Issues at the interface of Mavis, community-based psychiatric services and the mentally normal

[Mitchy1nge]

I think that covers us all?

Morning, I hope the great sudocrem cleanup is going ok and that Mitchy's running for all she's worth.

Ugh, bloody sudocrem. It was actually the primary reason I decided it was a good idea if Mavis went home before midnight.

She and DP left in the car (no doubt now coated in a thin layer of nappy rash cream) and I then fell asleep on the sofa, and, it turns out, after a whole awkward evening of refusing to be left alone with DP for a moment, she leapt on him at her flat and he was only too happy to oblige.

I stopped wanting any of this about a week ago, especially as Mavis isn't really into me and I was just getting ignored, but it turns out I'm more upset by stuff going on when I'm not there at all.

How did the dinner party you went to go mp?

My life was going along quite smoothly until really quite recently I'm not sure why I am doing any of this any more. Smoking stuff, random sex... it's not really very me. Wish it would all go away.

The party went ok thanks. The other two couples who were there were very nice. That had very good wine which was a shame as I was driving. Hot home around 1ish. DP had rather a lot of wine and is still in bed. I'm tackling the laundry mountain.

Sorry about all the typos!

I can understand why you would be upset at last nights goings on. Perhaps it would be better if you didn't see Mavis for a while.

DP is feeling very apologetic and has been desperate to cuddle all night, and then a Remembrance service started outside my bedroom window, so I feel guilty and have to spend today trying to make DP feel better and pretending not to be an evil heartless bitch for trying to sleep through the Remembrance. Oh gods.

Poor guy. I didn't realise it would bother me that much if they did stuff together alone, and now they have, I'm realising it does bother me and now poor DP feels bad.

Sounds like a great evening - so annoying that someone has to drive, though.

Do you get trouble from the DVLA? I've only recently got off a restricted licence that I had for MH reasons.

I have a medical investigation ongoing with the DVLA after my last hospital stay. I'm shitting myself that they'll revoke my licence. What sort of restriction did you have?

Mavis has big problems with people dropping out of her life and I think would get really quite upset if i tried to reduce contact. She is always telling me that she always assumes the moment a woman has any difference of opinion or disagreement with her, that the woman will cut her off like her mother supposedly has a habit of doing So I don't want to do anything to make Mavis feel I'm dropping her. But at the same time I'd quite like her to stop lusting after my boyfriend.

Hmm, that's quite a difficult situation. I don't know that I have any useful advice.

Three year restricted licence - free renewals every three years and a big form to fill in. A bit of a pain, but I had these total blanking-out episodes during depression where I couldn't move or talk, and they still let me keep my licence.

That's not too bad as restrictions go. I'd be happy enough with that. My psych says she's signed me off as fit to drive. And I've been merrily driving round since I got of hospital. I just haven't heard anything from the DVLA which is causing me a bit of panic. Losing my licence would be a disaster given where I live.

Useful advice isn't really something I'm expecting anyone to be able to give I just needed to get the confusion/frustration out

Good luck with the DVLA. I've always thought it so cruel that at the very point when you're starting to get better and get back into normal everyday life, the DVLA come along saying "Hang on, we're not convinced about you yet." I know why it's necessary, but it's hard.

you have to look after yourself first Enpo, friends can come and go (I say this as someone very dependent on my networks of friends)

race was much more fun than expected, although have already seen some photos and look actually fat thanks (I hope) to all my layers and really really proud of friend, her first ever race and 7 miles is quite far

am restricted too, annual (sometimes goes up to 3 years) is a stupid system because when disqualified am often not mentally well enough to give a fuck about the legalities and have usually driven anyway

Good luck with them. I guess you'll probably be allowed to keep driving but they do keep you on tenterhooks for a while

So glad you had fun despite lack of sleep Mitch

I'm on a regular licence now

Oh and HURRAH for your friend too Mitch

one of my fonder hospital memories is giving patients driving lessons round the grounds (old victorian asylum, beautiful setting plus golf course - ideal!)

and going to nearest dealer and buying a nice new convertible with someone else's credit card, in my pyjamas, and test driving it in bare feet while smiling at all the police (suffolk show) while disqualified

Eep.

It does sound fun, but the aftermath, the aftermath!

It was ok. I kept the car for three years and traded it in for a nicer one. It wasn't quite as bad as it sounds because they gave me a lot for my old one, without looking at it (it had kind of seized up during lengthy inpatient stay)

is not my fault there were about 12 car dealerships so close to the mental hospital is it

what did they think would happen?

Good point.

What is it about manic people and cars? Its's like some kind of magnetic attraction