hasn't been great. I am feeling so many emotions right now. Anixiety, excitement, worry, relief as savings are running out.
I am just a ball of emotions right now.
I was crying at the pope. Have I mentioned I'm not even religious.

Not great today. Heart racing since I got up. I have no energy or motivation to do anything and I have a lot to do before tomorrow.
I don't know if I am more anxious about tomorrow or having to go to DS' girlfriend's house on Sat night for a going away party. Who has a going away party when you're only 40mins flight away anyway.
I have to go to party alone as given the short notice all my family have other plans.

Hi @Embracethechaos, I haven't posted on this thread before but someone mentioned to me today that the symptoms I am having sounded more like anxiety than my mood going too elevated (which is what I was fearing) so I thought I'd pop in.

I saw your post and wanted to say I've had a copper coil (so the kind without any hormones) for years and am happy to chat about it. I've found it great and whilst there are downsides it was the best option for me.