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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi

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Fairydust26 · 09/12/2017 15:31

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppaBrew put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hiSmileFlowers

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Fairydust26 · 12/12/2017 17:26

bigfatmeanie & Undercoverbanana don’t feel guilty about staying in your pjs & in bed all day we’re all allowed days like that! Tomorrow’s a new day which I hope is better for you😊

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Pinkcoat124 · 12/12/2017 17:31

Thanks fairy. I think I don't go because when I get over the current thing I'm worried about, I know I will be OK and feel fine, so I think meds etc would be unnecessary. However, I'm OK until the next thing and maybe meds would help to stop me getting out of control when the next thing comes along.
Honestly, the stuff I worry about, you would think its the end of the world. To me, it is, but when I look back, its just been a complete waste of time, emotions and my life .

Undercoverbanana · 12/12/2017 17:33

I need to get a drink of water but I can't do it. It's too much.

BeautifulLiar · 12/12/2017 17:59

undercover you can do it. I'm here with you. Treat yourself to snuggling with a warm blanket after you've got it xx

Undercoverbanana · 12/12/2017 18:23

I've made it to the top of the stairs. I can't go down.

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Fairydust26 · 12/12/2017 18:28

pinkcoat I know what you mean sometimes I worry about the most pointless things and the rational part of my brain knows how stupid it is but sometimes you just can’t shut off!.

Undercoverbanana I’m here too you can do it! x

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Fairydust26 · 12/12/2017 18:29

Undercoverbanana just one step at a time take as long as you need Flowers

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knittingwithnettles · 12/12/2017 18:30

undercover first, I love your name, second, could you get a drink from the bathroom and wash your face - would that help?
I quite agree that downstairs can seem really overwhelming sometimes, the dark, the cold, the space. could you steal some thing from downstairs, bring them up and make a picnic in safety for now?
very much admire your running too, and definitely don't run in this weather. what about a bit of dancing instead in your room, if lack of exercise is making you feel out of kilter. Thanks

knittingwithnettles · 12/12/2017 18:33

today has worked out alright. I plodded through. Various problems with boiler and the shower still is not fixed, but I have done a bit of housework and lots of instant food from the supermarket and long trudge with heavy bags. Feel a lot better that I tackled just a few things even, although I still haven't done my parking permit. THIS EVENING I wiLL DO IT hate anything online except mumsnet

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Fairydust26 · 12/12/2017 19:48

knittingwithnettles glad you had a good day pretty sure I’m coming down with a cold so feeling abit yucky🤧.

How you getting on Undercoverbanana have you managed to get a drink? X

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Pinkcoat124 · 12/12/2017 19:48

Hope you are OK undercover.

Pinkcoat124 · 12/12/2017 19:53

Starting with a cold here too.
Thanks for starting this thread Fairy. I feel so much better being able to chat with people who are going through the same as me Smile
I would love to find such a group in real life.

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Fairydust26 · 12/12/2017 20:02

No worries pinkcoat😊 I’m so happy that people are sharing their thoughts on this thread I honestly thought I’d be talking to myself. So nice to know we’re not alone in feeling this way and we can support each other makes me feel less lonely knowing someones there to listenFlowers

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Robux · 12/12/2017 20:22

Glad to hear there's others who understand how awful anxiety can be. Nothing worse than being told to get a grip by people who've never experienced it.

Hope everyone's having a good evening, I've been keeping busy writing lists for Christmas food shopping Xmas Smile

cathyclown · 12/12/2017 21:09

Hello everyone, hope you are all doing ok tonight.

I just wondered if any of you experienced an inability to eat, no appetite, nothing appeals food wise. I am in this position and I cannot swallow as my throat closes up. It is just the most awful feeling.

I so envy those who can eat a nice meal. I am fascinated in fact. Now I am getting nutrition into me somehow because I ain't fading away either! But it is such a struggle, and eating out holds no joy for me anymore. Sad that.

I would like to know if I am alone. Other than that I can get about, go to work, do things, travel and so on but that throat closing anxiety is really upsetting me. Going on for a year now on and off.

