Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

[Fairydust26]

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

I woke up at 3 am with a feeling of dread and I could not remember what it was about. Then I fished around in my brain to find the reason.
Just a couple of things happened yesterday, one after the other, which set me off. I couldn't eat last night and I obviously can't sleep seeing as I'm here at 5 am. One thing is being sorted out and the other is nothing major, but I am needlessly catastrophising.
I am thoroughly fed up with myself and my stressing over any tiny problem. Wish I could just calm down and go with the flow.

@Pinkcoat124 Good morning 💐 Anxiety woke me at 4:30am too, I knew I'd been woken by a noise so my panic mode decided there must be burglars - nope just my DP snoring 🙈 I had to get up and check every window and door and now I'm sat like a cat on a hot tin roof waiting for 'something bad' to happen. It sucks. I do have medication tho so hopefully that will kick in soon - do you have anything to help you ease the Symptoms?

Hi fellow early risers.
I'm feeling pretty crap this morning and been awake for ages.
I worry about stupid everyday problems too. Woke up worrying about my new glasses that I can't see properly with ( separate thread about this). ffs what is wrong with me? It's nothing to be so anxious about, I know, but yet I am and I can't tell anyone I'm so worried as I feel stupid.

Hello mouse. No I'm not on any med. I'm up and down with the anxiety. Sometimes I'm OK so I think I don't need it.
I won't admit to some of the stupid things I get so stressed about, I usually play them down, so posting on here has been a lifeline to me.
When I am bad I have the constant internal argument with myself in my head. One side is saying " stop worrying, you know its not a problem so sort yourself out " and the other side is saying " omg this is terrible, what am I going to do etc".
I dwell on stuff too much and make things into problems

@Pinkcoat124 I totally understand, I make problems were there is none, my DS11 calmly told me last weekend that I'm suffocating him with my irrational fears and I have to let him grow up one day 🙈 this came about because I wouldn't let him walk to youth club with his friend - it's a 5 min walk and we live in a very quiet village. He's completely right but all I could imagine was kidnappers, getting run over, him not making it there and me not knowing for 2/12 hours until collection time etc etc It's awful knowing my anxiety is affecting him 😔 I take propoponol (spelling might be off) which isn't a daily medication, I just to take it when I get in a state (like this morning) and it eases the symptoms to allow me to rationalise.

Hi pink and fairy, I've been an early waker most of my pregnancy. Meds are helping a bit. Took my meds a bit late last night (it's Friday) but still woke up bang on 6am when the alarm normally goes off. There has only been a couple of nights where I actually went back to sleep after my obligry toilet trip. I'm in the third trimester now so on the home stretch... Before I have a baby to look after. I can sometimes have an afternoon nap but and getting really anxious both about other mums opinions and our lack of routine, can't really motitor kicks and aspershic traits I can see all through my family... On the plus side I'm getting the best mental health care now I'm pregnant which sometimes makes me angry as I have friends and relatives who have not... I'm happier now it's spring, 'the early bird catches the worm.' I know staying in bed after about 4:30 am is futile, just get really anxious. I just have to improve my napping skills... I did get really good at napping but pregnancy has reverted me to childhood where I didn't nap as a baby/toddler, just one sleep a day suits me best... Have a great weekend everyone.

Hi everyone not doing to well here either feeling very anxious and sick I couldn’t even tell you what I’m worrying about but of course as you all know the anxious mind has to worry about anything and everything!. Going to venture out today hoping it will distract me and break the anxious cycle hope things start to improve for you all soon.

Sorry you are not too good fairy. Are you worrying about anything in particular or just anxious and you don't know why. I can't allow myself to be the latter, so there is always a " thing" that I worry about. I think we have mentioned this before and I know exactly where you are at.
Mouse that was very mature of your ds to say that. Its hard letting go and letting them venture out on their own but you never stop worrying and trying to protect them. I still do it with mine who are 19 and 21 and I too make things into problems when they really are not.
Embrace don't even think about other mums opinions. They don't matter. Its your life and you do what is best for you and your baby. Take it easy and rest whenever you want.
Hope everyone has a good rest of the weekend. Take care x

Thanks everyone, I really think weather affects moods and its been so cold and wet recently after a heat wave. I got another migraine and feel sick today its been a while and it may be connected to my new iron prescription and my scan tommorow. At least I'm heading to a hospital, can discuss my health before Monday, might skip the iron tonight, it's strong stuff.

