Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Mental health

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6

Original poster

He won't stop crying and I don't want him anymore.

150 replies

2Babies0Bumps · 04/10/2006 12:27

My 4 week old for the last week just screams all day long and I am not exagerating. It is constant and it is pushing me to the edge.
I already have a toddler to contend with.
Both pregs were planned and wanted.
If someone was to come and take him, I wouldn't care.
Right now he is screaming unconsolably and I just want to walk out the door with my firstborn and never come back.
Please help me.
I can't be bothered to change my name as you can all see.

OP posts:

intergalacticwalrus · 04/10/2006 13:44

You aren't that far! It's about a 45 min drive from me. email me if you like, even if it's just to chat to someone who is in the same position as you!

michelleodoherty81 at hotmail dot com

QuootieSpookypie · 04/10/2006 13:44

im in Berkshire, but east and dont drive so Im afraid I cant offer much support

poppiesinaline · 04/10/2006 13:47

intergalacticwalrus > Dont suppose you used to live in Surrey did you???

beckybrastraps · 04/10/2006 13:48

Ds (my first) was a screamer. All the time. I would pick him up and hold him, walk around and he would still yell. He'd feed, then carry on yelling. I was just frantic to begin with because I couldn't work out if there was something wrong, and everyone said to me "you'll know if there's something wrong because you're his mum" and I was made even MORE frantic by that, because I has no idea at all.

And then my mum said that some babies just cry. My sister was the same. And, bizarrely, I did start to feel better about it after that. I would still pick him up, but I would sit and watch the television with subtitles on (couldn't hear over the yelling) and just cuddle him. I didn't feel detached from HIM exactly, but I did seem to switch off from the crying. I'm too this day fairly immune to crying babies (poor dd!).

He grew out of it of course, and dd was the complete opposite. I really feel for you with an older one as well.

SoupDragon · 04/10/2006 13:50

Can't get to Swindon but I could sew you a fleece pouch sling if you like

intergalacticwalrus · 04/10/2006 13:50

No poppies, I am a Brummie lass who moved to Bath.

Don't tell me there's another one of me around!!!

Original poster

2Babies0Bumps · 04/10/2006 13:59

that would be lovely soupy if it is not too much trouble? i cant sew to save my life.
the better baby one i have seems to have folds of fabric everywhere and all over the shop. yours would be simpler yes?

OP posts:

SoupDragon · 04/10/2006 14:02

The Coorie is basicaly a wide sash. You fold it in half into a narrow sash, put it on like a sash and slide the baby into the pouch it makes just like a hammock.

I've got a extra cheap Ikea fleece throw upstairs, I'll chop it up this evening and sew the single seam it take to make a sling

Email me on iamsoupdragon at blueyonder dot co dot uk

MsBionic · 04/10/2006 14:04

I'm not sure if this will help but have you consided foam earplugs? They dull sound rather that take it away. Shrill screaming really does hit nerves so this might dampen them enough to cope...

NastyNemo666 · 04/10/2006 14:07

not read posts but firstly lots of hugs...my DD was a crying baby..constantly screamed and DS was 2.2yrs. Turned out the poor mite had reflux which was why she cried so much due to the pain she was in..I honestly just thought she was a horrible wailing baby. I basically ended up doing everything with DD in a sling and now at 9mths old she is quite a happy content little soul despite some of the illness' she has had. I think when you first have your second it feels very daunting even more so than first due having that toddler to look after at the same time instead of just concentrating on a baby. Also no matter how much you dont intend to you do compare especially if your first like my ds was a very happy baby. It does get better believe me otherwise I wouldnt be pg with no.3

poppiesinaline · 04/10/2006 14:07

yes intergalactic there must be!!!! i went to school with someone with the same name as you

justaphase · 04/10/2006 14:20

the cranial thing costs different depending on where you are. The one where I took my ds is a charity si you don't have to pay anything... but they tell you it costs them £45 to treat each child (this is ober 3 sessions usually).

pol26 · 04/10/2006 14:29

2b0b- I hope you're ok... I know how bad it can get with a screamy baby and a toddler to contend with. Also I know how bad breast feeding can be because you never gauge how much they have had to know if they are 'full'.

Not to say you should but I stopped breast feeding and started mixed feeding. I do one 6oz feed a day for DS and he is four weeks tomorrow. He is on sma white too as he was wanting a feed every hour and a half. We also had a big dilema with a dummy and he now has one. I have given him a cherry teat dummy until he can suck it and keep it in... because with the orthodontic teats he can't keep it in. He is far far more contented than he was pre- dummy, mixed feeds etc... But around 3pm we have bad colic until probably about 9pm. Even in the day he can go from being sound asleep to screaming and most mornings until 1/2pm he doesn't sleep and is unsettled.

