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Extremely sad news to share

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creamhearts · 13/05/2015 20:13

I'm sorry to have to let you all know that Helen sadly passed away early this morning.

I know that she has posted on Mumsnet for over 10 years, under many different user names, and I'm not sure what they all might be, but this is the user name that is stored on her laptop.

I know that she was not in pain and she had her parents and myself with her.

Its difficult to put into words, but I know that she always loved posting and spending time on these boards, and I know she offered so much to your community, even when she was not at her best.

I hope that I have put this message in the correct section, and if not please move it to the most appropriate area.

With great sadness

Jon ( Helen's husband )

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larahusky · 14/05/2015 20:17

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Coldcabbagestew · 14/05/2015 20:25

Really sad to hear this news. RIP Helen

TangledUpInGin · 14/05/2015 22:14

So very sorry for you Jon. Hopefully Helen is now at peace

TheoriginalLEM · 14/05/2015 22:17

Oh no :( I am so very sorry to read this, your lovely wife was such a caring person but seemed to be in so much pain. I hope that she has found some peace. You must be devestated. I always remember her as fluffydressinggown and she was so kind to me when i was struggling with my own mh issues. She will be missed.

Kampeki · 14/05/2015 22:18

I am so very sorry, Jon. RIP Helen.

Shinyshoes2 · 14/05/2015 22:19

GooodMythicalMorning · 14/05/2015 23:03

Sorry to hear this extremely sad news. I was on the mh threads with her and she was a lovely person. My thoughts are with you and your family.

NanaNina · 14/05/2015 23:58

Me too feeling very sad to hear of Helen's untimely death. I have "known" her via the MH boards for a few years and know how she suffered, yet always managed to reach out to others.

For those who have mentioned it, Helen and Jon didn't have children.

RIP very special lady

Collardove · 15/05/2015 00:05

Jon.

So very sorry for Helen's loss.

I have today been lurking after many months away from Mumsnet. To see this very sad news is so very sad.

She supported me and others on the village thread even through the most troubling of her own times.

I hope you are at peace now dearest Fluffy x

stinkarella123 · 15/05/2015 00:35

So sorry to hear this, I hope that this lovely lady is at peace now. She will be remembered here.

JonBAM · 15/05/2015 01:26

Hi Everyone, this is Jon, Helen's husband, Becca has closed down Helen's old account which I believe is standard practice, and luckily I've managed to get to see the email that she sent to Helen.

I can't believe how kind you have all been, Becca informs me that Helen has been a member of these boards for over 11 years, with various usernames, including as noted creamhearts, fluffydressinggown, she also posted as smurfgirl as well when she was doing her nursing degree, but as she was quite private about what she posted on here, she never liked me to see her username, as in her words i might "sneeking", when in reality, I just respected her privacy to post what she wished.

Clearly I can see that she has either influenced or helped many of you over the years that she has been posting, and I take comfort in your kind words and suggestions.

myself and her parents are in the difficult process of organising her funeral, and will be organising a collection to Hull & East Yorkshire Mind in the hope that others who are struggling with MH issue within the area are able to be helped and supported. I'm not sure what protocols / rules you have about this sort of thing, but if anyone feels they would like to contribute once we have sorted the details, I can post again with some sort of details.

As someone kindly posted above we never had a chance to have any children, although Helen was desperate to have them, and always dreamed of being a mum.

I fully believe that she is now at peace, her family were with her at the end and she finally got the peace and quiet that she desperately wanted in her mind. Its that believe that has got me through this difficult day, but its the memories and loss of what might have happened in the future that brings it all rushing back.

I will keep checking back each night, as while it brings me to tears, everyone kind messages remind me all of the amazing things that Helen did for both her online and real world friends.

Jon

POPGoesTheBandit · 15/05/2015 01:32

So sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 15/05/2015 07:41

Hope you keep posting Jon, if it helps you.

I think if you email MNHQ first about your charity collection, they'll be able to point you in the right direction of how you go about posting it on here. I for one would be happy to contribute - you might need to start a new thread in Bereavement and title it so that it's obvious it's a memorial fund for Helen/creamhearts/fluffy etc., and put the link to your charity page on there - but check first.

Mama1980 · 15/05/2015 07:47

I'm very sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your family at this time.
Sleep sweet Helen

Dansak · 15/05/2015 07:54

Sleep tight Helen. Xx

YonicScrewdriver · 15/05/2015 08:05

Jon, I remember fluffydressinggown's posts very fondly and I'd be happy to contribute to the charity.

for you and Helen's parents.

4got10 · 15/05/2015 12:29

I'd like the opportunity to make a donation in Helens memory. Mind is a very deserving charity.

larahusky · 15/05/2015 13:08

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chockbic · 15/05/2015 13:11

Sorry for your loss.

Justusemyname · 15/05/2015 13:12

How sad. I'm so sorry, Jon.

Loveisashadow · 15/05/2015 16:22

So sorry for your loss.

Pancakeflipper · 15/05/2015 16:46

I am so sad to hear about lovely Fluffy.
She used to talk about your visits Jon when she was in hospital, and her visits home. She loved home. I got the impression your normality and support kept her going.
And even with the hell she was going through, she could find humour.

And I never knew about these colouring books existed for adults until we nagged her one evening to show us her work.

Sometimes I'd just see a title of a thread and know the op was Fluffy. She had her own style.

Lovely genuine person. I know it's the faceless internet but I will miss her.
Thank you Jon for letting us know as she was liked and respected here. Lots of love to you and your family. Be at peace Fluffy, will miss you x

TheoriginalLEM · 15/05/2015 16:48

Do let us know about dontating Jon, that is a lovely idea and i was thinking about a small donation to mind in Helen's memory but it would be better to be able to donate to her local branch or whoever you feel she would like the money to go to.

The one thing that stood out for me about Helen was how she listened and offered comfort to others in similar situations even out her lowest, which is an indication of what a caring and giving person she was because Mental illness sometimes strips us of that capability and the fact she managed to do that speaks volumes about her character.

rightsaidthread · 15/05/2015 16:56

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thatsn0tmyname · 15/05/2015 17:01

I'm really sorry to hear about Helen

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