Feel much better than I have done for most of my pregnancy, headache under control and a bit of indigestion is nothing.

Thanks pink, fairy hope you feel better soon

Thanks Pinkcoat124 I wouldn’t say it was something in particular it’s just rearing it’s ugly head again and I’m not really sure why.trying not to dwell on it so much and just let it pass hope you have a good rest of the weekend.

Embracethechaos thanks it’s cold and gloomy where I am too which hasn’t helped my mood either but I hope you feel better soon!.

Hi all,

I’m on 200mg of Sertraline per day. Feeling weird. Is this normal?

I can’t go out of the house at the moment because I’m so anxious and embarrassed..

WaitrosePigeon how long have you been on them for have you recently upped your dose?. When I first started taking them it made my anxiety go through the roof for the first few days.

I started Feb 2015. However that was at 50mg. Then over the years it’s been upped to 200mg. Been on 200mg nearly two weeks. I’m glad to hear someone else has noticed an increase in anxiety too.

WaitrosePigeon I’ve stayed at the same dose since I started them however I have read that it’s very common to experience heightened anxiety when upping your dose .hopefully the side effects settle down for you soon and you start to feel the benefits of them.

I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself. Anxiety is ramping up for no good reason, well for stupid reasons tbh. If I don't have a heart attack one day with all this stress it will be a miracle.
Anyway, feeling pretty crap and wish I could calm down so I can get some sleep.

Pink coat, I know the feeling, being online at night is the worst for insomnia and mental health in general. Staying offline is easier said than done though! Dr's plan for me is to gradually increase to a 75 ready for birth. Last night was the first night I felt 50 was not enough, nearly took another 25 at midnight (I took my 50 at 9pm) but didn't as I've made bad medication choices at night before. It was a stressful weekend and I have nothing planned for the week so hopefully my mood will settle before my next review. I might keep a mood and sleep diary to take to my appointment. I read on mind that's helpful to have when discussing meds but I am no good at sticking to diaries. I do struggle to awnser sleep timing questions.

Hugs for you Pinkcoat124 hopefully you managed to get some sleep and is feeling somewhat better today.

Thank you fairy. How are you doing?
I managed to get a bit of sleep. Took one of those night time kalms tablets. It tasted foul and made no difference coz I took ages to fall asleep.
Feeling really on edge and recognise the patterns so well. I have stressed about 4 things in the last week, one after the other. Stupid things. And they are totally not worth the anguish I have given myself.
Embrace I know being online is no good but I can't help it at the moment. Its my comfort at these times.
I'm like a bloody broken record. I need to get some help and stop being so scared.

I got given an information sheet from a hospital, for sleep the only over the counter medication on the list was melatonin. I've not tried it as I'm on prescription meds but it's worth looking into. Your body should naturally produce melatonin but you can get supplements to help for sleep disorders or jet lag as it supposedly helps reset your body clock. My husband tried kalms in the past, said it did nothing for him...

Pinkcoat124 doing abit better thank you, may not be your cup of tea but when I’m struggling to sleep or I’ve feeling anxious I put my headphones in and pop on a guided meditation and without fail I end up drifting off may be worth a try if you struggle tonight.

Hi am new to this but It's been recommended to me by my therapist to try understand that I am not alone in how I think and to see the i sites of others and how they cope with their children and situations.
I suffer with an anxious bowel and ibs so am constantly tense and worrying incase of an accident outside the home.i work part time and am a mummy to a very bright little 4 year old boy.this is where I am starting to feel like I am a failings mum.from my point of view most mums/dads can just say 'let's go to the park' or 'shall we go swimming', let's have a day out etc...anyways I'm worried my child is missing out massively as I can't just do this I want to be able to say yes when he asked to go/do somthing.most times I have to plan a few days in advance just so I feel am going to be able to cope.
What I want to know is is there anyone out there who is also in this same situation?and if so how do you cope with the feelings of failing your child or yourself?
I also would like to know if there's any tips from people who know others that are like this, how do you react or incourage your friends to help them function.

Hi panic - lots of mum's feel like you do. I think a lot of it comes from social media and pressures to be perfect. Some people need the security of forward planning and that's ok. You also don't have to have fantastic days out at the park all the time. I fecking hated the park when dd was younger. What is it that makes you anxious?

Sorry not much help as I'm struggling myself today.

Anxiety can just fuck off