Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

[Fairydust26]

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

@sadsnake how are you feeling today? I went to the Dr and she is going to refer me for specialised counselling God knows how long that will take.

Hope everyone is coping and having a peaceful weekend

LEMtheoriginal,so so today,how do you feel about being referred..have you looked up a bit about it?.. everything I've read about ,talks about people being promiscuous when young,so I wasn't ,that sort makes me think it's not that ..autism fits me more ,but the thought of being assessed is scary

I hadn't read that but sadly that fits in very well with my teenage years. I am happy to be referred but sceptical about if it's to be any use. Just feel so hopeless - dd has toothache so had a worrying few days. She has to have it out under General anaesthetic so I'm going to be climbing the walls.

Genuinely had enough of everything and just wish I could sleep forever. If it wasn't for my DD'S I'd go.

I know that feeling too...my kids cause me immense stress that contributes to how I feel,yet they are the reason I've not done anything silly...I hide in bed a lot in the evening as I can't cope with any more living / life.i stopped washing and shaving legs and I was just using dry shampoo on my hair day after day,dh on nights so no one noticed..I had a wash and shaved my legs today.its something..

Hope the tooth removal goes ok x bless her xx

Struggling so much right now - scared I might do something bad

Are you ok LEM?

LEMtheoriginal how are you doing now? Have you spoken to someone in real life about how your feeling or would your OH be able to bring you some comfort and support, hang in there.

I'm ok - thank you for asking x

Hi everyone
I am so glad i have found this thread as i am struggling atm

Does anyone experience major highs and lows? I have a few days where i feel 'normal' and seemingly ok can cope with things
Then comes the crushing low where i cant seem to interact with anyone or do anything except go to work, even then i feel sick
Every single social interaction i have i will find someway to find fault in how i acted or how the other person hates me and thinks im a twat which wont leave my thoughts
I begin to feel sick and the thought of seeing them again fills me with dread

Which is strange as i hate to admit it i am pretty lonely as i moved from my hometown and have failed to make any friends outside of my DH and my children

During these episodes i am unable to deal with any sort of noise or anyone by me and can be very short and snappy

I have been to my GP, group therapy and CBT all to no avail to the point now my GP is not interested and has become very sharp with me he told me categorically he will not prescribe me medication

I feel so sad for my children as i feel they have an absolute sap for a mum and they can see im useless

This isnt a self pity thread but i feel i have no where to turn i seem to have no resilience and have completely lost the ability to brush things off

Any advice or strategies would be greatly recieved
Thanks

Bless you - that sounds really tough. Could you possibly find a more understanding Dr? I totally get the ups and downs - it's horrible. You sound very much like me.

Thanks for your reply LEM
Its a comfort to see i am not alone but i am sorry you get this too its awful

I have been wanting to change Drs for a while but i assumed all Drs were similar in thier thinking regarding things
I will sign up to another one amd hopefully they will be of more help

Welcome MajorMalfunction😊 I can totally relate to the highs and lows there are times when anxiety doesn’t effect me at all and others when it absolutely floors me. Drs can be abit rubbish when it comes to mental health It took me years to pluck up the courage to see mine again after I was fobbed off and left feeling worser than ever. Hopefully you’ll find one that understands and can give you the support you need.

Im sorry to just post but really drowning. Very anxious. Initiallt kicked off by fluoxetine. Stopped pills almosy a week ago. Feel better but knackered. Now horribly anxious about having to face world again. Hiding in bed. Scared and feel so shit to be doing this.

Lasttimeround am sorry you are going through this its a horrible thing to go through
I cant offer any help but i can send you my thoughts i hope things lift for you soon

Thank you fairydust

Thank you majormalfunction.
Ive had a bit of a read of the thread once the anxiety lifted a bit. So many of us having a hard time. Sad but made me feel less alone. Ive been angry and ashamed of myself for being so weird and unable to cope. Reading about others helps me find compassion also for myself.
Deep breath, i wish us all a better day today.

