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Fairydust26 · 09/12/2017 15:31

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppaBrew put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hiSmileFlowers

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Itsonly5oclock · 04/03/2018 12:51

Thanks for the welcome fairydust26. I would like to be able to carry on so another thread would be great.

fantasmasgoria1 hope you are ok. I have been there and it’s so draining being so upset all the time. I hope you are getting some help too. It’s hard trying to distract yourself when you are so low. I know myself as I just tend to wallow in it, but talking/ posting on here I find a great comfort.

I’ve managed to calm myself down a bit but I really fancy a glass of wine to take the edge off ☹️. Instead I’ll have a cuppa and a biscuit.

Pinkcoat124 · 04/03/2018 14:33

Up with the larks here as well. Trying to calm down but I have so much adrenaline surging round my body its hard to relax. My heart has been pounding all morning and I'm just sitting around doing nothing productive. I also wallow in it itsonly. Can't do anything useful.

TinyTimsCrutch · 04/03/2018 15:02

A new thread would be great. I have been carrying the Imodium as a safety net but I think you are right Fairy about taking one to give my bowels a rest and get back on track. I put off doing this as I didn’t want to them panic when I don’t take one but feel if I can break the cycle it might help x

Trooperslane2 · 04/03/2018 18:06

Fairydust26

I will hunt you down and I will FIND YOU (a la Liam Neeson) if you don't, buddy!

Let's go everyone! off to thread next

Fairydust26 · 04/03/2018 18:19

Haha! Okay Trooperslane2 you have my word!!Grin

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Wh0KnowsWhereTheT1meG0es · 04/03/2018 22:19

I'd like a follow-on thread too. I've had a nice weekend but can still feel anxiety just under the surface. Yesterday was great, I pushed myself out of my comfort zone a little in a voluntary role which kept me so busy and focussed all day that all anxiety was banished, today was quieter hence time to let it back in a little. Distraction definitely works for me but sonetimes I do have to push myself to not wallow.

Pinkcoat124 · 05/03/2018 07:20

Well I've been awake since about 3.30 with thoughts swirling round my brain. I think I need to go to the docs and get some help.

I'm really reluctant to take medication but think the time has come but I am worried about side effects. Don't want anything that makes you put on weight, like mirtazapine, and I need to be able to function at work because of course I won't be telling them.

I'm just sick of overreacting to every little stress in my life. A lot of the time they aren't even stresses but I make them into one.

Anyone had any success with meds?

Trooperslane2 · 05/03/2018 10:21

pink

I was on citalopram for years and it really helped. A few massive things along with huge work stress meant that they stopped working properly pre Christmas and I started on venafalaxine in January.

I'm still signed off work (thought getting anxious about my doc appointment later to review meds and extend sick line - I know in my rational brain that it won't be a problem)

I'm definitely less anxious but can get overwhelmed a bit easily in crowds etc and this last week has been hellish because we've all been stuck in because of the snow... DH and DD are back to normal (work/nursery) today thank God and I'm not even going to put the radio on I'm enjoying the peace so much!

I have lost 1.5 stones however - no appetite at all and having to force myself to eat - that's getting a bit easier however.

Fairydust26 · 05/03/2018 11:55

Pinkcoat124 low dose of sertaline since the summer which has helped a lot. By no means has the anxiety gone but it’s defiantly made me feel a lot more braver and able to cope with things a lot easier however I could probably do with a higher dose I just don’t want to become so reliant on it of that makes sense. As for side effects it’s different for everyone the first few weeks weren’t very nice but I was still able to function fully and I didn’t put on any weight I think for the first month I had no appetite what so ever but no harm in chatting to your gp there is loads of different options to explore not just medication Flowers.

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Dustysparrow · 05/03/2018 13:27

Hope it's ok if I join in. I've suffered with anxiety since I was about 11, though my parents were oblivious to it. I tried hypnotherapy years ago and it didn't help one bit. But, as recent years have passed I've been feeling gradually better and more on top of it. Until this week. I rely on routine to keep me ticking over and to keep my anxiety at bay, even small changes to plans really throw me off kilter. So this week with the snow, being trapped indoors and with my child off school, also miserable and stuck indoors, I have slowly been feeling more and more out of sorts as the days have gone by. Feeling really withdrawn, quiet, anxious etc. This morning was supposed to be my dd's first day back to school, however there has been a big water supply meltdown where we live, loads of pipes have burst leaving half the town with no water so many schools have closed - my dd's school have merged with the other school in their academy and they are being schooled in a different village today. But the chaos at drop off, the change of plans, people beeping their horns at me (because I stopped to let through a driver coming the opposite way), got told off by a man at the school carpark for trying to use the carpark when "we all know we aren't allowed to use it" - well, no, my daughter doesn't usually attend this school so why would I? Anyway, after drop off I just found myself sitting in my car bawling my eyes out this morning, just sobbing, feeling just like I used to feel years ago - filled with anxiety, feeling really low, and like everybody is out to get me, like I am a pathetic waste of space. It's like all the progress I have made over time has vanished in less than a week and I'm back to the anxious mess I used to be. How can one week out of routine cause such a backwards step? I felt bad because my dd saw how stressed and upset I was getting and I feel like it makes her anxious too. I felt like all of the people I saw around me were aggressive and horrible and looking for an excuse to have a go at me. I cried all the way in the car to the supermarket, then when I got home a neighbour across the road asked me how I was I and I just burst into tears, I'm so embarrassed.

