Anyone needing support for anxiety/depression come over here! (Please)

[LEMtheoriginal]

I'm struggling so much just now and could use the support of fellow sufferers.

Right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other - getting though the day.

studiously ignoring the piece of paper with the number of my old counsellor

Currently unmedicated and trying not to go back but not sure how long that will last.

I would like this thread to be a safe place to come and help each other through the days (and nights). I know there are other threads but feel they are well established and just would like to hear about how people got into their issues and what they do to help themselves.

I am taking my dd2 for a cream tea after school today. It's my say off work. Always a struggle but I'm getting through it.

Anyone? All welcome from those of us feeling a bit sad to those of us battling serious my issues. No judgements allowed just whatever helps xx

[fullofhope03]

For you all xxx

[PolkaDottyRose]

Really struggling today with the feeling that everyone hates me, and that I have somehow upset everyone with whatever I say and do..it's a fluctuating feeling, but it's overwhelming today. Unbearable.

[LEMtheoriginal]

Christ polka dot are you me? I have felt exactly like this the past few days. It's a common thing with anxiety sufferers.

I'm so sick of this illness at the moment

[PolkaDottyRose]

Me too. I'm sorry, I know how much it sucks. Do tablets help do you think? when I went to see the Doc I didn't ask for tablets, but I wish I had.

[LEMtheoriginal]

They can help yes - I'm not medicated at the moment but I was for many years. Supposedly I'm doing well but I'm in danger of hitting a wall. Exercise helps but I feel to anxious to do it just now

[Ilovecrumpets]

Hello everyone

Could I also join. I’ve had PND and anxiety since my eldest was born nearly 6 years ago. Have periods where it feels a little better, have seen a psychiatrist, psychologist but always been too scared about medication. Finally reached the point where I am going to go back and actually take the prescription this time. I guess I realise this isn’t just going to go away.

Going through a bad patch atm and my husband has never been supported so I feel very alone. I lost so many friends through hiding away. Feel so bad for my kids that I am irritable and grumpy. My youngest has a mild cold and my anxiety is already starting to rocket ( it is particularly triggered around the kids and illness). Can’t even believe anymore that I used to be a capabable person who was happy - it seems like looking back on a different person and impossible to get back to her.

[Ilovecrumpets]

So sorry that was so long and all about me

[LEMtheoriginal]

Don't be sorry - it is a very isolating illness isn't it. I hope that the meds make you feel better soon. I am a very different person these days. You can't look back . You have to learn to love who you are now.

[Ilovecrumpets]

Thanks Lem that is a very good point about accepting who I am now.

I hope things start to lift for you

[PolkaDottyRose]

I understand the hiding away bit completely. Me too.

[NavyGold]

Hi Everyone, I hope it's ok to join you all,

I have a question though. Is it possible to know you're suffering with anxiety and despression even if you've not been formally disgnosed?

I've been suffering for months now. The anxiety I've known about for a while and did see a Dr about it a while back. The depression I've been aware of for a few months but I'm currently living in a country that doesn't have the best track record for dealing with mental health issues so I have to wait until I'm back home in the uk to do something about it.

I think the hardest thing is the rollercoaster of emotions. I work all day to pull myself up and out of a dark pit and by the time I wake up again, I'm a mess. I wake up not knowing how I'm going to put one foot in front of the other and make it through the day and I'm constantly on the edge of bursting into tears :(

[Ahhh1234]

Hi can I come and join

I think it's a great thread. And reading this has made me realise I need help. I've been in denile for the past 18 months. It started in the last month of pregnancy. I'd say the first 6 months of my D'S life were hard, traumatic, a crying blur.

He was admitted to hospital and I was asked then If I was coping I broke down and said no. They contacted my health visitor to let them know. I went to the Gp but didn't want AP and tried counselling. Was ok but I find it hard to talk about how I feel and get embarrassed. Then I couldn't continue due to childcare. So I've been muddling through since.

Since returning to work I've been happier, I guess it's because I don't feel so lonely. But most days I feel down and CBA. Feel lonely, like an outsider. I found it hard bonding with my D'S. The bond is so much better now so I thought I was getting better and I am a bit better than last year but I'm sick of constantly feeling Down and having no get up and go.

Sorry was such a ramble.

How is everyone this morning?