I hope that you are ok and feeling abit better.

yoyo · 04/10/2006 14:31

DD2 was just like this. Gained weight very slowly, took ages to feed and screamed and screamed day and night. I found the only thing to do was to strap her into the sling (wilkinet) and just get on with things. Keeping busy definitely kept me sane. I hoovered like a madwoman just to drown ouit the noise sometimes and when it got really bad I would put her in her pram and put her in the garden under a tree (checking on her often obviously). It seemed to calm her and I often played in the garden with DD1 at the same time. There were days when I was pleading with her to be quiet and almost throwing her at DH when he walked in from work. I even rang MIL once shouting "just bloody listen to her" (I never swear in front of MIL so must have been bad!). I can't honestly say when things improved they just did very gradually. My HV was very sympathetic and called often without seeming to interfere.
Try to be calm and take all offers of help.Put him in another room if that helps even just to have a cup of tea. He will be fine. Ask your HV if they run baby massage classes - a friend's DD was always calmed with massage (didn't work for mine). What about bathing him? Does that calm him? It is a horrible time but you will get through it.

compo · 04/10/2006 14:38

2B0B - so sorry to hear you're going through this. Don't forget to come and chat on the September 2006 babies thread as we're all going through pretty much the same thing too. {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}

pol26 · 04/10/2006 20:33

Still thinking of you. Hope things have been better this afternoon and hoping that you have some support from your other half.

littlepiggie · 04/10/2006 20:36

You poor girl, ds is 24 weeks and we have had a realy bad time, at 2 weeks he started screaming none stop, some times 5 hours without a break, sleep for a couple of hours then start again. dh works long hours and my family are an hours drive. I got to the point where i'd had enough, i walked out and left him with dh and just drove, did not know wherre i was going, would not answer my phone, i just needed to get away.
I took him to gp over and over again and to the hv, they made me feel like i was been silly. One gp said 'i will show you how to know when there really is something wrong' In the end about a month ago after asking for help on mn, i went to my gp (about 10 different ones at surgery) and said i have had enough of been fobbed off, there is something wrong with him. Turned out to be reflux.
Second the ear pluggs, if i am getting him dressed and he starts, i put them in as i know he is screaming, why do i need to hear it, and be left with ringing ears (only go to that point a few times)

kittywits · 04/10/2006 21:27

oh poor you, big hugs. My first born was like that. I remember walking through town pushing him in his pram and he just screamed and screamed and screamed and I cried and cried. he was throughly miserable for the ist 4 months of his life and then he was okay. can you get someone to look after him, take him out for a walk so that you can get some peace? Did he have a dificult birth? In retrospect I think that ds1 had colic and headaches. He was a very jumpy baby.
Get some help so that you get some peace, poor you, it will stop, hang on to that.

FrankenZooey · 04/10/2006 21:29

Haven't any answers but just wanted to add support for you. I wish I could do something to help.

crayon · 05/10/2006 03:03

Another one for cranial osteopathy here. I used to have this with DS1 - only it was for 5 hours in the night - sheer hell.

It really worked for us, literally overnight.

hth

Crayon

MrsApronstrings · 05/10/2006 03:29

Haven't read whole thread - but wanted to send you support and sympathy - my no2 did this for 11 months -had never ever slept more than 4 hours - and then had a miracle personality change right when i had had just about as much as I could take. We had baby massage and cranial osteopathy ( helped for a couple of hours following the session - couldn't afford much)but nothing made a substatial difference.
It was the hardest time of my life i think(harder than now with 4 of them) - my friends were fab. and at toddler groups would just take him away and walk around the room (or carpark) for me. Hope you have some friends or family who can help. It wont last forever, it really wont - keep posting for support

megandsoph · 05/10/2006 08:09

hi ya babies

Please please please can you try this. put wee one in the swing or even in crib with the hoover switched on next to him and just leave the hoover for five mins switched on. I used this with dd2 she was a persistant screamer, sounds just like your wee man. It really really worked the white noise.

Hope your feeling better soon flower.

lori21 · 05/10/2006 09:18

I agree with megandsoph my lo just would not sleep and cried all the time except when I was bf him. I thought I was useless as I believed it was my breasts that were at fault then i worked out that it was the lack of sleep so now I put him in a bouncy chair (mine has a vibrating setting and a sounds of the sea setting which I likes) I rock him and put on the hoover. I persist with this for as long as it takes. It must be so hard with a toddler as well. I was at my wits end with just one so can't imagine what it is like wiht two. I'm afraid we have just moved out of Wiltshire or I would be round like a shot.

chester30 · 05/10/2006 09:18

2babies0bumps i am in wilts. had trouble with my dd too.

EllieHsMum · 05/10/2006 09:37

Dear 2Babies

I had same with my wee baby when she was very small(now 19 weeks) Her colic would be at its worst late afternoon,early evening & Night time. We then tried Cranial Massage at the Veralumn Clinic, St ALbans £45 per session. Its the best money I have very spent! My daughters wind was so bad that when she pumped/farted it was so loud I am sure people thought it was me! You may need a couple of session, but its worth a try.
Good luck
Lisa & Ellie.x.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6