Anyone needing support for anxiety/depression come over here! (Please)

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I'm struggling so much just now and could use the support of fellow sufferers.

Right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other - getting though the day.

studiously ignoring the piece of paper with the number of my old counsellor

Currently unmedicated and trying not to go back but not sure how long that will last.

I would like this thread to be a safe place to come and help each other through the days (and nights). I know there are other threads but feel they are well established and just would like to hear about how people got into their issues and what they do to help themselves.

I am taking my dd2 for a cream tea after school today. It's my say off work. Always a struggle but I'm getting through it.

Anyone? All welcome from those of us feeling a bit sad to those of us battling serious my issues. No judgements allowed just whatever helps xx

Wish I could crochet. I'm not good at anything creative sadly.

Still in a bad place. Housing situation (or lack of) is stressing me out. My DS is also incredibly anxious and DH is saying silly things as he can't see a way out / solution.

I'm off with the children as it's half term and is giving me too much time to worry about things. Keep looking at our lovely house thinking how am I going to manage to pack all of this stuff up. Ds is worried that we will be living rough.

I can't say for sure that we won't. It's heartbreaking.

Sorry for the downer. Not in a good place, not sleeping and can't shake myself out of it. I've had some horrendous times but this comes pretty close.

I'm going to the gp today to ask fit more sertraline x

This must be so stressful smile - thus is because your 'LL wants to sell isn't it?

Yes. "Toying with the idea" which is lively for him. You know deciding which ofhis houses to sell. L Agents have already failed to turn up to 2 appointment for valuations etc. Getting quite pissed off and incredibly stressed. It's putting a terrible strain on things. Being off this week is giving me more time to dwell on stuff. IM officially depressed again despite doing so well over the last year in trying to get better.

Life is shit.
Sorry. I know there are others with more serious stuff going on

Yes there are but they are not you. You have to deal with this and I would be totally floored by the uncertainty. Have you told the L.A that you now want to move out and can they please organise properties for potential rent? I know they work for the 'LL but they won't be their only client so hopefully they might have other properties on their list? I think you should make it clear to your 'LL thatvyou intend to move on if you don't have some definites to work with.

I know it's poor consolation but the housing market is flat and even if he does sell I think time is on your side (I know it doesn't feel like it) So test the water yourself and get on other L.A. books. Once he sees you do this he will pull his socks up and give you options because he won't want the property sat empty so it's in his interest to keep you informed otherwise you'll move out and he'll be the one losing out.

One day at a time. But be assertive. You can't stop him from selling but you have every right to be informed.

If they fail to turn up for valuations then you tell them when you are available and that if they miss the appointment then sorry but you won't be availing yourself further. Keep copies and then they cannot say you have denied access.

Everything in writing. Email is ok but best to print copies.

I know you have been told all of this and have probably done all of the above. Feeling really angry for you

yes, pick up the blanket Lem I find crocheting good for anxiety as it's so repetitive.

smile I've only just learned how to do it- I couldn't get it at all until Youtube taught me. Before that lots of people were telling me it was easy, but I found it impossibly difficult. It is actually easy after all.

Don't be hard on yourself smile impending homelessness is extremely stressful- one of the most stressful things out there. I had to go through that about 18 months ago. Landlord selling house. Have you had your section 21 yet? It takes absolutely ages to get people out of a house...you don't have to leave until court baliffs come to remove you. And way before then most people have usually found somewhere. However, the whole process...section 21 for a couple of months, then when that has finished landlord has to apply to court for possession order, wait for paperwork and court hearing date, actual hearing where the judge might grant a bit extra time (up to 6 weeks), then possession granted, then landlord has has to apply for an eviction warrant for baliffs to remove you (more waiting), then they get an eviction warrant and date, then you get evicted. So although you get told 2 months, actually it's a lot longer before you are compelled to leave, and should hopefully give you time to find somewhere. I just panicked though and thought it was just the 2 months, as many people do (and landlords would like you to think that). My friend did housing law and said that judges don't tend to be sympathetic towards landlords evicting to sell houses rather than due to rent arrears so usually grant extra time to look for somewhere before possession order, particularly if there are kids etc.

You will get through this. You won't end up on the streets- even if you can afford private rent the local authority will not allow you to end up on the streets with a child! Have you tried local facebook pages? As friends who were getting kicked out with more unusual circumstances (pets, single mums etc) have found housing through that.

That is some good advice there dangermouse xx

I was lucky to have a friend who is a solicitor. When I was in a panic she was very "oh it's FINE and went through it all" and she was right.

How did you get on at the GP newperson?

How's the doom LEM?

How is everyone else?

I've managed to go from uncontrollable crying/doom to being ok for now after speaking to someone. I didn't think talking would make any difference, but it seems to have. Managed to get pet food (I thought I was never going to get out of the house due to the crying) and clean out the small furries. One of them gets very cross at me, which is quite funny but frustrating when I'm trying to sweep up hay/poo and he's taking the dustpan and brush in his teeth and trying to throw them away.