[Ahhh1234]

Sorry also want to add. I get the hiding away too! I'm now beginning to lose friends. I'm suppose to be going to London for a friend's birthday in a few weeks. The old me would have been so excited but now, I'm dreading it and coming up with every possible excuse. I already feel anxious about it all!

[OldEnglishSheepDog]

I'm not diagnosed but would like to join in if I may? I think I might be peri-menopausal which is making me ridiculously anxious and depressed. Today is a good day but last week was the worst I've felt in a long time. I'm going to brave speaking to the GP in the next few days but every time I pluck up the courage my DS falls ill and I'd feel silly trying to book multiple appointments!

[Ilovecrumpets]

Hello, hope everyone is getting through the day ok
ahhh I’m sorry you are feeling like this, it is so hard having a child whilst depressed. I really regret not getting help sooner and just muddling through. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that it’s maybe something more than just having a small child. I know I found that difficult.

[LEMtheoriginal]

How is everyone doing?

[Ilovecrumpets]

Hi Lem

I hope you are doing ok.

I’m not doing so great - my husband told me at the weekend he is leaving and wants a divorce, mainly because he thinks I am now no fun and lazy and he can’t stand my anxiety. He has never really supported me with my depression but it still hurts and makes me feel so awful about myself .I have two young DCs as well. Am trying very hard not to get into a bad spiral. I have however booked in to see the doctor on Wednesday, hoping for a referral to try some form of counselling again and to get a prescription.

[CantGetNoSleeeeeeep]

Oh Crumpets I'm so sorry you are going through that. Well done for putting support in place ready

[Ilovecrumpets]

Thank you cant - we will have to sell the house and won’t be able to afford current childcare. I’m trying very hard to keep my anxiety under control but it isnt easy!
On the plus side I told my boss and - despite not being someone who is very openly emotional - he was so very lovely.

It’s hard as well not feel blame - maybe I should have done more sooner to try and get better.

[dangermouseisace]

Aw crumpets that's shit I'm so sorry.

Are you sure you have to sell the house? Is there enough equity in the house to provide for 2 separate homes? If there isn't then it's normal for the kids to stay in the family home with whoever the resident parent is and any sale put off until the kids are at least 18.

If his reasons for divorce are that you are unwell and no fun, then frankly he's a massive prick and you should divorce him. It's not about you not getting help soon enough- it's the fact he's a bellend.

If you start to claim benefits due to earnings and work 16hours at least a week, then you get tax credits towards childcare- I'm assuming that universal credit do some sort of equivalent thing.

If you can get advice via citizens advice or a solicitor it could be worthwhile. Marriage offers a lot more protection than co-habiting. It might not be as bad as you think.

[SmileAndNod]

Hello only me checking in on you all. Sorry everyone else is having troubles as well.

I just seem to lurch from one crisis to another. Home is being sold so we need to leave by mid Feb as we need to book in cleaners etc. At present we have nowhere to go so looks like we will be staying with my mum. My gran is very ill in hospital so it's v unlikely she will be joining us for Christmas. Not sure what my GF will do a as yet.
I cannot even think about Christmas or leaving or packing up the house. I don't have head space for any of it. I feel constantly exhausted and have no energy (bloods are fine). Weekends are spent running the DC round, visiting and battling the letting agent it seems. I have done nothing for Xmas and my children are all under 10 so still have that excitement. Work is awful, mentally exhausting.

I'm drowning and I don't know how much longer I can stay afloat

[LEMtheoriginal]

Oh smile that is rubbish about the house. At least you have a date to work with and whilst staying with your mum is far from ideal it does mean that you can hold out for a suitable place rather than take the first one in a panic.

Can you decide to lock all of that away until after Christmas and just get through that now?

I totally get the headspace thing and I personally struggle when I have lots going on and Christmas magnifies it. So I think it's ok to stick your head in the sand for a while. I know it's hard.

Crumpets what a horrible thing to be going through.

Struggling here - not bought a single present and running out of time.

[SmileAndNod]

Well we knew it was probably going to happen but the way they've gone about it has been awful and just added to an already stressful situation.

The thought of Christmas scares be. So much to do so little time and money to do it with. Off to see my gran later. She's very poorly and I'm not looking forward to it

[LEMtheoriginal]

Bless you - it's so difficult. I'm dreading Christmas for a different reason and I'm really just going through the motions.