I think some of it is done with good intention, but as DT pointed out yesterday, friend #1 is more interested in her needs than mine and friend #2 has likely been told to contact me by friend #1
Caulk, friend #2 is the one I thought you might know. I'll text her, as I feel bad just ignoring her, but I'd like to meet her without friend #1, who is just pushy. Meh