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to give up now

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BabsCabsIsLocal · 23/12/2017 23:20

I can't bear the pain

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NorthStarAtMyFeet · 23/12/2017 23:24

Do you have anyone to talk to irl? Or would you like to chat here?

Samaritans number 116 123 or email [email protected]

Italiangreyhound · 23/12/2017 23:26

Bans lease do not give up.

Please talk to the Samaritans. Christmas is a tough time for many and if you are in the UK or Europe it is the middle of the night. Another tough time.

Whatever you are struggling with, there will be answers. You just need to find them.

whatthefuckmas · 23/12/2017 23:26

lots of us are going through similar and we’re here to listen x

DrMumMum · 23/12/2017 23:30

Please try to find someone to talk to. I've been there and come through the other side. This will pass I promise you. Never give up, you are far too precious.

melisma · 23/12/2017 23:31

Please dont give up. You can do this one minute at a time if you have to. There are people here and listening x

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BabsCabsIsLocal · 23/12/2017 23:32

There isn't anyone. I don't want to forever be the depressed, pathetic person who needs support.

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BabsCabsIsLocal · 23/12/2017 23:35

Not that I judge others like that, or even myself. I know I'm not worthless and unloveable. But the world thinks I'm and realistically I'm too broken now. The Samaritans can't help, it's just a reminder how alone I am.

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FeralBeryl · 23/12/2017 23:35

Babs would it help to talk about it here? Or would complete distraction help at all? We're here.

BakewellTart01 · 23/12/2017 23:36

Babs, I too have been there. It is tough and hard. And sometimes I live in fear I will return to that place. We can listen. Anytime. There is no shame in being the person who needs support. I am that person. A large percentage of the population are that person. Please please don't give up.

FeralBeryl · 23/12/2017 23:37

No one is wholly unloveable. They really aren't. I'm sorry you've not been able to feel otherwise.

CheshireChat · 23/12/2017 23:37

Try and accept the help and support as in time you might not need it anymore.

If it's Christmas that's getting you down, the MN is great as there's always people on that feel the same way.

BulletFox · 23/12/2017 23:37

Don't give up x

keepondreaming · 23/12/2017 23:39

Would it help to talk?
Or just shout & swear?
It's a tough time of year. Into only is it "joyous" Christmas but it's dark, damp, cold outs

Bambamber · 23/12/2017 23:39

There is always someone to listen, whether it be someone face to face, someone on the phone or someone online. This may feel like it will last forever, but it won't. Please do give the Samaritans a call, there's nothing wrong with needing support Flowers

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 23/12/2017 23:40

@BabsCabsIsLocal please don't give up. I'm also suffering quite badly at the moment with my mental health and sometimes feel like nothing can drag me out of that black hole in sinking in. Yesterday/this morning was particularly bad. Please if you ever need to talk there are so many of us.

Also your name has made me smile. I know that might not seem relevant but it's the little things that cheer me up.

keepondreaming · 23/12/2017 23:40

Sorry...

dark, damp and cold outside. If it helps, we can listen.

ScreamingValentaMySantaExpress · 23/12/2017 23:40

@Babs You are not alone - there are people here listening to you Flowers

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BabsCabsIsLocal · 23/12/2017 23:40

I don't belong. I'm not loved. I might have autism. I'm so broken I need massive love and life doesn't work like that. I just want to be wanted and belong. I want the nightmares to stop. I'm not immediately suicidal btw. Just thinking ppl will understand, surely? I can't be expected to keep on when I can't have basic things (love, my own family, good friends, ability to hold down job)

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BabsCabsIsLocal · 23/12/2017 23:43

I used to ask for support but you can't keep needing it or people leave. Better to be only fun around ppl. You are very kind, thank you

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FeralBeryl · 23/12/2017 23:45

Try and break things down in to more manageable chunks.
Start with your nightmares. Are they related to a certain thing? Certain time of night? Have you explored sleep techniques? Medication?
I'm not trying to bombard you. Sleep deprivation is one of the worst things imagineable and makes the smallest task impossible. My mental health suffers incredibly from it Thanks

DrMumMum · 23/12/2017 23:46

The basic things you mentioned may just be around the corner, you can never know what is about to happen! Perhaps think about speaking to your GP as soon as you can get there. Talking therapies can be great for someone in your position.

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 23/12/2017 23:46

Only the people who are not worthy of your love leave Babs. You deserve all of the things you want and one day someone won't leave.

FeralBeryl · 23/12/2017 23:46

Nah - fun is exhausting Babs Wink
You've just not been around the right people maybe.

cbearmum · 23/12/2017 23:47

Babe can you ever think of a time where it wasn't okay in the end?

Stay strong xxx

JamPasty · 23/12/2017 23:49

Big hugs and handholds. Flowers