Anyone needing support for anxiety/depression come over here! (Please)

[LEMtheoriginal]

I'm struggling so much just now and could use the support of fellow sufferers.

Right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other - getting though the day.

studiously ignoring the piece of paper with the number of my old counsellor

Currently unmedicated and trying not to go back but not sure how long that will last.

I would like this thread to be a safe place to come and help each other through the days (and nights). I know there are other threads but feel they are well established and just would like to hear about how people got into their issues and what they do to help themselves.

I am taking my dd2 for a cream tea after school today. It's my say off work. Always a struggle but I'm getting through it.

Anyone? All welcome from those of us feeling a bit sad to those of us battling serious my issues. No judgements allowed just whatever helps xx

Lem - think I missed something - why won’t you see your DD again? That sounds awful.

She is depressed. Won't leave her flat and won't answer my messages. Her dp is looking out for her she's addicted to gaming and agirophobic.

Why does that mean you won’t see her again? Is the community team involved?

LEMtheoriginal Sorry to hear that. I hope her DP is taking good care of her.
Have you tried sending her a letter saying how you feel?
My brother is the same, all he does all day is play Xbox and never goes out(he’s 36) my mum is struggling so much, it breaks my heart.

Thanks milli. I'll look onto online sessions. See if that's something offered in our area.

She's an adult Phoenix and refuses medical help so I can't do anything. My gp says I can't intervene unless she asks for help. It's insane.
I spoke to her dp on Facebook tonight and he said she's doing ok. He is going to try and get her out and I said they can come anytime for dinner.

I just have a feeling I won't see her anymore

LEM sorry to hear that I don't see my grown up kids often, they live abroad and it's hard, they don't have time and money, i don't either. However my mum who is nearly 80 has decided she wants to visit them so is paying for her and me to fly over. I haven't seen them for 18 months and can't wait to hug them. I understand a little how you feel. Can you travel to visit your dd?

Lem - can you go to her? My bff is a mental health nurse & he said if you feel she’s at risk &/or a threat to herself then you can definitely call her local emergency team to get her help/get her on their radar.

How’s your other daughter doing? Have you asked your gp about family support for you?

I’m worried about you. There’s a lot going on for you & it builds up quickly.

LEM could you visit her?

I spoke to her dp yesterday and she messaged. Visiting her makes it worse. I have asked them to come for dinner but doubt she will come. My other dd is fine and the absolute light of my life. Without her I'd be under a train

hiya can I join please? I'm in another hole and just seem to spend my days doing nothing except worrying...struggled to reign in my impulses last night.

LEM sorry to hear that you're still having issues with your DD. It's good she has a DP who can look out for her though. Maybe at some point she'll get fed up of being how she is, and seek some help? It's good that you offer for them to come around...keep offering. I know that even when I'm feeling crap and haven't seen people for ages, still being invited to things by friends (even though they know I won't make it) makes it feel like they still care and that I've not been forgotten.

Glad your other DD is ok!

Thankyou dangermouse - I remember you. Sorry you are still struggling. Anxiety is shit isn't it

thanks LEM, yes anxiety is shite.

I'm currently trying to not text my ex to tell him that he needs to have custody of the kids all the time as I'm just going to screw them up and they'll end up like me I know in the past I've not felt like that (because I remember saying it) so if I end up getting through this I might regret handing over the kids.

But then there is another part that says it's just better for the kids to live with a mentally stable parent and I should stop being so selfish!

Noooo don't do that. You love your children. They need you . How is your relatio ship with your ex?

I do love them (I think, I care about their welfare at least) so that's why I think they are better off with him. My relationship with him is pretty crap. However, he is organised, professional, in a steady relationship. He's a knob to me but seems to be ok to everyone else. I am single mother on precarious benefits, house is a tip, can't even get the kids to school on time. Over the past few years I just seem to go from barely coping, to not coping at all, and I think that at some point I need to be realistic about how my issues impact on the kids.

Feeling terrible - I'm off work all week with dd2. But my anxiety is threatening to ruin it. I can't do this anymore

Lem you can and you will. Can you go for a walk outside somewhere nice or call a friend to come over?

We took dd pumpkin picking which apparently is a thing now

Haha yes it is! I find picking them in Tesco a bit easier ;)

I've never been pumpkin picking. As in pick your own pumpkin?

I've been having less exciting times. Got into a bit of a self destruct pickle. I decided to be honest, but I wish I hadn't as now I just feel stupid, belittled AND there has been a safeguarding referral made for my kids (again). Kids are at their dads so they were never at risk, only me. I've been given instructions to 'keep myself safe' until tomorrow. Why do they do things that make it more challenging to do that?

on a positive note though, I've ran out of pet food so I need to be ok to get that tomorrow morning. Pets are a good thing I've decided, as they can't get their own food/clean out so it forces me into a routine when the kids aren't here. I have to get up in the morning to feed them. I have to clean them out, feed them etc in the afternoon. I quite often forget to feed myself, but not the small furries

Does anyone else find that pets help?

I work with animals and have two dogs. Without animals in my life I wouldn't manage I don't think. My dd has a cat and I'm thankful for that.

Dangermouse I hope you find some peace of mind.

I have an overwhelming sense of impending doom. It won't leave me alone.

How is everyone else?

Ah dogs are brilliant I wish I was responsible for one let alone two.

Does anything work to alieviate the sense of doom? I used to find listening to the Smiths helped, bizarrely. There's not even any good distraction worthy telly on. Hope you are finding something helpful Lem

I'm crocheting and crying but that's relatively positive I suppose, as no one ever died from crying. And the crochet is absorbent

I love to crochet - I'm half way through a blanket for dd2. I often too anxious to do it. I did do woolly hugs for a bit and felt more motivated with that. I might pick up my hook this week.