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please help me

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:37

I am a mum of a 7 month old girl. She is driving me crazy. She constantly cries and moans and whinges and I cant cope with it anymore. since she was born she has been a misery and the few lovely moments I get every day just arent enough any more to keep me loving her as i should. I am thinking of putting her up for adoption but care for her too much to want to let her out of my control like that. I dont know what to do. I love her I just wish she would be more pleasant to be around. I hate her as well. Sometimes I want to hit her but i dont but I have shouted shut up at her when she has been continually crying. please help me I love my baby more than anything but I dont like her. I dont think I should have her anymore.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:56

i do love her mor ethan anything. but she is not the most likeable baby. and i cant cope anymore. I wont call anybody I have been burned in the past with reaching out for help and it backfiring on me.

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:56

We all put on that face - it's classic PND. My husband says he can actually see my face change before I enter a room where there are other people.

Please do talk to someone though. It'll help to unburden yourself. Are being treated for PND?

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:56

thanks for caring though

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lulumama · 20/03/2007 16:56

sadly, i am not near you either, or i would be there like a shot !

please ask for help , it is there

steinermum · 20/03/2007 16:58

sameold - who else is around you? Is there anyone you can turn to? You are seriously depressed. Like others have said, noone will take your baby from you. Keep talking on here and you MUST tell those around you how bad you are feeling, it's horrible to bear this alone.

wheresthevalium · 20/03/2007 16:58

sameold, I understand exactly what you are going through at the moment, for the first 9 months of my daughters life I just wanted a kind person to take her away from me, but let me see her and know she was happy.

My DD wasn't taken away from me, even when I handed her over to the HV and begged her to look after her, then ran away from the Drs surgery. They offered more support, which I took and things got a heck of a lot easier from then on.

Please please stop putting on a brave face for everyone, you need help. Can you think of anyone that you can talk to/ask to come and look after your DD for an hour or so?

LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:59

I do care and so do so many others. Many of us have been where you are. The person I thought you were felt exactly the same. She just didn't like her DD, who whinged all the time, but things did get better.

Stick around on MN - come to Lissie's Teashop in the chat room - a friendly bunch and no-one judges anyone there!

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 17:00

i am touched to the point of tears. but I just can not tell anyone how i feel. i will try to talk to my dh about it but i doubt he can help. do you think she wants to live?

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Dior · 20/03/2007 17:02

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 17:03

Of course she does MY DH is the most laid back, loving, caring bloke - EVERYONE likes him, even my Mum! But, if you listen to my MIL, she wanted rid of him practically from the moment he was born until he was about two, because he just whinged and whinged and whinged! As I said, he is now so chilled, loves life and his friends and family. Please do not take this chance away from your daughter. She loves you and needs you.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 17:04

I ahve to go now. my dh is home and I am going to go out and buy a bottle of wine while he feeds the baby. I will come back and let you all know i havent killed her. sorry to worry you I am just beyond reason right now.

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Dior · 20/03/2007 17:05

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 17:06

BTW - his Mum thinks he is THE BEST now! His sister was the perfect baby, and a horrible/stressful teenager. MIL said she'd rather have them the way DH was, 'cause they can get into less trouble.

indiajane · 20/03/2007 17:06

Sameold - pick up the phone and call your GP. I had "issues" that I was really reluctant to discuss with my GP once but when I had started it all came out in one big sobbing session - but it's their job to help you and they want to help you.

If you're part of a larger GP surgery you can see another doctor - perhaps a woman if that's better for you?

Please do get help, I'm thinking of you and wish I was closer to you.

LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 17:07

Talk to your DH.

lucyellensmum · 20/03/2007 17:09

please please talk to someone, it helps i promise you, i have a friend who was in the same position as you, i dont know much about what happened to her but she told me it was bad and she hated her children. Now i envy her because she is an absolute supermum. It must be soo hard, when is your DH home, is he at work now, call him, make him come home NOW, if not a friend relative, or the samaritans its confidential, just TALK you dont have to give your name - im thinking of you and praying too (not sure if you have much faith in that, not sure i do but it helps me sometimes)

GibbonInARibbon · 20/03/2007 17:16

Please, please, please pick up the phone and speak to your GP/Samaritans/family...you are poorly my love and you need some help and support.

Speak to your DH....speak to someone.

Your little is not crying to upset you - she is not trying to get to you...oh I wish I knew what to say.

please speak to someone ASAP

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 17:22

I tried to talk to my dh about it nad it was no help. Idont know what to do. all I can think of is killing my baby and then myself.

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Dior · 20/03/2007 17:24

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 17:24

Please call the Samaritans RIGHT NOW. They do nopt even need to know your name. Please do not do this to yourself or your daughter. You both deserve a future and your DD deserves the right to a choice of one.

AnAngelWithin · 20/03/2007 17:24

sweetheart, please please please ring your doctor. whereabouts in the country are you? maybe a local MNer could help you? Please CAT me. I have been where you are and I am still here to tell the tale and I am here to help you if you want.

LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 17:25

Sameold, I've got to log off now, but keep talking to the others here. And please do get some professional help - no-one will take DD from you.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 17:25

he wont listen to me that i want to put her up for adoption. he wont understand. the samaritans can get your address adn details from your phone number. i cant call them. I'm sorry. i should just be alone. sorry. i will try to post again to let you know i am ok.

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lulumama · 20/03/2007 17:25

go to a&e now and tell them what you told us..you will get immediate help and support x

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 17:26

by lilred thanks for talking.

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