Hi, I've increased quetiapine to 75, second day in, all is good. Yesterday was chill, today I have a midwife appointment. Feel a bit different, short boughts of strong emotions and spacey, but that might be something other than the meds (food, weather, life, responsibilities... Etc) going to try to do some housework this morning.

Embracethechaos may I ask what the quitiapine is for? I get so fixated on things and it all gets out of proportion and paranoid. Am I right that you have a BPD diagnosis? Apologies if I've got that wrong.

I am having a slightly better day today (I think!) and have been for the first run in over six months - will pay for that later I'm sure.

Last time and major - I hope you have find some comfort in this thread. Mumsnet has literally saved my life on more than one occasion xxx

No... I don't but I do wander...I have self diagnosed myself with everything, when I mentioned bpd to my mum she said a psychiatrist though my brother might have it when he started school....I was diagnosed with stress induced psychosis once but never had hallucinations... My official diagnosis is dyslexia and antenatal anxiety and depression. Generalised anxiety disorder is another diagnosis I've had which fits well. Anxiety is a common issue with dyslexia. All thesse diagnoses make my head spin, anxiety is my real issue. I thought I had mild dyslexia, but when I was assessed as an adult, turns out I have severe dyslexia with very high intelligence and issues more in short term memory, organisation and audio processing rather than the well known reading and writing. Probably helped that my mum is a teacher. I did hate mental maths.

I've done quite a bit of my own learning into psychology. I think that labels are always changing and not always helpful, 'people don't fit into boxes' you hear all the time but the older I get the more true I think it is....crappy social media articles and people thinking they are experts after reading a couple, while raises awareness actually makes me more anxious and angry... I got so fixated on something imagined once... Got diagnosed with stress and sleep deprivation psychosis once and had a course of olanzapine, but had no hallosinations or long term diagnosis which covered psychosis.....now I'm pregnant I'm getting lots of support....allthough I do not like my psychiatrist and know this is irrational... I like the umbrella image of ' high functioning specific learning difficulties' which is a broad term they tend to use more in the states.

Can I join please? I have anxiety and depression which can be really debilitating. On Sertraline but the side effects are really getting to me - excessive sweating, dodgy stomach, no sex drive and weight gain! Thinking about swapping to Citalopram, but terrified I’ll go back to how bad I was without any medication.

Just to say to others, I’ve had bad experiences with GPs that don’t listen and seem to push you out the door, but the GP I’ve been with for a year is so understanding, patient, and really listens to me. So please do persevere trying to find a good one. I practically got through 7 other GPs at the surgery before I found her!

Of course TheSecretMole welcome😊 how long have you been on the sertaline for? The first few weeks were rough for me too but the side effects did eventually ease.

About a year....! The first few weeks were pretty awful but that calmed down, but still left with the above effects sadly.

Thesecretmole - I was on citalopram for many years and those side effects sound similar. I went over to escitalopram and found the side effects less (I think). I'm on week 3 now of restarting and it's been grim but I do believe I'm starting to see the fog lift. Good day yesterday although this morning I don't feel good at all.

Escitalopram is practically the same drug as citalopram with slightly different pharmacology that means you effectively can have half the dose that you would need of citalopram. I think it is used more for anxiety - they use citalopram first as it's cheaper!!

Hi, I am pleased I've found medication that works for me but my GP did explain its often trial and error with side effects. I still would rather only be on it for months not years as am concerned about long term side effects. It can effect the cardiovascular system, cause strokes and heart attacks, but being young the risk is low for me. Its a relatively new medication and their is limited research into its use in pregnancy so that fact makes me anxious but I'm not so bothered as I was when I first took it as I've been able to read up on it without panicking. (I also found a good one but he was only the 3rd one I tried and there is another good gp in my practice but she's always fully booked. The gp I like is an experienced and a really old fashioned family doctor who never rushes me and is a good listener.)