Hi everyone, sorry i haven't been on. Been very quiet. Thinking of you all though 9

Not been given the 2 months notice yet.
I've been awake since 2.30. I can't catch my breath and feeling very anxious. I am so tired but I'm so worried about things my head won't switch off. I can't deal with uncertainty. DH got up about midnight as he couldn't sleep either.

I feel as this is going to literally finish us off one way or another. I just can't carry on.

I hope you got some sleep - remind me if you have meds?

I dozed back off at about 5 and just woke up LEM. Thank goodness I'm if this week!

I don't have meds currently. I was on ADs but managed to come off them in May when I thought I was getting better - and I was. I think I'm phoning the doctor at 8 though to get some sleeping tablets just to get me sleeping again. I can't function with this tiredness on top of the stress.

Sorry I realise that I'm very whingy every time i post. Hope everyone had a better day yesterday.

ah smile sorry to hear that you aren't sleeping. If you haven't had the section 21 yet you've got ages. It's got to be a proper one, on paper with the right information, no backdating- telling you verbally doesn't count. The stress of uncertainty is not to be underestimated though. I think many landlords fail to recognise that their 'house' is someone else's 'home', and that to be well and safe at the most basic level, you need both food and shelter. Uncertainty about either or both of those basics is incredibly unsettling. If you have kids it is even more unsettling as there are schools etc to think about.

Don't worry about being whingy. I whinged to anyone who would listen for nearly 6 months about my housing situation. We ended up somewhere better though, security wise. Hopefully that will happen to you.

If I ran the country I'd sort out the rental sector as it is ridiculously unfair. It's unjust that people that can afford more than 1 house can take your money, and (try to) make you move with 2 months notice. If you are selling a house you get more than 2 months, and you do it through choice not because you get told to. Having to move when you don't want to is fundamentally unfair, and people who rent get treated like second class citizens.

I've got my kids coming back so I have to be ok. I don't know if my ex knows about the latest safeguarding referral though Awkward.

Still here, still unable to sleep (so new bloody tablets don't seem to be working!). Brain just won't switch off at all today. My head is full of noise and ive been snapping at everyone. Have also spent nigh on 3 hours on the phone tonight whinging to v patient friends and family. No further on with the answers sadly. I just can't cope with uncertainty. The unknown. It's just too much for me.

I wish I was a stronger person. I'm crumbling.

So dangermouse when are your children home? That is something to look forward to? And you will have some support in place?

I had my first counselling session today and kept apologizing for crying.....

I’ve been given 6 sessions (NHS) and already I’m worried it won’t be enough as I spent today’s one just rambling on. I’ve literally just scratched the surface.
They’ve asked me to write a letter (that won’t be sent) to my mother, and I just don’t know where to begin.

If I feel 6 is not enough could I ask for more?

Hello Smile
What tablets have you been given?

Have you tried listening to some music? I’ve recently found ‘Hammock’
(Not sure if it’s a band/artist or collective) in Spotify and find it very soothing.

Hello from a fellow struggler. Been battling MH issues on and off since my teens (now approaching 40). Currently trying to taper off Sertraline but am in the midst of a particularly shit time at work. Anxiety/stress is the current obstacle. Finding it a real battle to combine family life, demanding job and deteriorating MH. Have managed to put up a fairly successful front at work but it all gets a bit much at times, doesn't it? Just a little fist-bump of solidarity from me. We are all heroes.

They are amitryp something or other. But need to be 10 times stronger!

I go to counseling as well. I think I'm due for 8 but she said that more may be needed so maybe you can have more than 6? I may have to defer though as I'm not in a great place at the minute to do the work.

Personally my go to sedative would be zopiclone but I understand why GPs don’t prescribe in the first instance as there is a risk of dependency. Amitriptyline has a wide range of uses from chronic pain, migraine, depression.

I hope you manage some sleep,
Sleep deprivation makes it all 10x worse.

I’m not in a great place but figured if not now then when?

Has anyone had experience of prescribing from a private Psychiatrist or GP?

My NHS ones are making my life hell having to fight for my medication (even though I take less than prescribed and only for acute periods).

I don’t know if going private will change that though?

I agree with frankies that zopiclone is better.

daisy I've not done anything private but have you considered talking to a MH advocate before going private? As they might help you put forward a case for having your medication.

and hello vinotinto sorry you've been struggling. Maybe tapering off sertraline might not be a good idea at present?

frankies I've been getting counselling and I cry every single time, so don't worry. That's why they have tissues.

My children have been back and gone again. They'll be back again tomorrow. I didn't think there would be support in place but it seems to have happened and I'm not sure how I feel about that. It is hard trying to look after kids when depressed. It's not fair on them. Luckily the sun was out today so they kind of sorted themselves out.

Hello. This is my first post. I hope it's ok to join you all.

Hello Rachel - of course it's ok to join. Everyone is more than welcome. I'm sorry that I don't reply to everyone but I do read all the posts. Hopefully between us we can find some support.

I've "treated"myself to a couple of diazepam because my back has gone - every cloud eh!!

Might i join too?