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[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

Thank you.
I don’t think I will carry on on this thread... I don’t think I will be helpful for you all!!
It’s been brief but nice. I hope you all find peace and resolution x

Please keep posting Grundy...... big hugs x

I don’t want to upset anyone.

Grundy - I’m new on this thread but am already enjoying the comfort this thread brings even if in some bizarre way it stops me thinking about me and my issues all the time.

So please don’t feel you are imposing - that’s the depression talking.

Glad to hear meds have been upped, might take a couple of weeks to kick in so keep that in mind.

OneOfTheGrundys your not upsetting anyone keep posting on here we’re all here to support one another through these difficult times .

Hi can I just say hi. I'm having an incredibly anxious day with health anxiety and just worrying about my pregnancy im10 weeks. I've spoken to a midwife but just still feel anxious today I'm driving myself mad

Welcome Twinkletoes2018😊 did your midwife manage to reassure you a little?. You have my sympathy with health anxiety my ‘trigger’ was on the tv the other day and it’s been on my mind ever since, other people wouldn’t of given it a second thought and yet here I am with these anxious filled thoughts & symptoms about it it’s so silly!!.

Someone popped round. Think she was worried there was more to it but I explained it was just health anxiety. She wants to speak to my cpn so now I'm worried I've been flagged up as someone who is not coping when I'm just anxious

hi everyone, seems most are having a tricky time at the moment. Hope you all doing ok this evening.

One thing I realised recently is that anxiety is more common than I thought. Someone I know told me in the last few days that they suffered for the first time ever last year. I never knew, and whats worse was I never even noticed! Felt bad.

twinkle part of my resurfacing anxiety this year was worrying about potentially becoming pregnant. That then snowballed into more health worries and I haven't even stopped the contraception yet. So go you for being pregnant and you made it 25% of the way through so far, so well done you. Hope the midwife was helpful. im sure you won't be marked as not coping.

I have come to my own decision over the weekend to remove the unnecessary trouble from my life (unhelpful passive aggressive non friends). my mind is certain and i feel a little relieved by it. Now to just stop thinking about it and just allow it to happen. Shouldn't be hard, think i'm already old news with a couple of them.
I have some lovely friends and support network for our busy year ahead. So why bother trying to keep, or worrying about the rest of the pretenders? I confided a little in my sister inlaw yesterday and she thinks that if people are messing with my head and triggering my anxiety then its probably a good move too, nice to have a bit of re assurance too.

twinkle I’m sure she doesn’t think your not coping maybe she thinks that by speaking to your cpn they will be able to offer you some support with these worries?.

GrassWasGreener I felt the same way with certain people in my life their friendship was just causing me more anxiety! At times I do feel lonely for doing so but when you take a step back from it all you come to realise that certain people can be toxic to you unfortunately.

fairydust it is a bit sad, we had some great times, but the last few years its been a struggle, and there was some bullying and ganging up on etc, ( I was at the receiving end). We got over that and built some bridges, and mostly of last year was good, relaxed, easy and fun, all was well until just after xmas and I couldn't even tell you what happened, im bored trying to work it out. I don't have time for the mind games and wondering if i'm flavour of the month or not. or the mental capacity. So time to let myself free. I won't be mean if/when we next bump in to each other. But i won't gush and go on about catching up again. I will be cool calm and collected. Let them go, they don't need me and importantly I definitely do not need them.

hope everyone has a calm monday at work

I've had DSIS and BIL here and it's been lovely, but I'm still not myself - I can see it in DSIS's eyes.

On a brighter note, I think I have decided not to return to work before my notice period is up unless I'm 100% so that's given me some freedom.

Hope all well or getting there

Just wondering if anyone else has felt very weird/ different / anxious after having a baby?

I'm pretty sure that I have messed up my life. But I also know that I suffer from anxiety and depression - sometimes I'm better sometimes I'm worse. So I'm not sure exactly how accurate my assessment is.
Right now I have lost an important piece of paper and DH wants it now. I can't find it. I dread telling him because it will cause a fight. He wants to sell my car tomorrow (it needs to go that's not the issue) but I can't find the bit of paper with all the tax details etc. Even worse I have no memory of the last time I saw it. I therefore have to get a new one but I won't have it by tomorrow.
So am now having a bad time. Feeling a bit sick. All self inflicted. I should know exactly where it is.
To add to the complications I am not working (mat leave) so getting replacement paperwork is a drain on finances we don't need.

Welcome to our newbies😊 hope you find some comfort posting here! I’m doing okay did wake in the middle of the night and my mind would not shut off so feeling a tad tired today..

Wooly it can be so hard to concentrate and focus when you're not well.