Just so disappointed that I am so weak. I thought I had got stronger, that I had got better, but clearly that's only in the right conditions. I feel so pathetic that it only takes a change in my routine to let all those feelings come flooding back again. They were obviously there all along, just lurking beneath the surface.

I fell out with my DH last night because he often speaks to me like I'm an idiot and it affects my self esteem - and now my DD has also started to be patronising towards me (she is 9!). It's because I worry about things and when I mention my worries he dismisses them and acts like I'm being foolish and pathetic (things like leaving the house with the washing machine on, I worry it might start a fire, or letting our dd travel in the front of the car when I feel she would be safer in the back etc). When I tried to tell him how it made me feel he got defensive and stormed off in a mood. So it's hard to feel I can talk to him about it because I suspect he would be irritated by it and think I should get a grip. Sad

Fairydust26 · 05/03/2018 21:30

Of course Dustysparrow😊 big hug for you today sounded very stressful and I probably would of reacted the same way so don’t feel disappointed in yourself. I’m sure a lot of us on here can relate to your post so your not alone in feeling this way hopefully you’ll find some comfort posting on here Flowers.

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Pinkcoat124 · 06/03/2018 06:37

Hi dusty. I can relate to a lot of what you are saying as I am a long time anxiety sufferer. My dh is a very rational thinker and often dismisses my concerns out of frustration sometimes, as I've always got something on the go. He does understand though, but I take things to the extreme.
I've always got an element of anxiety under the surface, even when things are good, and it doesn't take much for it to ramp up. I think you were maybe just a bit fragile this week and the situation has brought it all out, very understandable. You are not weak. It takes a strong person to control their anxiety, which you have been doing, but every now and again you will have a blip.

Pinkcoat124 · 06/03/2018 06:56

Awake early again today but not as early as yesterday, thankfully.
I nearly bailed on my way to work yesterday as I was feeling so bad. Thinking of excuses to leave early but I stayed and being so busy took my mind off things.

However, I have got a few social things coming up in the next few weeks. And I'm already thinking of excuses not to go, like I'm ill. I just can't go out and pretend things are OK and I'm too much of a coward to just tell the truth and say what's really wrong.
Had a talk with dh last night and I think I am a step closer to going and asking for medication. When I mentioned my reservations about taking them he pointed out that I am doing exactly what I always do and thinking about how bad they might make me feel. They might not, I might have no side effects and feel great but that's my thought process.
CBT sounds exactly what I need to change my thought processes. I had some telephone CBT but I got nothing from it sadly, coz I'm a know it all and felt patronised.

Sorry for boring everyone, this seems to be turning into my personal blog.

Trooperslane2 · 06/03/2018 09:31

Not at all, pink

I'm rattling again today too - GP has signed me off until the end of my work notice period and it feels like I'm absolutely taking the piss, though I know I'm not.

I'm now catastropsising about never getting another job again after I finish my course. I'm trying to stay busy but I'm feeling really shattered after a bad night and horrific drop off with DD.

Tea is my friend today I think Brew

Fairydust26 · 06/03/2018 10:00

Today’s a bad day for me too! Woke up this morning with the worst anxiety felt like it has been lingering for while and today it officially blew hoping that was the worst of it and things start to calm down, im expecting AF so I’m sure that’s had a lot to do with it!Angry hugs for both of youFlowers.

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Dustysparrow · 06/03/2018 12:29

Thank you for responding - there are so many of us with anxiety issues. It is exhausting! All the things that others seem to be able to take in their stride just feel overwhelming and scary, and it's hard for others around you to understand if they don't have it themselves.

I feel a bit better today than I did yesterday, though I was awake at 4am worrying about umpteen different things as usual. Yesterday really threw me, as it had taken me the best part of 30 years for my anxiety to lessen and then suddenly there it was, right in my face as though it had never been away. Routine is everything to me, my way of coping. Change of any kind freezes me up like a rabbit in the headlights.

