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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

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Fairydust26 · 12/03/2018 20:56

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

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OhHolyJesus · 30/05/2018 18:57

Hi all, so glad I've found mumsnet as I want to remain anon in this.

I have anxiety around travelling away from home with my 2yo DS. He's absolutely fine but I struggle with others judgement over tantrums, or my parenting in general and it's affecting my marriage and long term I don't want it to limit my son as he grows.

Is this normal? I thought it was fade as he outgrew the baby stage. Have started seeing a therapist but it's hard to see sometimes how it has an impact as I think most of the time I'm normal!

larla · 30/05/2018 20:30

@Pippinfi and @OhHolyJesus
I don't have any advise for you. I am sorry to read that you are both struggling. Flowers

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Fairydust26 · 31/05/2018 15:44

Welcome Pippinfi & OhHolyJesus I hope your feeling better today and find some comfort posting hereFlowers.

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OhHolyJesus · 01/06/2018 14:57

It's good to find some people here to talk too. Had a big argument with DH recently about how my fears hinder his enjoyment of things sometimes but I find other mums feel the same so I don't think I'm unusual in that but he finds it weird and thinks I'm dramatic or over thinking things.

Really I find some anxieties around parenting very common and so it's hard to know if I need help or not or if it's just part of the parenting deal you sign up for.

larla · 01/06/2018 19:44

OhHolyJesus it might be worth talking to someone. I can't remember if you posted that you have or not so apologises if you have.
I was youngish when my DS. I felt I had to be strict with him so he's behave. I felt people were judging me for being young.

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Fairydust26 · 01/06/2018 20:19

OhHolyJesus wether your anxiety stems from parenting or something else if your really struggling and finding it hard there is no shame in talking to someone about it even if it’s just writing on hereFlowers.

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Fairydust26 · 02/06/2018 09:59

Had a terrible nights sleep constant anxiety attacks till the early hours I hate this. Have been doing great for a while so this makes it feel like I’m back to square one again! Feeling super fragile today just hope it’s a blip and it’s over with soon, hope everyone else is doing ok?.

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LinkListen · 02/06/2018 10:45

New to the thread. I've been having a rough couple of weeks in terms of my mental health. I've got something upcoming which I'm dreading and that's what has brought it on.
Right now I just feel physically weak, my legs and arms are like jelly, just want to collapse in a heap and cry if I'm honest. I'm a lone parent though so don't get time for that and I wouldn't want my kids to see that but hiding how I feel 24hrs a day is bloody tough.

larla · 02/06/2018 10:46

FlowersSorry to hear that fairydust26. It sucks.
I have a sleep app on my phone that I put on every night to help me sleep. It's a mediation thing. Sends me off quickly but it doesn't keep me asleep.
Take it easy today. Try some mediation or yoga if you're not already doing it.
I should take my own advice on that. Grin

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Fairydust26 · 02/06/2018 13:31

Thank you larla😊 what’s the app called? I listen to guided meditations before I sleep but I think I’ve probably listened to them all on YouTubeConfused so would be good to have some different ones to listen too.

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Fairydust26 · 02/06/2018 13:33

LinkListen I completely understand it’s so hard especially when your dealing with it alone it can be so exhausting but your not alone hugs for youFlowers.

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larla · 02/06/2018 14:18

It's called sleep well fairydust26. I got it on the play store. Can't remember if I paid for it or not but if I did it wouldn't have been much.

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Fairydust26 · 03/06/2018 18:21

Thanks larla I’ll have a look. Feeling much better today hope you’ve all had a peaceful weekend😊.

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larla · 04/06/2018 10:09

Glad you're doing better. I have a job interview today at 4.10 and a second interview with a different place on Tuesday. The one on Tuesday wants me to work for 3 hours to see how i interact with everyone. Surprisingly I'm not stressing too badly over them. The meds must be working. Smile

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Fairydust26 · 05/06/2018 11:41

larla that’s good to hear! Hope the job interview went well sending you lots of luck😊.

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Longlunch · 05/06/2018 18:07

Hi all
Just wanted to say hi. Two years free of panic attacks and anxiety last week the horrible feelings came back... good thing is that I am not at the point I was before! I know the symptoms and I know I can get better. I went to gp and I will start talking therapy and beta blockers.
Gp also gave me setraline, any experiences on this?
Also last time something that helped me was watching funny videos 😀 anybody else with good tips? Links of mood lifting thibgs? Basically need to fill my mind so stops racing and thinking 🤔 so much

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Fairydust26 · 05/06/2018 21:12

Hello Longlunch 😊 I’ve been on sertaline for a year now at a low dose and it has defiantly helped I still have my bad days but they are far and few between and I cope with things a lot better than when I wasn’t on them. Hope you start to feel better soon!Flowers.