Do you have a filing system? Dump drawer?

A wee prayer to St Anthony (I'm not religious!) helps me too.

Hi all. Been around but not posting.
I've been reading the thread and wish I could say something useful and comforting to you all but instead just have to say I sympathise and feel for you and totally understand just how horrible anxiety is and what it does to you.
I've been relatively good for a while but I knew it wouldn't last and I find my anxiety building. And of course my mind needs a reason to worry so I've given it something and I have started jumping from one thing to another as usually happens. I had an eye test today and was really quite worried that they would find something wrong. Its ridiculous but it just proves that I am in the downward cycle of anxiety. Once that was over and OK, I'm immediately on to the next thing.
I just don't know why I can't allow myself to be happy instead of this apparent "need" I have to be worrying about something.
Apologies folks. I do tend to ramble on when I get going

Pinkcoat124 I 100% agree with you! I feel like a bloody wave at the mo fine one minute anxious the next it’s so hard to ride the wave out but you’ve gotta do it. We got a jigsaw for xmas and strangely enough it does wonders for you when your mind wants to wonder and worry about something. Also found this freezing cold weather hasn’t been helping at all.

Thanks Fairydust. I know what it's like, up and down all the time.
I sometimes play stupid games on the iPad which distract me for a while but when I get like this I can't concentrate on anything and retreat into myself. I think I withdraw and become selfish, in that my thoughts are all about how I am feeling ( usually awful) and I just don't want to do anything, just wallow in my situation, if that makes sense.
I've not had a bite to eat today as well and have just poured myself a large glass of wine. Not the best idea but it might help in the short term.
I feel ashamed when I meet people with real problems to deal with and here is me just imagining bad things are going to happen.

Evening all, sorry to have been absent for a few days, I have been trying to cut right back on time spent on MN as I don't think it helps me a lot of the time. It's tricky, a few select threads (like this one) are great, but I can waste so much time on here and there is always the potential for something to trigger a bit of anxiety again. I am doing well with my Lent decision to not take my phone into my bedroom any more, I do sometimes take it back upstairs with a cuppa in the morning, but not in the evenings at all. Having said that I want early warning of any school closures tomorrow so I might take it up tonight.

In general I have been a bit better this week, I had a big task to complete by Monday that I was a bit worried about, but managed to park it over the weekend and relax. Monday was a bit tense getting it done but yesterday and today have been better. I'm another one who finds jigsaws useful, I tend to do one over Christmas and New Year and find them very relaxing. I also play games on my phone sometimes for a bit of time-out.

I've not read everything. Hi twinkletoes, I'm also pregnant, 20 weeks now. I've taken a little break from this thread as it wasn't all that helpful. However I'm back to say hi, and snow activity/judging the risks of trying to get to work at the hospital tomorrow plus 2 more appointments on Friday is keeping me awake. Phone light is bad, I know. Also my partner is struggling to deal with my emotions right now and likes cuddling but is also hot and sweaty at night with his anxiety so he slept on the sofa last night and is still grumpy about that. I have a real love hate relationship with my work and I'm more aware now of how my dyslexia and dyspraxia (diagnosed as an adult) is actually a problem as its increasing anxiety and I'm getting the odd migraine. I've been trying to find my glasses I don't wear often because I always lose them and my ear buds so I can listen to. Music and meditation more comfortably. I'm generally fraustrated at my inability to function.

I've been awake since 5am fretting about my latest issue. I've decided I'm going to write everything down, everything I have worried about in the past, just to get it all out and try and make some sense of myself. It may take some time considering how long this has been going on for!! I'm going to do it longhand as well as I've heard this is more therapeutic. Who knows, i may even write a book - life of an excessive worrier.

Pinkcoat - I hear you!

My counsellor has explained it like this.

Primitive brain evolved to ensure safety e.g. flee from a lion.
Developed brain evolved to be rational.

These two are fighting each other - you can't be rational when you don't feel safe. So, your 'fight or flight' response is jammed on when you've been through a lot of anxiety and you're on high alert all the time. It's really difficult to switch it off.

hope this helps even a wee bit

Trooperslane2 very informative that makes a lot of sense it’s like our brain still thinks we’re in the stone ages and there’s a saber toothed tiger around the corner ready to pounce.

We’ve got a snow day here today so no work or nursery for us hope everyone manages to have a somewhat good day whatever you do.

We have too and I've just chucked DD out the back to play with the neighbours - we can't really get out properly and she's bouncing off the walls..... and DH is prowling round like a tiger (!) because he's working from home and is frustrated by the slowness of the system - they're both cracking me up!

I'm hiding in the kitchen looking at utility room layouts #rocknroll