I hope no one else is going through this, but at the same time I would love to know that I am not a total freak either.

bigfatmeanie · 12/12/2017 21:45

Cathyclown you're not a freak at all, I have had no appetite whatsoever recently. My ocd/anxiety was around my teeth so the whole idea of chewing food freaked me out. I still don't have much of an appetite now, I'm literally eating so I don't faint.
I have 2/3 stone to lose though so it's not the worst thing ever but I'd rather lose it in a healthy way.
The throat closing feeling is horrible, are you getting enough to drink?
When I get it, I get an extremely dry mouth as well.
My dr told me we are sometimes hyperventilating without fully realising, I've started trying to deep breath when I feel it coming on.

cathyclown · 12/12/2017 21:57

bigfatmeanie,

Thank you so much. I am so sorry you are going through this also. It is just awful. My family just do not understand why I dislike going for meals and such. I just cannot eat. And looking at others eating a huge plate of food makes me feel I am such an outsider!

Yes I drink lots of tea, coffee, juice and water. Oh and the odd glass of vino too! Well tis the season and all that. It helps but I don't want to go down any slippery slope either if you understand me.

This all came from the loss of my sister a couple of years ago at a young age. I know this. I have had bereavement counselling and full on ordinary counselling but nothing has helped so far.

GP wants me to try citalopram. I am reluctant. But I think I may have to eventually. It is not the worst thing in the world to be like this, but it is bloody awful!

Oh and as for teeth, I have twilight sleep sedation any time I need to go to the dentist. But at least I can get work done without having a gagging drama in the chair!

Trying to be as lighthearted as I can, but sometimes it just really gets me down.

I will try the breathing exercises. Thanks for the tip there. Wishing you all the best.

bigfatmeanie · 12/12/2017 22:10

So sorry for your loss.
I found the headspace app to be really good for having a time out and doing a bit of breathing exercises. It helped give me a bit of focus with it all.

cathyclown · 12/12/2017 22:38

Thanks bigfatmeanie.

Will check out that app.

Undercoverbanana · 12/12/2017 23:07

Thank you for all your kind words. I got a drink of water but got straight back into bed and fell asleep. Woken up now knowing I have to go to work tomorrow. I rang in sick today.

Cathyclown - interesting what you say about eating. My anxiety causes me to overeat. Just because I am very athletic, fit and slim, doesn't mean I don't have an unhealthy relationship with food.

I've no idea what s going on with the time. I can't understand it. I feel so confused.

RustyPaperclips · 12/12/2017 23:24

Can I join? I've been suffering from bad anxiety following a terrible experience in a previous job. The bullying and lies broke me down and now I have no faith in myself.

I work in quite a niche field so jobs don't come up that often. But every time I apply for a job I get an interview and I am bloody good at my job. But as soon as I get an interview I just break down and cancel as I can't cope with the rejection

This is the most honest I have ever been about this

I need to break the cycle but I don't know how. I need to work again. At least for my own well-being

cathyclown · 12/12/2017 23:28

Undercoverbanana

I don't think it is an unhealthy relationship with food that causes this. It is anxiety in the true sense. Some overeat, some cannot eat.

I just cannot enjoy food anymore. In lots of ways I envy you being able to eat what you wish.

But it is a double edged sword I suppose.

Hope you will be ok.

cathyclown · 12/12/2017 23:36

RustyPaperclips

Firstly you do NOT need permission to post here.

Secondly, you need to at least GO for an interview. If it doesn't work out well you are no worse off.

Get feedback from disappointing interviews too. That can help you to see how others see you.

But if you don't do it, you will never know.

My best wishes to you my love. It is easy to say all this in cyberspace, but it is meant well also.

RustyPaperclips · 13/12/2017 00:09

Thank you. That is very kind of you. I just feel so incredibly low right now

Undercoverbanana · 13/12/2017 07:51

Rusty - I'm with you. I just can't seem to function. I have nothing to give. I have no idea how everyone just gets on with life and I can't seem to handle any of it.

I am supposed to be going to work but I have no idea how to make that happen. I'm already late. It's all just hopeless and pointless.