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please help me

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:37

I am a mum of a 7 month old girl. She is driving me crazy. She constantly cries and moans and whinges and I cant cope with it anymore. since she was born she has been a misery and the few lovely moments I get every day just arent enough any more to keep me loving her as i should. I am thinking of putting her up for adoption but care for her too much to want to let her out of my control like that. I dont know what to do. I love her I just wish she would be more pleasant to be around. I hate her as well. Sometimes I want to hit her but i dont but I have shouted shut up at her when she has been continually crying. please help me I love my baby more than anything but I dont like her. I dont think I should have her anymore.

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lulumama · 20/03/2007 16:39

sounds like you need urgent help, especially if you are thinking of harming your baby and that you hate her. could well be you have severe PND...with support, meds and counselling, you can feel much much better......please call your doctor now or your HV and get the ball rolling......

of course you should have her, she is your baby, and when you feel well, you will feel better about being her mum x

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:40

I am already being treated for pnd it isnt helping. atm i have left her sitting on the floor crying because i just cant keep running to her every time she cries anymore.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:41

i dont want to be honest with the health profs b/c I dont want themn to take her away from me if i give her up i want it to be my decision.

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:41

Totally agree with Lulu's advice. Also, get in touch with HomeStart , they helped me massively and still are.

lulumama · 20/03/2007 16:42

they won;t take your baby away. not at all.

you might need different meds, more help ,more support

are you in touch with homestart/ sure start, they can help too

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:42

sorry but i have homestart as well. none of it is helping. i just can not stand her crying an ymore no one can help me with that. buti need help.

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:42

They WILL NOT take her away from you, they will help you cope better though.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:43

i dont tell my homestart person how bad i feel becauase i dont want her taken away

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:44

I have a feeling I may know you. Do you know Alison, Jill, Deb, Sarah and Carol? Don't worry - I won't out you if it is you, but I will come and babysit for a couple of hours for you.

LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:45

Tell your HomeStart person - they will help you more, not take her away!

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:46

Sorry LilRed I dont think I am the person you think I am.

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:46

If you do recognise those names, please don't be scared away. I am not going to out you, report you or anything like that. I will come over and spend some time with you though and help as much as I can.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:46

thanks for the offer of babysitting though I wish I could take you up on it.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:47

you sound like a sweetheart.

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:47

Okay - me jumping to HUGE conclusions

lulumama · 20/03/2007 16:47

sameold....i had severe PND, no-one suggested for a minute taking away my DS..not at all...but offered lots of ways to get better and to be well.....it is something that a lot of depressed mums fear, but it won;t happen

LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:47

Where are you in the country?

LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:48

Again, the Oracle Lulu speaks. I worried about it too, but all I have received (and still do - my DD is ten months) is support and help to cope.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:50

essex.

I am thinking of killing her and then myself. I jus tthink she is miserable and would be happier with me in heaven. I need help. I have never confessed this before.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:51

sorry i shouldnt have said that. forget about it. sorry.

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Dior · 20/03/2007 16:52

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lulumama · 20/03/2007 16:52

why not call the samaritans? or your doc now? you cannot live like this, and help is there....samaritans

LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:53

Sameold - I am nowhere near you, sorry (Worcestershire). Please do not do this to either of you.

You sound extremely depressed. Do you have any friends/relatives you can ask to come to you? Will you call your HomeStart person? Failing that, please call the Samaritans. They will not judge you, but will help you and listen to you.

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sameoldsht · 20/03/2007 16:54

Its ok LilRed even if you were near me I doubt I would have the courage to be honest with you face to face. To the world I try to be the perfect mother. well to her I try to be the perfect mother as well btu she is so miserable.

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LilRedWG · 20/03/2007 16:54

Sameold, you obviously love your daughter immensely. Please call one ofthe contacts suggested below and allow yourself to get better.