I cant stand my baby

[drivenmad]

The title says it all really. I am sick to death of all his crying. I do everything in the world to try to make him comfortable and happy and he just cries and cries and moans. He is a miserable person to be around 24/7.

There. I just had to get it off my chest.

not just me then lol lucky for me my ds is now seven years old and I can wash and do most things in peace lol

Drivenmad/Nolongermad - get in touch with HomeStart - they have been a godsend for me. They are a charity who do all sorts of stuff, including home support, but the thing I have used and loved is their PND group.

Basically, once a week I go along and have cups of tea made for me and choccie biscuits provided and get to talk to other Mum's in the same situation, whilst DD is looked after in another room. A CPN and HV also come in and do sessions.

I was really nervous about going and had to be forced to go to the first one by DH, but now I love it. I feel so safe there and feel normal - it's a bit like being on MN but in person (and did I mention choccie biccies )

Anyway, if you are interested, their website is www.home-start.org.uk. My HV referred me, but I think you can refer yourself.

Good luck and hang in there!

Hi all!

LRWG its so funny you said that, I am having a lady from homestart come over for the first time in about 20 mins!! I'm so glad its been so good for you!

popeye123 - I am in Coggeshall, do you know where that is?

jessirobin - I know what you mean, since I have got the sling its great and I know I will miss the cuddles when he gets too big for it! Thankfully thats a long way off though!

Thanks again everyone for posting your support, I've been amazed by how many people have said they could identify with this thread.

Hi there,
Yes i know where you are, I'm near Manningtree - the other side of Colchester. Not exactly on eachothers door step but do shout if you are desperate.
Glad you've got Homestart on the case. Do make sure that they or your HV let you know about any local Mum & Baby groups. I know its hard right now but don't let yourself get too isolated.
The National Childbirth Trust has an Open House out your way, you don't have to be a member and you'll hopefully find that there are lots of Mums in the same boat and even better, some with older children who can help give you the support you desperately need. The group meets on Mondays, call Nicole 01376 564364 for details.

Another group who are useful if you have PND is Crysis - they can also send people round to help you through.
Cry-sis helpline on 08451 228 669 , 7 days a week, 9am-10pm

Good Luck
P

Hi, I have just read your thread and really feel for you. I suffered with PND after my second and I can remember hearing him cry and saying to DS1 - "he's crying again" and just ignoring him.
It took until he was about 7 months old before we started to bond and now at 2.5, he is the most gorgeous child in the world!!
I live in Great Horkesley so could definately offer you a slice of cake and an hour of peace and quiet if you want.
Obviously I understand you wouldn't want a complete stranger to take your baby but maybe I could come over so we could get to know each other.
I am a single mum so would have to bring my boys with me but at least that might give you hope because you will see what sort of relationship you will have one day with your lo.
Let me know if you would like to meet up and we can arrange something.
Lindsey

How did you get on with the lady from HoneStart?

Hi - Read most of this thread then my own DD needed to be held... AGAIN!! I know exactle how oyu are feeling DM - sounds like our first weeks & months - something that REALLY REALLY REALLY helped us though was a visit to a cranial oesteopath (sp??) anyway - it was a free consultation and then £15 a session - After our first visit DD slept fort he first time in her car seat.. for an HOUR!!!!. We were lucky and found a superb CO - she has since seen a number of my friends and their babies and some she doesn't see again - if she thinks she cant help she doesn't book you in again - we went 4 times in total but are going back tomorrow just because dd loves the whole experience so much and cos she has become a little more unsettled again in the last week or so.

I know how you feel - you love your LO soooo bloody much and when all they do is howl...well you just want to join in as well!!!

Hope things have/are improving for you and that you are getting a break when things get too much.

Take care

TW
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Drivenmad I went through the very same situation with dd. Got so bad me and DP would take turns to go out in the car alone just for a drive. It will get better. DD did not settle until 11 months though felt I never really knew her before then. I still remember my ears ringing with pain to the sound of her crying. I so feel for you but your not alone with this as much as you think you are.

Early days still for us but she really is showing signs of improvement.