Pinkcoat - I totally get how you feel about the social events coming up. It's the feeling of total dread as the day approaches, it's horrible. These days I very much tend to only go to things that involve my closest friends and family, usually things which are within familiar territory like a friend's house or friendly country pub - for me the idea of going into the city for an event filled with strangers, for example, is unthinkable, I would lose sleep over it. Actually there are yearly conferences for my chosen career which are held annually in London and which could help my freelance career which I have avoided signing up to every single year for that very reason. Anxiety can be so limiting, it can really hold you back.

It would be amazing to wake up in the morning and not be fazed at all by anything - I can't imagine it.

Reike · 06/03/2018 13:37

Hey everyone. Sending thoughts to everyone having a bad day Thanks

Been away for a while and actually had quite a good few weeks. Things seemed to go well. But I've been ill with a cold since Saturday evening. There's some form of epidemic in Germany right now so it's not really a surprise. I was bedridden for the last two days. My body ached so bad that I couldn't stay up. I had the last two days off so work hasn't been an issue. I'm supposed to be back tomorrow though for a 10 hour shift. I'm feeling slightly better but still not well I think.

It's really weird that I'm now having trouble to call in sick. Having had mental health days before I now feel guilty despite having a valid reason not to go in. Also I'm really annoyed because like I said I had a good few weeks and this cold kinda ruined it.

I don't really want to call in sick but I feel like it would be the right thing to do. My body probably needs more time to recover. But since I feel a bit more lively today I have this other voice that says maybe it will be fine. Sometimes I wish my mind would shut up. All this thinking is doing my head in Sad

Fairydust26 · 06/03/2018 17:32

Sorry to hear you’ve not been well Reike wishing you a speedy recovery!. Glad to hear you’ve been doing well these past few weeks but If you still feel like your not well enough to go into work is it possible for you to get a sick note from your doctor?.

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Reike · 06/03/2018 17:54

Fairy Thanks Smile

Yes that's what I'm going to do. I emailed my work to let them know and will go to my gp in the morning. I kinda accepted I'm not well enough and should not feel guilty about it. But I hate going to the doctor...sitting for hours in a cramped waiting room and I always feel a bit judged by the front desk ladies. They're under lot of pressure because of the many patients. I always feel like I need to apologize to them for coming in. And just the thought of sitting in the waiting room so close to other people is killing me. I'm not claustrophobic but it seems to trigger my anxiety. It sucks but I have no choice I guess.

Fairydust26 · 06/03/2018 18:29

Reike I’m exactly the same it makes me so uptight and anxious aswell gahhhhhSad.

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Reike · 06/03/2018 18:43

Fairy Good to know I'm not the only one. I guess no one likes waiting rooms but if you have anxiety it is way worse. Also I just know I will run into someone I know. An over friendly neighbour or someone I went to school with. Or even worse: The best friend I cut off from my life. I live in a small village and it's the number one place for gossip Sad

Coupled with coughing fits, a runny nose and a fever it sounds just like a lot of fun...

Pinkcoat124 · 07/03/2018 08:08

Hope everyone is ok this morning. Hello to you all.

Good luck at the docs reike. Totally know what you mean because i hate going to the docs and have the same feeling of wasting their time and feel guilty about being there, even if I have a good reason to be.

I am trying to calm down after my recent episode but it’s a strange time and I’m trying to keep busy and distracted because I know the pattern so well. I am now very sensitive, anxiety wise, so it won’t take much to push me over the edge again. Nearly happened last night over an innocent comment Dh made so I need to keep detached from anything that might set me off. That is hard to do as I don’t know where the next thing will come from or what stupid thing I will start worrying about next.

I’m off to work so have a good day all and keep posting as it’s good to hear how everyone is doing. See you all later.

Fairydust26 · 07/03/2018 12:50

Pinkcoat124 I feel like that too like I’m in limbo!! The anxiety’s so fresh that it feels like anything can set you back to square one again. Hope you manage to have have a good daySmile.

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Deborah543 · 08/03/2018 07:46

I'm cutting down on Internet, getting that new, simple Nokia today. Things were going well but all went to shit yesterday, after getting prescription from mh on Sunday I talked to the midwife and she has referred me to social services. Slept well on new meds but boiler broke last night and I still have to talk to my husband about Friday meeting with mf about social service referral.

bubble62 · 08/03/2018 13:14

Hi km suffering bad aniexty and I have ocd withy cleaning I take a diazapam in the morning but worried about taking them any help please