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Help! Breakdown, homelessness teen daughter.

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Vstressedtenant · 13/04/2017 19:15

I am experiencing another breakdown. I have called crisis team and they are seeing me tomorrow can't see me earlier.

I'm scared. I may be going into hospital which I haven't before. I don't know what this entails.

My daughter has nowhere to go she is 16. We are a tight unit and have been let down by almost everyone else. Her father hasn't seen her in 5 years. But I suspect that's what everyone will tell us to do. He lives hundreds of miles away so it would mean her leaving school and friends and all she knows and me and I am scared he will turn her against me and I'll never see her again, never have the relationship with her I have now which frankly is the only good thing in my life.

She is an amazing person and doesn't deserve to have to deal with any of this.

I can't stop crying, shaking, can barely breathe.

Can anyone tell me what hospital is like (for mh reasons) what would I be allowed to take in/not allowed as I cannot be without my phone as I cannot be out of touch with my girl.

Can anyone please advise or help? I'm drowning here

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 17:27

Thanks for the tip. Getting assessed later don't want to be admitted because of daughter. Dr I spoke to said unlikely to be admitted if I don't want to be. But I'll be seeing a different dr. Scared

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UnbornMortificado · 14/04/2017 17:45

Seeing a Dr's a good thing, It's a step in the right direction. How have you managed today? when I've been bad in the past I've broke the day down and just concentrated on getting through it an hour at a time.

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 18:05

Half an hour at a time! I've never been this ill. And I promised I swore I wouldn't do this to my baby again and I have!

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 18:06

I want help I just don't want to lose my daughter that'd be the last straw

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UnbornMortificado · 14/04/2017 18:12

It's an illness, an imbalance in the brain, getting help is the right thing to do for you and your DD Flowers

No one can help being ill whether it's physical or mental.

CotswoldStrife · 14/04/2017 18:15

OP, so there is no reason to end your tenancy really - apart from the work that will be done? So you are not homeless, that's one problem less to deal with if you can look at it that way - once the work has been done, it's fine and you can go back. I hope the assessment goes as well as it can for you later.

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 19:05

Cotswold thank you for your considered post. Unfortunately it isn't that simple I wish it were.

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UnbornMortificado · 14/04/2017 19:58

I can understand the not wanting to be outed but if you could give some details even vague ones, someone may be able to help.

Or if anyone is up to date with private rent and landlord advice they could pm.

Jellybean85 · 14/04/2017 20:50

Hey Vstressed how are you doing Flowers

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 20:59

Shaking. I am phobic about strangers in home, certain work being done, I jump at noises, I don't like unexpected visitors. I can't cope with housework at all at the moment even cooking which I enjoy. So more guilt there as daughter been eating cold stuff or at friends or takeaways. I manage a small snack once a day. I try to drink but I forget until I'm gasping/got headache. Some days don't eat more than a packet of crisps.

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UnbornMortificado · 14/04/2017 21:19

Has anything distracted you even slightly? I've heard on the MH boards that adult colouring can be a good distraction technique.

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 21:34

Colouring helps when I'm medium ill if that makes sense? Very little helps completely. But the only thing that really works is overstimulation. Doing 2-3 things with my brain at once - eg tv+playing a game on phone+talkin to someone.

Can't switch brain off.

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 21:36

The good thing about adult colouring is it requires no skill. I can barely draw stick men or a basic tree!

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UnbornMortificado · 14/04/2017 21:42

If you have any milk, hot milk can help with sleep.

I'm not crafty at all either DD2 age four can draw and paint better then me.

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Vstressedtenant · 14/04/2017 23:23

In hotel do hotels do hot milk?

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UnbornMortificado · 14/04/2017 23:28

You can always ask, I don't see why not.

Alwayshungryforcrisps · 14/04/2017 23:37

Are you ok? Did the doctor come?

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Vstressedtenant · 15/04/2017 00:10

Had to go see dr at an out of hours place. Dr on call. Dr was lovely sadly a locum. Given me something to calm me down and going to write a referral to community team (which I am supposed to already be being looked after by but not heard to them for a while). I think saying I need urgent assistance

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NolongerAnxiousCarer · 15/04/2017 00:52

Really glad the Dr was helpful. Do you have an allocated CPN in cmht?

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Vstressedtenant · 15/04/2017 00:53

No last one went to new job not got new one yet

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JustMyLuckUnfortunately · 15/04/2017 07:56

OP is your DD with you at the hotel? What are your plans for today?

Thinking of you both but working today so won't be able to read any updates until this evening

bluejelly · 15/04/2017 10:02

How are you feeling today? Hope a bit better. Your post really stuck a chord as I have a daughter of similar age and previous MH problems. You will get through this and you will get better. Hang in there you are doing all the right things. Flowers

Just to say if my friend's daughter's mum had to go into hospital I'd be more than happy to have her. But foster care also a good option. I'm sure they won't make her go to her dad's, really I'm sure.

erinaceus · 15/04/2017 10:07

Sending hugs Vstressed

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Vstressedtenant · 15/04/2017 10:09

Thank you for the kind thoughts and support. Daughter with me. Have managed a few hours sleep not sure if I should wake her for breakfast or let her sleep

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UnbornMortificado · 15/04/2017 10:33

Pleased you have seen someone Flowers

did the locum check what he's given you doesn't interact with your usual meds?