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Noodlesxxx · 06/06/2018 00:42

Hey all...well it's 12.30 at night and I'm here needing to talk or do something to help me sleep lol...having a rough time lately aswell with anxiety and depression...have had this on and off since first child was born 15 years ago...i have 3 kids...youngest being 4 and a lovely supportive other half...anyway long story short I had been doing well up until a few weeks ago...got signed off work...i just couldn't cope with the long hours anymore plus I had stopped my meds a few months back as I really thought I didn't need them anymore...turns out I was so wrong....been to gp and they have given me mitripzapine...i think that's how you spell it lol I'm also back on Prozac...it just sucks being back at square one after doing so well for so long...anyone that can offer any advice or a big hug I would much appreciate it xxx

larla · 06/06/2018 07:47

Long lunch I am on that med too. I am on 100 but I only started in Jan and only started the higher dose a few weeks ago so can't help much. It takes the edge off and like fairydust26 said I still have bad days and I still have some trouble sleeping.

Excersise helps however I am rather lazy.
I have a sleep app on my phone I listen too and this week I got the happy pear cook book so changing my diet to see if that helps.

Noodlesxxx sorry I have no advice but I can offer virtual hugs. Flowers
I am in Ireland and I found a website for mental health that offers counselling I think. I can't remember the name and am heading to work now. I'll post the name when I get back. I don't know if it's only for Ireland though.

Longlunch · 06/06/2018 08:50

Thank you Larla and Fairydust, did you get nasty side effects to start with? I am worried as in two weeks I have exams (on top of working, family, social events) and I heard that you can get even more anxious in the first week or two ...not sure if to wait till after my exams, and for the moment stay on the beta blockers which work ok for me in terms of all the physical symptoms...

Noodles have you tried the self referral from the NHS? They are good in my opinion, they have phone, face to face etc talking therapy. You do the self referral yourself
Www.talkwellbeing.co.uk

Or the Mind website, I have given them a call a coupke of times and they were very helpful

Big 🤗

Embracethechaos · 06/06/2018 11:36

Hello, I've been off this thread for a while as I've been doing well. Longluch, setraline gave me side effects of severe insomnia and panic, only trialed for less than a week and took a while to recover. Now I'm on quetalapaine which works for me but everyone responds differently so it's hard to know. I'm not under specialist mental health as I'm pregnant and refused medication as setraline made me very anxious of them. I am on quetiapine but starting and increasing the dose was stressful. I was recommended to increase my dose when I had a quiet week or two. It's up to you really though as they may help and in 2 weeks you could be much calmer and able to do your exams to a better level. It's a risk though with setraline. My problem I think was I started them as a last resort and couldn't cope.

Cbt/talking therapy is really good I think for helping with life stress and being in control of your thoughts and emotions. If I were you I'd stick to a good revision timetable with lots of little breaks and rewards then after exams concider the setraline. My psychology a level teacher said in our module on stress that beta blockers are great...at one point I wished my GP would prescribe them but I didn't have high blood pressure so was being irrational.

This morning I feel a bit low as I had an nct class last night so didn't take my medication until late, my choice as I got home and lay on the sofa instead of going upstairs and taking my meds. So I had a lie in, and am generally feeling unmotivated as I like to do things in the morning. On a positive I've stopped feeling anxious in the hours running up to my medication time, I didn't realise until the end of the class that it was past medicine time then we had a relaxation session to end. So I didn't have the opportunity to get stressed and slept better last night than the night before. The lighter evenings help as I got really anxious being awake after dark.

Embracethechaos · 06/06/2018 11:39

*I'm now under specialist mental health team.

Noodlesxxx · 06/06/2018 14:28

Thanks for the replies you lovely bunch 😊 had a very rough morning...complete mess express with tears...phoned my gp who was great...i start counselling on Tuesday...im hoping it will help get to the root cause of all this....really missing work and cannot wait for tablets to kick in so I can get stronger....anyone else amazed at how much a toll depression and anxiety takes on every aspect of your life??!! I wouldn't wish it on anyone xxx

Longlunch · 07/06/2018 09:41

How are you all feeling today?
I decided not to try the setraline. Instead I am taking just the beta blocker, propanalol and works well. I also have an appointment with a Talking therapist in 2 weeks not sure If it will be cbt/councelling but I am looking forward to that as that helped me a lot last time round, a few years back.

Anyhow, just feeling like a beached whale as is my first day of period and they are normally the worst...but emotionally I feel ok actually! Which is a bonus.
I do wonder if peri menopause is causing this havoc in my emotions...

Sending you all Flowers

Noodlesxxx · 07/06/2018 11:51

Hey longlunch...im feeling a bit better today aswell...im just over the dreaded time of the month...think it doesn't help the situation at all lol propranolol is great isn't it...helps relieve the pounding heart and sweating etc....how long have you been diagnosed?? Xxx